Why is it so hard to get over you, Cancer men?

Well, at least, I find it hard to get over my Cancer man who left me 4 weeks ago.

You, Cancer guys seem to have something that keeps us hooked, even after you wronged us.
Is it the fact that you are such great listeners? Is it the fact that you love keeping an old flame around?

Since I'm stupid and kind of still in love with my Cancer, I agreed to stay friends (we do have a lot in common and would have made so much sense if we had been just friends from the start). I think that was a mistake because I really miss him, even though we text every single day.
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Posted by marythevirgo
Well, at least, I find it hard to get over my Cancer man who left me 4 weeks ago.

You, Cancer guys seem to have something that keeps us hooked, even after you wronged us.
Is it the fact that you are such great listeners? Is it the fact that you love keeping an old flame around?

Since I'm stupid and kind of still in love with my Cancer, I agreed to stay friends (we do have a lot in common and would have made so much sense if we had been just friends from the start). I think that was a mistake because I really miss him, even though we text every single day.
😢

Maintaining contact is making it hard to move on. And it's only been 4 weeks. You need time to get over a broken heart. How long were you two dating?

I know the feeling. I haven't talked to him for a little over two weeks, and it feels like an eternity. 😢 He's the one that had wronged me too, but yet I want him back. They're like a drug you get addicted to. lol

Cancer love can be hypnotic...

A past love accused me of being a witch that caste a spell making them love me, when that is not what they intended.. *shrugs* What can I say... we take love seriously and can be uber intense. Cancer ideals in love include an element of magic, good and bad. It's not for everyone.

Break off all contact with him. He knows you still have feelings and believe me.. he's feeding off of it. Probably not intensionally, but still. We'll have our cake and eat it too if you let us.

@LunarMaiden We had been together for 4 months (with a couple of weeks break during the holidays when he broke it off saying he wasn't ready for a relationship). It was my first time being in love with a guy I dated so I guess it will take time.

@rhaina I agree. They are very much like a drug. I actually wasn't that into him until the first time he kisses me. They have some kind of magical power.

@shellshocker Hypnotic? Very much so.
I am trying to break off all contact but it's so difficult not hearing from him every day. I guess I'll have to be strong.
The thing with him though, is that I don't think he takes love seriously. He has actually led me on for 4 months while he was already dating another girl. I think he's not mature enough to be with someone and I told him so after he dumped me.
I heard mature Cancers are the best though.

A quick update.

Since I wanted to feel better, I cut off contact with the Cancer 4 days ago, the longest we've ever gone without talking/texting.

Well, he just replied to an email I sent him over a week ago. Maybe my radio silence made him tick.

Apparently, when I called him off for being two people at once (a lovely kind of nerdy guy and a player), I "touched a few nerves" and he needed to think about it. He says he can't deny anything I said, and then spills out his guts over a few long paragraphs. He says hurting people he likes bothers him a lot even though he doesn't show it (we've always had communication problems unless I made him talk).

He also says the idea that "nobody likes him/will ever want him" has been with him all his life and he can't help but push people away. My cancer has serious trust and self-confidence issues.

So, it's been really tough not replying to this email. I have been trying my hardest not to contact him so I could heal but I can't deny it's been anything but a cake walk.

Should I reply or should I just maintain radio silence?

@moonman I am definitely not the queen of radio silence. Maybe I'm not very typical of my sun sign sometimes. Maybe because I think I'm a Virgo/Libra cusp.

My heart tells me to wait before contacting him but that I definitely should text or email him again. I just don't want him to disappear from my life and I already told him so. :/

6 days into radio silence and he decides to like pictures of me on Facebook when he's normally never on that website. Is that his way of saying (without using actual words, as usual) that he misses me?

What the hell am I supposed to do now?
To be honest, I miss him so much and I want him back. Even after all the pain he put me through.

Cancers are caring and nurturing and tend to just read us and know how to respond. I was dating a cancer man at one time, years ago, who kept saying he didn't want to go to the next level. So I started dating other men. When he discovered this, he started trying to step up to the plate. But, eventually, things still didn't change. Sadly, I had to let him go. Its tough to do - they ARE addictive. No one cares and shows concern like a Cancer.

@truecap I'm sorry it didn't work out with your Cancer.
I guess the only thing I have to do is try to move on. Even if he does miss me, it won't change anything he did to me. It won't mend my broken heart. 😢