Can a Cancer - Scorpio Stand A Chance

Ok, Im new to this place, cheers to you guys. This cancer guy im dating is just so I don't know. He keeps on saying "the gurl I want to be with" duh— what that means? the L word? or just hang out...why cant you just tell it straight. I really do hate mind games, im not very good at it.

just frustrating

Posted by CluelessCancer
No.

Self explanatory 😄

Posted by chococream
Ok, Im new to this place, cheers to you guys. This cancer guy im dating is just so I don't know. He keeps on saying "the gurl I want to be with" duh— what that means? the L word? or just hang out...why cant you just tell it straight. I really do hate mind games, im not very good at it.

just frustrating

Why don't you show your cards a bit more without waiting for him scorpy? He is sounding you out just so you know. He is not really playing mind games, just testing waters.

If there is too much mirroring going on in this relationship, it will not be very satisfying.
Based on the language he and you are using you both are probably too young for this type of relationship.

Hi guys,

well, basically he is one of my very very close friends that can just listen to and boss me around that I don't mind at all. If it were for other guys to boss me around i would have slashed back at them. Anyways, he tells me most of his secrets, the ladies he hung out everything. He asks me first my thoughts on things before he goes buying stuff same with me. and we argue not alot but if starts it always ends up in comprommise. so weve been friends for like 2years already just be there best buds, i can go drunk and i know im safe with him. thats how scary safe scorp i am with him. Then came suddenly that he asked me out not the just hangout we do everyday or every other weekends. I can literally remember him sayign "its time to make this real, your goin on a date with me" i get that just shocking. Ive had deep feelings for this man so long and he knows it, but i didnt told him straight he said i told him on one time that i was drunk. LOL

i dont really know now guys, i mean it feels safe before that he knows i have feelings for him and he never took advantage of me. i never asked for anythign from him, id appreciate him that he is just there with me. yes we are dating but are we in a relationship already? i mean tell it to me straight? since the day he told me we are going to be in a date for real its like 6months.

P.S. last night he gave me a ring. and he said i should never ever took it off. what that means? engaged? what? i asked him outright if whats it? freaken crab just smiled to me and kissed me. urghhh didnt answer me no matter how i continue to ask.

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CancerMan is 38
Scorpiowoman is 30

both have successful careers.

Posted by BlackIndian22
Well maybe he doesn't like you. We need to whole story in order to really help you. By the way, welcome to this place. You should call this guy or meet up with him, & find out what you wanna know. Like i said, we need the full story, to find the right solution. Judge him by his actions towards you. They tell you more anyways. You'll be fine ok. I think scorpio & cancer can be a great match, if the communication is good =)

thanks for this.

he practically comes into my place every morning to join me for breakfast, well he cooks me breakfast adn he lives 4 blocks away from me. since one time that he came over a year ago and i was eating lunch, whne he tasted it, well he didnt criticized it he just ate everythign and then on he comes every morning and fixes me thigns in my place.

P.S. did i mention that he picks me up too at work and he literally spends lunch with me every other day? freaky huh but i love it.

@BlackIndian22

Sweet, thanks a lot. asked him straight few hours ago about if we are in a relationship or what?
and Boom! he said "why are you asking me that? I thought you already know that we are engaged. " smack in the head...wow
amazing he thinks we are engaged and i was having a fit if we are in a relationship. can this be any more serious—

i love it. well cant even stop smiling from cheek to cheek. downside though is i didnt know that we are already engage...guess i have to ask him when our wedding will be huh,

Positive energy and best of luck to you luv!!!

@freckles : yeah need lots of it and thanks a bunch

@blackindian: aw, your so sweet thanks for the support guys.

Supposedly we are a great match, but I just don't feel it. I do not really trust Scorpios as friends or lovers 100 percent. There is something about them that makes me not feel they are not very trustworthy or loyal. I think they can be very selfish and not as selfless as the other water signs. I feel like they would betray me if it were to benefit them in a NY minute. I also find them too bossy and demanding. I would not date a Scorpio again.

Posted by nycancergal
Supposedly we are a great match, but I just don't feel it. I do not really trust Scorpios as friends or lovers 100 percent. There is something about them that makes me not feel they are not very trustworthy or loyal. I think they can be very selfish and not as selfless as the other water signs. I feel like they would betray me if it were to benefit them in a NY minute. I also find them too bossy and demanding. I would not date a Scorpio again.

i respect your point of view, there is nothing wrong with that. but i don't usually put 90% on dating based upon the zodiac of a man, the main reason for me dating a man is based on how he determined and committed he can on working on our relationship. if i were to base relationships im not sure i would ever date again.

i have dated a sag (oh my god, he whines so much than a 2year old), a capricorn (wondering eye for me...he brings out so much suspicions), aries (doesnt burn me out in bed but burns me out at other things he seems to find everything to argue) taurus (fickle brains ..never again) virgo (oh so boring...id rather read a book) I wasted 8years on a pisces.

the libra, scorpio and cancer are the few zodiacs that i have jive with. i would correct on the loyalty part...
scorpio as for me are the most loyal you can ever find. if a scorpio cheats then that means you have done something grave and insult to his/her individuality that is just cant be forgiven. otherwise if you can find the courage to say sorry or something as we all are very honest and brutally honest then it certainly can work, well speaking for myself i have wasted my life on a pisces because i was hardheaded and stupid enough to believe that pisces was true to his feelings and no matter how gorgeious temptation would be, i turn the other way to avoid it because scorps think that we are in a relationship and we dont want to hurt our man (no matter who).

speaking as one of the scorpios

yeah we are very bossy..thats because we know what we want long before we open our moutht to tell you or come up and decided we want that. demanding because we want the best in everything and wouldnt settle for less, thats how i see it, it works to me and give me the results that i am very happy then thats it. selfish? depends on how and what is the situation? scorps for are the selfless people in the world but never abuse our good nature because we retalliate 300 folds. i mean who would want that, all zodiacs have their own episode of selfishness here. there is a negative and positive side right, its just so happens that we work on the negative to make it a positive than sit at the corner and mope for the whole world to see.

@ blackindian22


aw how sweet you are man!. lol dont fall for me ok. kidding. thanks for sayign i am caring. well i am inlove and to be honest all scorpios that are mature and well are emotionally healthy are very caring person. they can even carry the world for you if needs be (thast what i did with my ex pisces..no fun carrying the world for him) so you get the point.

you cant really know who you end up in the future so say never, i know i have and look who i am head over heels inlove with. I mean speaking for myself with my cancerman. I have literally swore i hate this guy if youd ask me 4years ago. i find him dangerous and mysterious so laid back with a no care demeanor in the world yet i know there is something behind those blue eyes...LOL and he actually brutally just speaks his mind when we are face to face, i dont have to talk to him at all...he is such a bullshit...ill ask him to join so he can contradict me here..LOL and look at us now, im in his brain 24/7 its keeping him awake most of the time and he cant shake me off...lol... so you get the point.

Posted by BlackIndian22
@Chococream I actually don't mind the demanding/ possessive nature of a Scorpio. I welcome that, because to me, it makes me feel emotionally secure. emotional security is very hign on my list. So the possessive nature of a Scorpio lady is a huge turn on & quality. Your answers & they way you talk, makes you mature. Don't ever change =)

yeah i noticed that with him being me very jelous and all. everytime i sort of starts to get that suspicion green eyed monster OMG he giggles like a schoolboy on sunday sure fire dissolver on my fire.LOL. But yeah i can understand that emotionally secure thing though, my cancerman makes me emotionally secure too. Oh boy! dont you ever makes them pissed off if the scorpio gets lots of attention, i mean its a natural i think im not sure but he says im a magnet for admirers, i only need to look at a man and smile and the man is doomed. (clueless to this coz my smiles are all for him) but yeah you guys (cancerman and cancerwoman are freaks) when you go possessive and protective and all that crabby. hahaha so cute.

@BlackIndian22

he is the best bf by far ... lol i havent been to many relationships, dated yes but i dont say yes unless serious so usually it takes a bit longer for me to commit, by far Sag is my first, my second is the pisces and this is the 3rd my cancerman...and so far he is working very hard in holding me...hahaha i dont mind in fact i love it. i just love how he stands up to me no matter what

Hi Guys,

Just updating this... we call it quits...8weeks on our wedding day he called it quits.
so what happened? well we basically was all over each other then came my assignment to australia for 1year. work related so basically we became a long distance relationship,but i asked his opinion when I had been informed of the offer and before I took the assignment I asked his opinion and I clearly told him that if he dont want me to all he needs to say is so because I can always go find another work or just stay put and focus on the business but he basically just told me the perks of the offer and its 1year contract thing besides the preparation for the wedding was all done , we only need to get fit so we can look hot on the day itself.

well 2weeks ago I have felt his detachment towrds me. Like he is always away, and late to go online and just talks to me for a few minutes and its cut off again. Told him about it and he just didnt answer...he went even disappearing on me for 4days and I went i asked where did he go he just told me that he went fishing. So ok, yesterday was very stressful for me and i was very crancky being very busy, tired and i waited for him the whole 4hours coz he wanted me to wait on him since wants to chat.

im sorry its been a bit long...

after waiting for like 5hours, stressed and tired when he did go online it was fun talking etc and then he just suddenly logged off on me without any word or something. And I know that he was online since i had my fb on but the chat was off, and he went online on there after he went offline in facebook. when i chatted him in facebook he didnt reply and went offline and didnt went back on skype

i mean wtf? so i blow off and angry ...and yes i told him some bit of mean things there. I mean what do you expect from someone, so when he went back he was ranting and whatever and then said GOODBYE
deleted me in facebook, but not skype. he is just there but doesnt talk to me

is it final the break up thing?
will he ever comeback> and why did he deleted me in facebook? wtf..urghh
if its final why is he not deleting me in skype?
do cancer not talk when angry?

and yes i did apologize for blowing off, i knwo he read it but he didnt make any comment or any reply and its breaking me into pieces now. i mean we have been in many fights before but we always talk to each other..this is the first that he just doesnt talk to me. the last message i left him was that ill just leave him alone and h

I'm a cancer women and when I've been mad in the past I refuse to talk to someone. Usually I'll say bitchy things to hurt that person. Maybe he's just really missing you but I'm not sure :/

Wow! This is a tough one,I dont think I can forgive a man that cancel out on me just weeks before my wedding day when he had the opportunity to not even go there with me a long time ago. He probably loved and enjoyed the benifits of the relationship, but when you told him that you were leaving. he then choose to cry in the dark instead of telling you that he would feel lost with out you.

Somewhere in his mind it sound as if he took your decision as a personal hurt toward him and instead of realizing that you were on your way to being his wife and would have been his for life. He lost his mind. maybe in his mind he thought you cared more about your career than him, or maybe he just wanted to be able to enjoy you as his wife for the first few years of the marriage. Who know's (shruggs) just taking a guess.

But if so, you wouldnt have known because he didnt tell you how he deeply felt about the issue. it sound like he somehow got hurt and confused and wanted to hurt you back. Some people are weak when it comes to dealing with people and emotions., they just cant handle it.

What get me is why do these people even try to be in a relationship at all when they arent emotionally capable of being in one (Idk) but people like this I tend to steer clear of because I feel that these type of people can do you more harm than good in life.

They tend need the assistance of a therapist to help them to even be able to deal with day to day issues. relationships are give/take...ups and down but can be worked out if the two agree that the one is worth the effort.


Im really smh at this...I dislike cowards!


Time heals all wounds, sometimes its just a long healing process. I hope you will be ok 😢

Posted by chococream
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CancerMan is 38
Scorpiowoman is 30

both have successful careers.

If both parties are mature and thoughtful this can be a lovely match.

One of my favorite couples:
Carlos Santana (Cancer) and Cindy Blackman (Scorpio)

Hi Guys,

just giving on an update. so the wedding is off but he actually is here in Brisbane, LOL living in an apartment nextdoor. I actually was shocked. when i was all done crying over him on saturday, the nextday all groggy with and ugly I opened my door to the crab look silly.

and no we are not back together, i didnt know what to say...was shocked you know my brain didnt function that moment and yes didnt even invite him inside my place. hahaha (but im happy that he lives near) my last message to him was he knows me, where i live and my numbers and i will leave him alone. and I will stand by that, he has to toughen up first and its his move not mine.

its day 4 since i found out that he lives nextdoor, and he just sits there in the porch on the exact time i go out of my place to go to work. aint he silly why cant he just come up and say hi and talk to me or something its not like weve been friends and lovers and exe's now... it feels now that the pain and the spark is all there its even more painful when i see him just standing there watching me...urgghh

38 huh?

Well glad you've moved on......?