Aqua girl needs help to understand Cancer guy

Oook... Right now I really feel down and I need help to understand somehow what happened in this past month... This cancer guy started to follow me on instagram about half a year back, than he gave me also add on facebook. On 5 of March he responded to one of my instastories. Me being recently involved in a shady start of a relationship with an Aries guy that was still in in touch with his ex, I was really sceptical about this Cancer guy. But hours passed and we were still talking and after 3 days he hinted that he wants to go on a date. The day of the date we talked normaly but he avoided the date subject so, as an Aqua girl I saied it blunt that he should leave me alone if he's not sure about what he wants, so he told me that I made him realise some important things and he didn't want to loose me. Days go by and we get more attached, we send each other long messages about what we feel, he takes me to nice trips outside the city, he introduce me to his friends, he tells me his plans with me, that he wants to introduce me also to his family. I was a little scared that all this would be just a bluf, but still I believed all those things... At some point he told me he would want to sell his condo and that the guy that would buy it would made him an offer so he has to choose between 2 other condos and that he would let me decide wich one I liked the most, but after our first night togheter, in wich he told me he had started to love me, he had strated to withdraw... less messages, than not at all, no phone responses - he told me that he had some problems with a case and that he was waiting the response of the judge and that was the cause of less talking, to protect me... I've freaked out so the last week I was just trying to obtain a response, so I've flooded im with messages... thing that is not so common for me, because I hate to look like a disperate girl, but he would text me back only about thing that weren't related about us. Yesterday I was in a really bad mood so I phone him from the number of my friend and his only response was to let him sleep... after that phone I really felt that he just made fun of me and I've send him a last vocal message where I was telling him to not do the same thing with the next girl... After that he blocked me everywhere: whatsapp, facebook, instagram.... Right now I feel guilty and I really don't know what happened after that night that he got so cold... I don't know if he's gonna search me or he's gone forever...

Hi lied to you. Told you things that every single girl wants to hear. Then he projected his moodiness and emotions onto you. He never took you seriously but he found you attractive at first. It takes time to build a solid relationship. Now when you call back he will take it and start controlling you and ruin your self esteem, worth, confidence and everything else. You must be young and inexperienced to think that a guy that just met a girl over IG will decide on a condo for him? Girl. Come on now.

Learn and grow. Don’t be naive and look after yourself a little bit better. Plenty of guys out there. Go get your nails done. Go work out, get a degree. Go out to a party and find another guy. Forget this liar and a shmuck.

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Hi lied to you. Told you things that every single girl wants to hear. Then he projected his moodiness and emotions onto you. He never took you seriously but he found you attractive at first. It takes time to build a solid relationship. Now when you call back he will take it and start controlling you and ruin your self esteem, worth, confidence and everything else. You must be young and inexperienced to think that a guy that just met a girl over IG will decide on a condo for him? Girl. Come on now.

Learn and grow. Don’t be naive and look after yourself a little bit better. Plenty of guys out there. Go get your nails done. Go work out, get a degree. Go out to a party and find another guy. Forget this liar and a shmuck.

Maybe she doesn't want to get her nails done and work out and get a degree! who are you to suggest she isn't living the life she wants to live and is proud of. And who are you to dictate what a life to be proud of should even look like— Or how a person should look like. What makes you think she hasn't and doesn't already do those things— gtfo. Don't listen to that person. We all get fooled, and cancers are pros at a facade that they personally believe. Im a cancer, and when I was younger I would promise the world just for the sake of imagination and living in the moment. Cancers believe in love so hard, but when their idea of love they want is shattered they suddenly get a change of heart. A lot of times cancers push people away with how much they idealize it. And when you mix a wishy washy cancer with the innability tobe direct and communicate, you get a guy like you are describing. Im a cancer woman, and I have been casually dating an aqua woman for almost a month now. first two weeks we were texting a lot of feelings all the time and It was awesome at first but than it got overwhelming for me. I couldnt keep up with her, because my mind gets distracted. Also she overwhelmed me with positive affirmations, andits not her fault, I was damaged as a kid. But I explained to her Im someone who needs "space" to be in my head sometimes by my self so I can focus on reality because I get so lost in the sauce if I talk feels all day especially when I like someone. And I explained in full detail I was in over my head with the texting and that affirmations make me uncomfortable and that for now I need space and also to miss her. I said this well before we were close to my getting annoyed by her. But I really like her so I knew if I didn't speak up id resent her. But when I was younger (im 27 now) I would have probably reactive in a more passive aggressive matter. Now the aqua im seeing has respected my boundaries and I find my self missing her all day long and her long texts and affirmations. But I realize its because Ive grown to trust her. And last i seen her I expressed that to her. He lacked communication and bit the bullet with you cause you sound like a gem. He sounds very unevolved, and Im not sure exactly what caused him to act like that with you, my story is just mine. But I guarantee you he cant handle a woman like you, and if he could he would'nt have been such a pussy ad talked to you about it.