Bothered by the Actions of a Cancer Man!

Hi everyone, i believe this is one of the most frequently faced issue with cancer man. Ive read alot similar issues on this forum but im really bothered by the actions of this cancer man! i will really appreciate any advices from all of the experts here..

first encounter - we met on a casual meeting with friends and we exchanged number
date 1 - we started messaging each other and he asked me out for dinner. everything went so super duper sweet and we had endless topics to talk about! aspirations, our families, values in life etc. everything went so sweet and we had alot of common topic to talk about, esp about our love n respect for our families! (i know cancer man love this, and i do take in more effort to find out more about his family, and it seems to work out well!) after he sent me home that night, i told him in the car that i really love his companion and i simply enjoyed myself. i looked at him from the mirror and he was smiling cheek to cheek to himself when i told him that. (i dont think he knows that i was looking at him from the mirror on his expression). i sent him a message to text me once he is home safely, and he texted me back that he enjoyed himself too and promise a next meeting very soon!

date 2 - i sent him a message a week later and asked what's his plan for that weekend, and he replied back that he is available on the night itself and will look for me at where ever i may be for that night. we met up and had a very intense talk about life! (not a heated talk, but more on a very intellectual talk on mutual understanding). After the 2nd date, he seems to be ignoring me / shorter text msg / one word reply sms, after i texted him a few days later. it took me a couple of attempts to ask him out before he finally agreed on a 3rd date.

date 3 - i was observing him the whole while and thinking to myself why was he giving me the cold shoulder after the 2nd date. he doesnt like me? but thats not the case, he acted like how he behave on date 1/2. in fact he was behaving like he was madly in love with me on date 3, being so sweet, gentlemen, smile at my silliest joke, started sharing food and drinks, talk on the wildest topic from childhood days to adulthood, had endless talk that lasted almost 8hrs long, and having sooo much fun with each other's companion. i thought that cold shoulder was just me reading too much into it, and did not share with him my concern.

--- then the issues came..
the very next day i messaged him that he is a very nice soulmate to hang out with and i asked him out for a dinner the next week. he didnt reply the entire day. the next day, i texted him again and asked if he receive the text, and again he did not reply. that very night, i texted him and ask if everything is okay, and he replied instantly that everything is fine! i then texted him asking why do he ignore my text if everything is fine? as it can be worrying if he is not replying for days. he didn't text back to my qns neither did he reply if he is okay to meet the next week! it has been about 1 week + and we aren't contacting each other.

im really bothered by it. why do he behave in this manner? i can feel it in him, that he enjoyed my companion as much as i am. we are both in our late 20s and i was hoping that even we are not of a romantically linked, i hope to keep him close to my heart as a soulmate, whichever it is, as i do enjoy his companion and is somehow hard to come by a man where you do feel comfortable talking to, anything under the sun, without prejudice and be so true to myself!

he's a Sun in Cancer, Moon in Aries, Venus in Gemini, Mars in Virgo and im a Sun in Gemini, Moon in Sagittarius, Venus in Gemini, Mars in Pisces.

what should i do to win him romantically or just keeping him as a soulmate? as we are still in a stage of understanding and exploring each other, i do not wish to end it off here. should i ask him out again? please help!

I wish they wouldn't do that. I have been cruel in the past and pulled the disappearing act, but not without at least saying SOMETHING first.. even if it's something they don't want to hear. My interpretation of a Cancer not saying anything at all, is that it's their way of keeping the door open. It still hurts though..

Posted by hotsummer
--- then the issues came..
the very next day i messaged him that he is a very nice soulmate to hang out with and i asked him out for a dinner the next week. he didnt reply the entire day. the next day, i texted him again and asked if he receive the text, and again he did not reply. that very night, i texted him and ask if everything is okay, and he replied instantly that everything is fine! i then texted him asking why do he ignore my text if everything is fine? as it can be worrying if he is not replying for days. he didn't text back to my qns neither did he reply if he is okay to meet the next week! it has been about 1 week + and we aren't contacting each other.

I think this is your problem. In general, a Cancer wants to re-live and re-play events in there head, especially dates if they are good. They need time to process their feelings. You haven't given him time to do that, therefore he can't respond to your feelings and wishes... since they are yours.

He replied to you that everything is fine... yet, you believe there is a problem because he is not responding to you in the way you would like. ie. excited about meeting you again, expressing his delight in your company, talking about soul mate connections etc.

I'm not saying your expectations are wrong... maybe you are just not on the same page, yet. So it might be best to slow down and let him catch up to you in his time.

With all that Gem/Sag you want things quick, quick, quick or you may lose interest. Different ways of doing things...

Thanks for all of your valuable input and really appreciate it very much! It reassures my thoughts and calm all the unnecessary wild thoughts that i can think of. And so to conclude, I will need to learn to slow things down and should not contact him anymore till he come to me?
The suspense is gonna kill me.. Keep the comments coming in, guys! I really need these assurance to pull me through this difficult time of suspense / withdrawal period. Sorry for being a bothersome, this is my first time experiencing this and im going through a "withdrawal shock".

Goodness gracious girl!!! All three dates - Why are you asking HIM out— You haven't even given him a chance to ask you! And, you're already talking soulmates! Then text, text, text. SLOW YOUR ROLL! Let the man be the man! After he gets the green light, HE will ask YOU out if he's interested.

I will be surprised if he comes to you now. Sorry. 😢

Withdrawal? You've only had three dates.

Guys like a little chase. You were an eager beaver.

My experience with my cancer is very similar. It has been 8 months and this week, I'm ignoring him without giving in as usual. I don't know how long I can hang in there but I have just got to hang in there and show
him something different because he is the one I want forever.
He is so hot and cold and he does seem to want to chase me rather than I him. I text him a lot
but toned it down this month and now havent text him at all.

There is just something about him that is so...what I want. What are we going to do about these cancer guys.
I swear I'm so into him it's crazy.

I'm an Aries.
P.S. How do I figure out his sun, moon, whatever else. I need to narrow this guy down. I WILL GET MY CANCER...I WILL

IDK, sounds like you need to be sure he is the right guy for you before you start calling him your soulmate.