a friction between a cancer man and a scorpio woman

Hi All,

Im a scorpion woman who is seeing a cancer guy. We used to date 6 years ago when he was working in my country (he was the one who initiated and ended everything). In 2014 i was being sent for work to his country and 6 months ago (after 2 years living here) we reconnected again (i was initiating it) and now its been 4 months of us seeing each other. There are several red flags in my situation ;

1. Ive never been to his place since we started seeing each other...fyi i dont have a car, he told me he doesnt mind driving for 3 hours to my place rather than me taking multiple public transports to his place?

Normally he would come and see me every 2 or 3 weeks.

2. We are going to see a concert in Germany and he bought the flight ticket and only let me know after he bought the ticket...my logic is we are going to the concert together, aren't we supposed to buy the flight ticket together?

So his logic is...maybe i want to check from the nearest airport rather than go from the same airport.

3. Today he is texting me and told me he is in Oman for holiday till Sunday. He did tell me he was planning to go there, but i didnt know...everything is confirmed.

So i lashed out..saying that i am disappointed, it Germany's flight ticket all over again, and i also said..guess im just your treetrunk buddy (followed by wishing him to have a wonderful trip), i told him i dont mean to ruin his day but that just how i feel.

4. He is not the type of guy who would call or text everyday. But im trying to be patient, so ill just be quite most of the time,after 1 or 2 days of no communication, most of the time he will initiate the conversation, which is good, but this often make me refrain myself from telling him about my day, it feels unnatural. Im not clingy...but id really appreciate a daily conversation with the person that im dating.

5. My contract will finish soon so i might have to go back to my country soon, so last November he told me he already went to few job interviews in my country, but really all of his actions...makes me feel like im just a treetrunk buddy.

I really dont know what to do, the fact that i like him more than he does is not helping at all. Please help me, what should i do?

1. Not a red flag. It is simply more convenient for him to come to you since you don't have transportation of your own. If you had your own means to go to him, and he avoids it like the plague and filling your head with excuses; that would be a red flag.

2. Not a red flag. He wanted to surprise you, and you were in his every thought when he purchased those tickets.

3. I don't know where Oman is, but I am guessing it isn't anywhere close to you based off of your reaction. I feel you may have overreacted here, and if the case, is a red flag for him.

4. That's the Scorpio in you, but also understandable if distance separates you. This is simply a matter of communication, and you should express to him that you require more in order to sustain a connection.

5. How does trying to set up interviews in your home country give you any indication that your just a f**k buddy. That is like the complete opposite of what a f**k buddy would go through to f**k you. You need to relax, and take a step back. And I would heed my words because 99% of the time I'm telling the women around here that they can do better. This guy is willing to relocate to YOUR country to be with you. If I was girl and the guy I was dating told me this, I would have to check to see if my panties are still on because chances are they will have evaporated into thin air.

Your scorpionic energyis quite high, and it shows through your intensity. Be careful not to be too intense for your crab. Too much water creates floods.

Hi Crabra,

Thanks for your opinion,i have to admit the communication is inconsistent and maybe i went too far by mentioning the word f***buddy. Btw this is the first time i went crazy.

Maybe i wasnt being clear, for point no.3, he only bought his own flight ticket...in my opinion, he should have at least let me know soon after he bought the flight ticket, just give me a heads up.

For point no.4 ,Oman is next to Dubai,it takes 6-7 hours flight, and he just went there without a heads up...he should be telling me maybe few days before the trip not on the day itself. As i said earlier,I am truly feel I went overbroad here by mentioning the f***buddy word, but i was truly hurt, 1st he didnt even bother to let me know that he already bought a ticket to Germany (our trip together) and now a trip to Oman which he only told me on the day he touched down.

Since youre telling me i went overbroad here, what should i do? i really dont wanna lose him. He still hasnt texted me back since i mention the word f***buddy. He will be in Oman till this weekend.

Cheers

Maybe 6 years ago when he ended everything he was just hurt, maybe he felt hurt or as if you did something. He reconnected, that means he loves you, but we, cancers, we are stubborn and we hold grudges. He came back to you, which means love or at least a very strong connection, but maybe he is upset that you didn't fight for him more. Sometimes, when we leave, we don't want to leave. We just want to make you say the words and bring us back. Maybe he is afraid of getting hurt and he is punishing you for something. He locked up in his shell. We, cancers, do this. But then again, when we lose our heads, we love you like a loyal dog. You push us away and we still come back for more. When not in love, we are cold and unnatached, just like scorpios. Talk to him, ask him. We like to talk about our feelings. Maybe men are a bit more embarrassed. But we do discuss our emotions more than most signs. If you have ever hurt him in the past, 6 years ago, he may love you to death, but chooses to be mean on purpose, holding a grudge. As I loved my scorpio and always will bleed my heart for him in silence, but for as many decades I live, he will not know. I will be just a wall made of stone.

Good luck and blessings. Maybe take the trip to Germany, be patient and apologetic until then and use the trip to hold hands, connect and discuss. Lay all cards on the table. A scorpionic look, with batting eyelashes, is all it would take for a cancer to be haunted and melt. Speak calmly in a soft voice. Use your eyes to express your angst and he should jump in the rescue. We can't stand to see a pouty scorpio. It is rattling and we feel the need to nurture the sad scorpio and mend. Lure him in and disappear on the balcony. Make him melt and then take your phone and type. He will go mad and feel the need to secure the relationship. We are so madly jealous sometimes...