raising children based on star signs

I have three aries children all born in april the 3rd the 7th and the 11th and I'm about to have what looks like a fourth aries child born in late march, my problem is I just cant handle them at all, I'm a capricorn and find this so called fun loving free spirited sign to be an absolute nightmare! they show me, our home and their own things zero respect to the point of destroying things and on several occasions my youngest daughter middle child has spit on me they hit me and scream at me and tell me they are allowed to do so, they never give me any personal space and refer to me as their servant its getting to the point that I'm starting to hate my own children as people, I love them and jump to their defense if I think they are in physical danger but sometimes I dont think they really deserve my backup but give it anyway out of a natural reaction as a mother, any advice on how to just go with it instead of expecting this obvious self involved sign to follow the simplest of house rules like put your shoes on the shoe rack please usually met with a screaming ok or no you do it!, I might mention I spent ALL my teenage years babysitting and can handle all my nieces and cousins kids well but my own are beyond me I just dont understand them

😢 I'm sorry. My mom is Aries sun and truly I do love her, she has strengths and positive attributes of course, but.... she is more than enough Aries child for me, if you know what I'm sayin'.

I have an Aries older brother and younger sister. Though I didn't raise them they attempted to boss me around. My older brother was successful, as he was a idol for me growing up, until I got tired of him, punched him in the mouth and laid him out. He hasn't tried to get physical with me again. Do you spank your children? It might help them to know who is physically in control of your relationship.

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Posted by impressmee
ONLY SAG. parents can handle Aries children in my opinion.
My mom is a Sag with a Taurus moon.
I thought she was psychopath.
I couldn't even breathe the wrong way.

I'm not sure whether to laugh at this (Aries Sun) or empathise (Scorp Moon).

I don't know but disrespect, untidiness, bad grades, nah. Never happened in my mother??s house without consequences and it was five of us. I didn't have time to get in trouble. She kept our schedule tight. But, it really made me and my siblings wonder about her.

I think I realize my mother have feelings for another human being when I gave birth to my daughter, now she has grand kids she is the sweetest person ever. Before then, nah.

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Daaang..

I imagine with that many kids, you'd have to run the

schedule like that lest you be overwhelmed like the OP.

Kids know when you've lost control... and one thing I

learned working with pre-schoolers (other than I never

want to do it again) is that they thrive under routine

and consistency.

There can be tons of variety within that routine-- and

they need time to just PLAY-- but it works.

Lose your cool, though, and you're finished. lol

Posted by jemimah81
I have three aries children all born in april the 3rd the 7th and the 11th and I'm about to have what looks like a fourth aries child born in late march, my problem is I just cant handle them at all, I'm a capricorn and find this so called fun loving free spirited sign to be an absolute nightmare! they show me, our home and their own things zero respect to the point of destroying things and on several occasions my youngest daughter middle child has spit on me they hit me and scream at me and tell me they are allowed to do so, they never give me any personal space and refer to me as their servant its getting to the point that I'm starting to hate my own children as people, I love them and jump to their defense if I think they are in physical danger but sometimes I dont think they really deserve my backup but give it anyway out of a natural reaction as a mother, any advice on how to just go with it instead of expecting this obvious self involved sign to follow the simplest of house rules like put your shoes on the shoe rack please usually met with a screaming ok or no you do it!, I might mention I spent ALL my teenage years babysitting and can handle all my nieces and cousins kids well but my own are beyond me I just dont understand them

I have an aries son. He's a teenager. You HAVE to put aries in their place. They (all children, not just aries) need to be put in their place. Call out your cap side. Be rude, be blunt, mean what you say. DO NOT tolerate this behavior. DO NOT blame it on their sign. They are the children. You are the mother. Teach them to respect you. Aries will run on you if you let them. Do NOT let this happen. They will respect you more if you call them out on their bullshit and stick to your guns. Be consistent, follow through with punishment. Aries children need to learn that they can NOT have temper tantrum and get away with it. They need to learn to respect. Mostly, they need to learn how to deal with their aggression and how to treat others. They can not learn going through life that they can have their outbursts and people are okay with it. They have to learn how to control their anger issues. You are a cap for God's sake. You can nip this in the bud. Now. Must be now. Let them know in no uncertain terms that this behavior will result in this. FOLLOW THROUGH!!!! Most important.

For instance, my aries son threw a temp

temper tantrum in the store when he was three. He threw down in the floor throwing a fit. I left him there, went to the next aisle. Soon he came running along behind me sweet as pie. His tantrum didn't work. As a teen, he went off on an angry hissy fit, I ignored him. Gave the famous cap shield and gave him the cold shoulder and ignored him again. He couldn't stand it. Of course, I let it go on longer than necessary, but he came up to me all cuddly and apologetically. I then explained to him how his behavior was not necessary, wrong and explained how he should respond and treat people. It won't happen overnight, but talking to was the best way. He has done so much better in handling his issues.

Posted by LittleStar
The Pisces two kids are both Virgos and so is mine. We are all mutable.

Ahh, yeah. THAT was really helpful.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
It will take a lot of coordination on your part, for sure.

I would make things into a game or a competition as much as I can. I think you can get indirectly get them to follow rules that way.

As a capricorn, that might be taxing for you but you have to look at the world through their eyes at times to keep everything organised and on task.

For example.....putting the shoes away......

make it a competition every day....with all three......who can do it the fastest? who can do it the neatest? who can do it without being told? and offer 'treat's or extra incentives for the 'winner'.

sure, at first you'll get the other two brooding, but only for a moment, until they get into a routine....and then they will all be racing to 'outdo' the other.

just my two pence.

Ahhh, get the competition factor working for you. Not a bad idea!!! Aries are VERY competitive.

Posted by impressmee
ONLY SAG. parents can handle Aries children in my opinion.
My mom is a Sag with a Taurus moon.
I thought she was psychopath.
I couldn't even breathe the wrong way.

My mom is a Sag and my dad is an Aries. My mom handles my dad like nobodies business.

And I'm just saying, if my child spit in my face, I would slap the shit out of theirs. Establish a hierarchy. They're going to have to learn that the heirarchy is a fact of life. Might as well learn young.

But, don't forget to praise when they do well. Aries thrive on praise. Much like us caps do.

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Posted by FuzzaMuzza7
I have little experience with kids but i think you need to take a stand and show them that you're not putting up with their crap, you are the parent and if you raise them up believing that they can do whatever the world will tear them all apart

The problem is that I think typically young Aries don't like someone telling them what to do. The more someone does, the more they play devil's advocate ... UNTIL they can see for themselves the value of the advice given to them.

Aries will change when they can understand the reason and they have experienced it firsthand. It's hard for them to change, just because somebody told them to.

IMO 🙂

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And this is why I discuss issues with my son. I try to calmly express exactly WHY his behavior is not appropriate.

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Posted by FuzzaMuzza7
I have little experience with kids but i think you need to take a stand and show them that you're not putting up with their crap, you are the parent and if you raise them up believing that they can do whatever the world will tear them all apart

The problem is that I think typically young Aries don't like someone telling them what to do. The more someone does, the more they play devil's advocate ... UNTIL they can see for themselves the value of the advice given to them.

Aries will change when they can understand the reason and they have experienced it firsthand. It's hard for them to change, just because somebody told them to.

IMO 🙂

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Exactly.

Posted by truecap
temper tantrum in the store when he was three. He threw down in the floor throwing a fit. I left him there, went to the next aisle. Soon he came running along behind me sweet as pie. His tantrum didn't work. As a teen, he went off on an angry hissy fit, I ignored him. Gave the famous cap shield and gave him the cold shoulder and ignored him again. He couldn't stand it. Of course, I let it go on longer than necessary, but he came up to me all cuddly and apologetically. I then explained to him how his behavior was not necessary, wrong and explained how he should respond and treat people. It won't happen overnight, but talking to was the best way. He has done so much better in handling his issues.

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This too.

Ignoring does under anybody's skin. I've done it more than once. It worked.

Respect and following through on punishment is huge. That was the issue a few of the Caps I've known had. They wanted to be friends and equals more than parents (from their kids perspective).
If you have clear boundaries you will have personal space. If you stand your ground you'll have respect

Posted by impressmee
ONLY SAG. parents can handle Aries children in my opinion.
My mom is a Sag with a Taurus moon.
I thought she was psychopath.
I couldn't even breathe the wrong way.

I had a Scorpio dad (Taurus moon) and Pisces mom to make me feel this way. My dad was anything but subtle when upset

I would consider keeping your kids creative after school or like someone else mentioned sports, Aries folk are supposed to be naturally athletic with abundant energy to burn so maybe sign them up for karate/dancing or something that teaches discipline. Its a well known fact that if an Aries person isn't expressing themselves creatively they will pretty much destroy everything around them so give them a chance to be creators and give them a wall to paint something on.

You seriously need to sort that spitting business out because I would gutter stomp my child if they ever did that to me, mind you I would never let it get to that.

I'm not a violent person and I have no intention of smacking my kids but I know how assert my presence and change my energy so its noticeable and is always effective its a technique I call silent rage lol.

My mums dogs bark all the time and she just yells and them telling them to stop all the time and she doesn't even realise that they are barking at dogs that she can't even hear in the distance and they think that she's barking with them. If I am sitting next to them and they bark at the window and I'm annoyed I just turn to them and turn on my glare and they stop immediately, but its something you can't fake and its something kids pick up on too and it confuses them because they know somethings wrong and their instincts pick up on it but you're not yelling and telling them what they're doing wrong but its that look that instantly tells them to stop what they're doing then and there.

I think what it all boils down to is you and what you're teaching them and your style of parenting, don't beat yourself up and don't be down just see it as an opportunity to understand your kids and for yourself to develop. Go get some Reiki done to you and get your chakras aligned (very important) its like surgery for the soul and then just love your kids because it all comes from you.

Posted by Rambunctious76
Good lords....and I thought having a mother/daughter Aries combo was a nightmare...sheesh.

Indeed, I thought also having a mother/brother Aries combo was harder to deal with.

But I think if you have some considerate Aries/Fire in you, you can cope it somehow.