Advice for dating cancer woman??

Posted by archer333
I've been dating a cancer woman/scorpio moon/taurus venus for about four months. Everything was perfect. I'd finally found someone who seemed to match my intensity. From our first date, it was amazing. She invited me over, cooked for me, we watched her favorite sappy romantic movies and the rest was history. She was so affectionate and open, we could talk about anything and everything. Texted constantly, which is something I normally abhor. Saw each other multiple times a week, and had started seeing each other almost every day. Seemed like we were best friends. I’d never felt so loved and secure and taken care of. One night about 3 months in, she told me she loved me. I felt like things were solid.

Then a few weeks later she started being distant. She was still very verbally affectionate with pet names, I love you's, etc. But I could tell something was different. Then one night when we were supposed to meet, she sent me a long text telling me she was going to have to let me go because she was broken and couldn't let anyone in and that I deserved better, but that she'd always love me. I was crushed. I thought maybe she'd found someone else because it was so out of character for her, so I asked and she told me she hadn't met anyone else and that she was not in love with anyone else, but that she'd had her heart broken before and that it still bothered her.

So I let her be for about a week, but noticed that she still continued to watch my snapchat stories. I missed her incredibly but had come to terms with the fact that maybe she just didn't feel anything for me, so I reached out to her and told her I still cared for her and hoped that we could remain friends. Her reply was very short so I let her be again, assuming I was bothering her or that she just didn't want to see me at all. Then she sent a follow up text telling me I didn't have to be a stranger, and from then on for about a week, things were back to normal as far as communication. We texted constantly, even if she was out with friends or at work, which surprised me. I absolutely expected her to de-prioritize me. She even made a Facebook post about how she "makes bad decisions", "is a quitter", and how that was why she was single but I wasn't sure if she was talking about the decision she made to break up or not.

After about a week of that, she began saying things which she knew would make me jealous and I couldn't understand why. She told me she was going to some guys house, but then texted me the entire time she was supposed to be there and the next day she pretty much insinuated that they'd hooked up. Then she asked if something was wrong or if I needed to talk. Kind of prying to get me to express something. Not wanting to mess up a potential friendship, I just let it slide told her everything was fine. We still continued to talk all day, but every day she would make a comment that she knew would make me jealous, I laughed it off most of the time to keep the peace. Then one day I got tired of it and didn't reply to her for an entire day. The next morning I messaged her and she was very short and then stopped replying all together. We haven't spoken for about 4 days.

I'm not sure if I missed something, or if I did something wrong. And am also confused as to why she would try to make me jealous on purpose when she was the one who broke up with me? I'm just extremely confused and not sure if I should try to get her to talk about it or leave her be.

Posted by archer333
That might be the case. She did all the pursuing in the beginning. I wanted to fight for her and pour my heart out to her when she broke up with me, but then I also felt like if she wanted to be with me, she wouldn't have let me go.

But after reading a lot of these cancer threads, it seems like something they do from time to time for some reason...

Also after the break-up when we'd started talking again she mentioned wanting me to come over so she could cook for me and told me about all the things she'd recently learned to cook, but I assumed it to be a friendly gesture.

What should I do? Leave her alone or make an effort to pursue her? I was always extremely serious about our relationship but maybe she had some insecurities that I didn't know how to reassure...

Posted by UrFavoriteCancer

Posted by archer333


Just go with the flow. Don't be too persistent but just let her know that your still there for her. Talk to her tell her how you feel

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I haven't tried to reach out just yet. But I don't want her to move on thinking that I don't care for her. Is there anything I could do to make her feel more secure without scaring her further into her shell?