Aries and Cancer

Hello guys,
I new to this forum,and let me tell you this..Ariens are NOT selfish and firey as some of you think.i was born in 75 (the year of the rabbit).My so-called girlfriend is a cancer born.
We have been in this relationship for 7 years now..to tell you the truth,i can hardly call it a relationship...most of the time it's me who is always lending out my shoulder to cry on..I try never to lose my temper when she stabs my heart (i dont know why she loves doing this)..she is sarcastic,selfish and the most moodiest woman i have EVER met.the only thing i like about her is her family values..she would do anything for her family.
when she is down,i would come over and boost her confidence level back up again,although i get her sarcastic remarks,but i always recover fast and get ready for the next challange..The problem with her is that she does not seem to appericiate anything i do for her..she expects me to remember her birthday but she always keeps forgetting mine and yeah..she is EXtremely forgetful.
Although i always tell her i care a lot for her,she puts me in the "close friend" catagory..she only calls when she has a problem.Till today,i have never raised my voice to her,i sms her frequently just to let her know that i care,but sometimes she does not bother to reply..he excuse would her handphone bill would be expensive
My relationship with her is 1 way,it is always me giving and SHE taking,she behaves like an overgrown baby.I am just so tired..i think i have been patient long enuff for her.The only thing she loves most is money..not me

So please,stop blaming Ariens..

hi aries man,

im a aries girl and in a similar situation to that as yours. and i totally agree with you.......... ariens arent selfish, i think we r the most direct straightfoward people on thjis planet. we mean what we say, we say what we feel... no hiding , and camoflaging our feelings .......... and maybe being totally honest in romance is not such a good idea.........

i feel its the cancerians who are mean and selfish, playing complex games, going around in circles , never giving a straight anwser.....

my advice , even im tryin to follow it , is: lets not be soooooooo giving, where we are not respected, lets never undermine our self respect, forget these cancerians who are playing around, and move.....

remember mAN the Arian motto is: tommorrow is another day!

Nice to know someone here share my views,No cancerians replied..., i guess all of them are too shy to do it anyway.

Hello Jabbarsher
You say you cancerians are mean and selfish. Elsewhere you also state how interested you are in dating one of them. Isn't that a bit complex?

Thats a good point looneybird.If they're so mean and selfish how come you got the hots for one?lol

Sometimes we "ACT" mean and selfish.....but thats just what it is...an ACT.

dear looneybird n cancer kitten, just read this message now....
yeah , im totally in love with this cancer guy, but i just dunno what to think, i dun think u guys are bad, but i just dont understand all the complexity...

thts why im here , trying to understand cancers bettre.....

n u know what..... several messages posted by others regarding their cancer men echo my situation, my guy behave the same way that these canver boys are behaving with these ladies.....

omigawd bobby if i was you i woulda packd up n left... shez obviously using you for her own benefitz and doesnt respect you for what you do for her... either you gotta stand up 4 yourself and tell her straight up that unless she respects you more your leaving... if the only thing thatz holding you back is because she has family values then im telling you there are plently of woman out there who are single and have them too... unless therez kids involved which it sounds there doesnt as she still calls you as a close friend than a lover... your staying there for convenience arnt you...

babe itz alryt.. you deserve better just pack up and move on... she might not be able to change but you can!! do it hun!! jus pick up ya balls in go for it!
(it doesnt necessarily mean that because shez a cancer she is thiz selfish most cancers i know will try and accomodate for you when they know your feeling upset)

Spiritual Goal: To learn the meaning of selfless love
Spiritual Correspondence: The Seraphim
Apostle: Peter
Prophet: Malachi
Anatomy: Rules the head, face, brain and upper teeth
Corresponding Tarot Card: The Emperor
Associated Countries: England, France, Germany and Poland
Associated Cities: Florence, Naples, Marseilles, Krakow and Verona
Animals: Ram, Sheep and Owl
Watchword: Action
Keynote: Hope
Physical Manifestation: Impetus
Mental Manifestation: Enterprise
Motto: Never Defeated
Quote: I Am

Who Changes like a Changeful Season?
Holds Fast and Lets go without Reason?

I am guessing your cancer is moon in scorpio. Try to find out her moon and rising, find out more about her 😉

http://www.novareinna.com/constellation/cancerfemale.html<BR>

Wait a minute! CANCER WOMEN ARE BITCHES!

I know of an aries-man who had been in a relationship for two years, but now his girlfriend has ended it. He's so very down and I really feel for him. He says it helps that he can talk to me about it. SO yeah, this one's devoted!!

There's another aries I know and from time to time he's all over me and then all of a sudden I don't hear from him in weeks. Now, in this case I tend to be "mean and selfish, playing complex games, going around in circles , never giving a straight anwser....." just because I don't know what he wants from me. And it's my way to figure out his intentions. I could give into his every desire and be dumped afterwards. Sorry, that's not me 🙂 I'm very down to earth but I'm afraid of getting hurt, aries' are straight-forward, but they are also romantics in a way. I think that that can be a problem, eg me being "down to earth" while he needs a bit of romance & me being afraid of getting hurt and him being up front.. AAAAAAARGGGGH 😄

In the end I think when both are in love things go more """"""smoothly"""""" but sometimes cancer just ain't in love and sometimes aries just ain't in love. No need to reproach each other. Cancers aren't all bad, but when he/she isn't in love with you, they can be hurtful, and that's also the case with aries (I speak from experience, lol)! You just have to accept that things don't always go your way, but it helps to avoid endless situations where things get really nasty 😉

I am an aries with a cancer moon and let me tell you I am a split between fire and water since my moon sign is at home. Our real objective is to get stuff done and out of the way (in a very open manner). Aries aren't really selfish if you see it from our point of view. Basically aries are a fire sign that can only think for themself not others and has a one track mind. They do not usually try to look at another person's point of view which is probably why they get the rep for being selfish.

"Basically aries are a fire sign that can only think for themself not others and has a one track mind. They do not usually try to look at another person's point of view which is probably why they get the rep for being selfish."

isn't that what selfish is? thinking of only urself?

bobby25 - u seem unhappy man - y don't u leave that woman - u aren't attached to her are you? come on she loves money more than u - leave her!!!

oh n cancers are not mean n selfish - well yea we are but only when it comes to our loved ones - if anyone messes wit our loved ones or us its war - so if we have to be mean n selfish to protect them or ourselves then we'll do jus that.

ok bobby25 let me give u some insight

cancers(not all) can be moody - sometimes we jus feel overwhelmed with our feelings we jus act base on how if makes us feel - whether we pout, cry or giggle - it comes naturally to us to let our emotions rule our decisions so we have to keep reminding ourselves to be more rational (at least i do).

we're afraid of being hurt n we tend to feel emotions intensely - we try to protect ourselves n many of us will give u a cold mean attitude because we don't want to feel vulnerable - if we show our feelings ppl will think us weak (which many do but trust me we're not) -i feel that becus cancers are so in tune with their emotions - cus we're the only sign that seem to be willing to face our emtional stuff - we are stronger - we deal wit it, get over it n move on - we cry till we can't cry anymore - we release it all but many others seem to keep it all in - we free ourselves while others keep they're feelings trapped inside - that's alot of stuff to deal wit

this is from my experience -hope it helps

yes I agree selfish is only thinking of urself. . . I was just trying to help put into perspective why fire signs think the way they think (I didn't say they were not selfish). I just said if seen from an Aries point of view then their thinking doesn't seem selfish. :-)

sunaina i agree with u - arieans never see themsleves as selfish - and the statement u made will probably be understood by all fire signs easily

Aries love sex,lol. xtreeeemmmeeeee. But once they are older ,mature they would remain devoted(that's if they feel like it,cause the roving eye is very high on the loud mouthed ariean) And yes ARIEs speak VERYYYY LOOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUDDDD,lol. love u all though.

hey daemon thats wrong there, i havent ever strayed from my cappy guy, i think aries women (and even men) are very devoted once in love - afcourse if they arent serious then thats a different story!

Aaaaah.. could someone please write a book about cancers and aries'? With lots of stories and anecdotes, conversations and for once (cause normally I don't like) a happy end (there is too much negativity!!). I like manly men and I found that manly men like feminine women. Cancers are very feminine but they also have balls when you least expected them to and aries-men appreciate that (from my experience)

So can anyone tell me what the problem is exactly? 😄 Cause I can be to the point and brutaly honest also and I like people being honest with me too rather than being just nice to me while playing games (Playing games to keep things interesting that I don't mind 😉 ).

I think anybody who would consider themselves and everyone of their sign "just great" and everyone in another particular sign "all of what's wrong with the world" is either immature, unrealistic, or not too bright.

oh no, the old cancers-hate-aries-and-aries-hates-cancers all over again. will it ever stop? :p

Not guilty at all 🙂 on the contrary!! In fact I want mooooooooore aries around 😄

My parents are cancer(mom)/aries(dad)...24yr anniversary was last weekend.

HA!!! Splendid!! Congratulations 😉 😄

Its rough though... there from a different time period and culture/values...but everything is possible, you have to work at it.

Lady_M,
yea i guess couples tried harder to make their relationships last back in the day - cheers to ur parents

i'm seeing an aries - well actually it's along distance relationship - he's my high school classmate's bro and i met him this month when i went for vacation in the bahamas (where i grew up) and now i'm tryin this long distance thing (its new to me) but he's had long distance realtionships b4 - he's sooo sweet and caring - i remember him getting out of bed one night after he heard a noise - my eyes were still closed and he kissed my lips b4 he got up - i thought that was the sweetest thing --oh my sorry jus had to share -

I just want to say I've been involved with 3 Aries men (I don't know, I seem to be drawn to Aries) and all three were bad, bad, bad.