Scorpio Woman with Aries Man...who has disappeared

I need some advice...with no judgements please! I'm a scorpio and have been seeing an Aries man since April. Met him last fall on my bday and really liked him, but he had a gf and I was really disappointed. He got in touch with me again for his birthday in April and we started talking. Still with the gf, very unhappy. They met at 19 and got pregnant 3mos later and have been together ever since, never married. He sleeps on the couch and they basically co-exist in the same house. We talked a lot about it since I was in a similar marriage and am now divorced. I tried to stay away from him (not very hard mind you) as I really liked him and I knew things would go father than talking. Well 4mos later...we're in a full-blown affair. He says he loves me and that he wants to spend his life with me. We spent a whole week together when his gf went away and we talked for hrs about our future and stuff. Well, when she got home,she came out and asked him what was wrong and he said he was moving out. That was Aug. 10th. He spent most of the weekend with me and then was going to tell his parents and their kids on Sunday. I was heatbroken for him as I had to do the same thing 6yrs ago and it was horrible but let him know that I would be there if he needed me. He txted me Monday to say he was still alive and that he loved me and it's good I will talk with you tomorrow. Tuesday He just answered my txt of "I miss you" with "Me too". By Wednesday I was going crazy. I had no idea what had happened with his family so I asked him to please talk to me and that I was trying to be strong but it was so hard no knowing what was happening. He said "I am sorry. I am trying to get my life together. I love you too." I told him that I was part of his life too and that he couldn't just shut me out and I was going crazy being in the dark. He replied "Right now I feel I have to do this on my own. Please bear with me" I kind of freaked out and asked for how long. He just said "Right now is not the time. I am working". That is the last thing he said to me on Wed. I did apologize later that night and said I understood how hard it was since I went through it and that I loved him very much and missed him and to not forget about me. I haven't heard from his since and I txtd him tonight but he didn't answer...do you think he's gone for good and just really needs a lot of time to figure things out. I truly beleive him when he looks me in the eye and says he loves me...

Scorpio/Aries is a tough combo. You need comfort and closeness, which is why you're pestering (don't mean to be derogatory, but you are) him and can't bear not being a part of his thought process. It's nothing wrong with you, it's simply the way you're wired.

Aries boy, on the other hand, is very much an independent person. He does things on his own, by his own power and drive, and doesn't need that support you're so desperate to give him.

He needs to do this on his own, to figure things out in his own way. He isn't pushing you away because he doesn't love you, so don't get angry or hurt over his distance. Be patient, be brave, and be there for him when he comes back to you.

*** wonders how many female friends you still have after they all found out you can' be trusted with another woman's man ***

1.) unless your a fly on their wall 24/7 than you have no idea what is really going on in their house. it may be the greatest relationship ever and your just the jumpoff

2.) since your playing the jumpoff role ( i am playing this role as well) you can have no expectations for anything with this guy. you can demand deadlines, you cant do check ups, you cant ask him where he is and whats going on.

3.) aries men and women fall in and out of love quickly. he may be seeing more than a few women on the side. come one, you cant be the only woman who finds him attractive.



if u want to play the jump off role, go for it, just dont expect valentines day. that day is reserved for the real girlfriend.

Posted by amysue99

Still with the gf, very unhappy.

He sleeps on the couch and they basically co-exist in the same house.

Of course, that is what you are being told, otherwise, if he told you he was happy and in the bed every night ... then your legs might not open, and he probably didn't want to be bothered to have to work it, when you obviously were waiting for justification.

Posted by amysue99

We spent a whole week together when his gf went away

Why wait until girlfriend goes away for a whole week. If he's sleeping on couch (as you believe), then what difference does it make whether girlfriend is in town or out of.

Let me guess .... you went to their place and fucked him in her territory. That's why you even mention her being out of town, because otherwise, her being out of town would have no meaning to your relationship with him.

Posted by amysue99

.... she came out and asked him what was wrong and he said he was moving out.

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So, him sleeping on the couch (as you so believe) wasn't a clue to her that something is wrong with him. So, you expect us to believe that she thought he was perfectly fine all those nights sleeping on the couch?



Keeping in mind here that everything you say about her and him is second hand information = being whatever he decides to tell you. It's obvious to me that you're not going to have enough sense to look at the whole forest, and so will react to each tree as you happen upon it.

Posted by xxnightbynight
As an Aries FEMALE... I know that we need love, and attention too... but don't smother him. We're honest, and devoted. It's possible he's trying to work things out with his baby's mother. - We're loyal to the ones who are loyal to us. - He may love you, but that's still the mother of his children. Just be patient, if he misses you, he will DEFINETELY come back around.

yeah when she falls back into rotation; he'll be back.