StillHaveLove
@StillHaveLove
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What would Posess a Man to be so cold?
Well here's the problem...In his mind, he might believe that it's possible to cheat on, betray & step on someone & still call it love. Kind of like how we as children put our parents through hell, but if anyone ever tried to make a joke about that same parent, we'd go crazy & swear up & down our parents were our hereos.
And in your mind, you might believe that love doesn't hurt & that it's physically & emotionally impossible to lie to, cheat on & emotionally & physically betray your partner & still be able to say AND mean "I love you."
If your views on what true love IS are different, then that's a problem. The love that you believe in might have limits, boundaries & "do's" and "don'ts." When you first meet a man, one of the first things on your agenda should be in getting to get him to tell the truth about how he really views what love is (that's why they tell you to ask a man why his last relationships ended b/c if he cheated on them all but still claimed that he loved them, that no that doesn't mean that he's a cold hearted man, that just means that he's got a different def. of love than you or those in his past did).
And secondly, lots of men will buy a woman a house, cars, give them expensive gifts & basically everything of material worth b/c it doesn't mean anything other than what a pimp might give his prostitute or what a sugar daddy might give his F buddy. Stop trying to figure out what his worth is to you. Instead, find out your self-worth from your own heart & from your own self-esteem. Do I think he's cold hearted b/c he can cheat so many times & appear to have no guilt? No, b/c half of that is happening b/c somewhere a long the line 50% of him got the impression that he could get away with it. Would you rob a bank if you knew you would never get caught? I'm sure you would. And that's exactly what he's doing. Sure, he's taking the risk of getting caught & losing you, but don't EVER think that a man didn't take those risks into consideration when he decided to go ahead & betray you.
And in your mind, you might believe that love doesn't hurt & that it's physically & emotionally impossible to lie to, cheat on & emotionally & physically betray your partner & still be able to say AND mean "I love you."
If your views on what true love IS are different, then that's a problem. The love that you believe in might have limits, boundaries & "do's" and "don'ts." When you first meet a man, one of the first things on your agenda should be in getting to get him to tell the truth about how he really views what love is (that's why they tell you to ask a man why his last relationships ended b/c if he cheated on them all but still claimed that he loved them, that no that doesn't mean that he's a cold hearted man, that just means that he's got a different def. of love than you or those in his past did).
And secondly, lots of men will buy a woman a house, cars, give them expensive gifts & basically everything of material worth b/c it doesn't mean anything other than what a pimp might give his prostitute or what a sugar daddy might give his F buddy. Stop trying to figure out what his worth is to you. Instead, find out your self-worth from your own heart & from your own self-esteem. Do I think he's cold hearted b/c he can cheat so many times & appear to have no guilt? No, b/c half of that is happening b/c somewhere a long the line 50% of him got the impression that he could get away with it. Would you rob a bank if you knew you would never get caught? I'm sure you would. And that's exactly what he's doing. Sure, he's taking the risk of getting caught & losing you, but don't EVER think that a man didn't take those risks into consideration when he decided to go ahead & betray you.
What would make a man live 3 different lives? The answers are simple.
1. He's with a woman that took to long to notice or call him out on his 3 different lives. Keep in mind, at one point in time, before he decided to pick up another life, he thought about it all & convinced himself that losing you was worth it to whatever else he was eagerly investing his timie & body in/with. And b/c you might've given him the impression that you were the bank that he could rob, not get caught & yet still enjoy all the benefits afterwards, of course he took advantage of that opportunity. Men see cheating as an opportunity, verus women see it as a last-resort.
2. This man doesn't love any of the women he's dealing with, which is why it's so easy for him to manipulate, hurt, lie to & betray all of you. You can be the best woman in the world for him, it won't matter. If a man is content in doing his dirty work (behind OR in front of your back), he will never blaim himself for it. He will always blaim the woman who probably knew the whole time it was going on, but just pretended not to see it. And in that case, once your man can spot that you are willing to push away your own intuition & own dignity for him, he will lose respect for you, thus I don't know why we get suprised when he SHOWS us just HOW MUCH respect he's lost for us (cheating, living different lives).
3. This man might still be emotionally unavailable b/c of another woman in his past. He might be like how high school boys get after their heart gets broken for the first time. Instead of dealing with the heartbreak & maturing from it, they decide to go down the other road & intentionally hurt every woman that allows them into their life. And unfortunately, men like this will hurt even the women that they know are good women.
1. He's with a woman that took to long to notice or call him out on his 3 different lives. Keep in mind, at one point in time, before he decided to pick up another life, he thought about it all & convinced himself that losing you was worth it to whatever else he was eagerly investing his timie & body in/with. And b/c you might've given him the impression that you were the bank that he could rob, not get caught & yet still enjoy all the benefits afterwards, of course he took advantage of that opportunity. Men see cheating as an opportunity, verus women see it as a last-resort.
2. This man doesn't love any of the women he's dealing with, which is why it's so easy for him to manipulate, hurt, lie to & betray all of you. You can be the best woman in the world for him, it won't matter. If a man is content in doing his dirty work (behind OR in front of your back), he will never blaim himself for it. He will always blaim the woman who probably knew the whole time it was going on, but just pretended not to see it. And in that case, once your man can spot that you are willing to push away your own intuition & own dignity for him, he will lose respect for you, thus I don't know why we get suprised when he SHOWS us just HOW MUCH respect he's lost for us (cheating, living different lives).
3. This man might still be emotionally unavailable b/c of another woman in his past. He might be like how high school boys get after their heart gets broken for the first time. Instead of dealing with the heartbreak & maturing from it, they decide to go down the other road & intentionally hurt every woman that allows them into their life. And unfortunately, men like this will hurt even the women that they know are good women.
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