Cancer and Taurus

I kind of feel bad posting here, but this friend that i've had for quite a few years now (and i thought friends were supposed to trust each other) recently announced to me, unbeknownst to me, that she now has a 'boyfriend'.

Well, the story is, we went out for lunch after not seeing each other for about a month. Previous to that, she had hinted that it's about time she got married and that there was some guy chasing her. I didn't think much of it because she didn't make it explicitly clear that she fancied him... but anyway. I got the message that she wants to get married and would probably be on the hunt from then on.

Anyhow, she turns up to lunch the other day and introduces this guy she has with her as her 'boyfriend'. My little crabbies, i've got to say, i was gutted! At no time did i see this coming 😉 I thought we were close, but obviously she has kept this one very close to her chest 0.0

The bottom line is that i thought he was a very nice guy and they seem very well suited together. I am really happy for her, she really is a generous person and deserves the best! 😉 I guess i was just confused.

Anyway, i think cancer and taurus are a good match. She is cancer (obviously) and he is taurus. A match made in heaven 😉. *Claps*.

Don't lie to yourself.. Happy for them?! Hell If I was gutted like that I would pray to the Greek gods that he would be smite on the spot. Or the ground underneath from him swallow him up and watch him as he burns in a pit fire. And the same time laughing like Dr. evil from Austin powers. MUUUUUUHHAHAHAHAHAHHHAHAHhhahaaaaaaa

But your right Taurus and cancer do get a long very well. =)

shishno: Lol. Yes, i did feel a pang of jealousy, but that's only because i am quite possessive of my friends... 😕

moon_eyes: Yeah, i didn't realise cancarians were so secretive. She did a really good job. I feel like emailing her joking about it, asking her how she pulls guys out of her hat! But, i'm not going to. Being a cancer, she would take it all the wrong way and retreat back into her shell, and this is what i don't want.

And the two steps forward and one step back thing is interesting. She seemed really aloof about him months ago, and now she's with him. But, even when she was with him, he was all over her and she was aloof! What a cool cat.

I really respected the way she was inclusive of me during our lunch together though. She didn't spend all her time pandering up to him, it was cool.

OMG, she was so aloof! I don't know, it's weired. It's like she's lining all her friends up for the wedding or something. She started hinting at getting married a few months ago and then she springs this 'boyfriend' on me.

A few years ago, a former friend rallied everyone together when she got married. Afterwards, i realised she was using us all for support!

Now, i can see what lil Miss Cancer is up to! Who does she think she is trying to fool?!

I am going to go along with it for a while, to see where it leads, but i can't help but think that some of the good things she has done for me recently all have an ulterior motive behind them.

I can stand most things, but being deceived really PEEVES me! I would rather an imperfect, but honest, relationship.

I am a little bit perturbed, but i am glad she is happy. I am going to distance myself a little, just to see where this leads to, but, i will still go to the wedding 😉

(that's if she invites me. lol)

is withholding of information equivalent to deception? I think she has the right to her own privacy,what she wants to tell,what she doesn't want to...

flyingfoxes: "is withholding of information equivalent to deception?"

Well, rallying your friends up so you have multiple baby-sitters, raising the topic of marriage to prepare you for it, without directly telling you what's going on, and inviting you out to lunch with no mention of the boyfriend, IS deception!

Anyhow, i think there is more to him than meets the eye. He was a bit personal about what i do for a living, asking me about finances. I felt in a round-about kind of way, he was trying to get information for his own sake, rather than being interested in what i do. I also think he was being extremly nice to me because i am the 'friend', to win me over.

But, time will tell.

Nothing you mentioned is deceptive, she doesn't owe you an explanation, and her boyfriend was probably just trying to be nice and get along....you're being very childish.

Likebrad,

Thanks... there are some feelings associated with a friend being married and i admitted in my first post that i felt a bit possessive of my friend, but, overall, i want her to be happy, and she is.

I have also realised that the 'getting to know each other' process is about him as much as her. He has to get to know her, which is good. It means he has standards.

And, yes, i had to be careful. Who knows how somebody can turn out? It's easy to put on a nice face for a few months at the start, but we've all heard about how controlling some guys can be once the bow is tied. You only have to read here to know that.

As for the other two delightful, presumptuous children... you are projecting.

Leokitten, i am NOT jealous! And, by the way, she asked me to babysit her future children today, so, sorry, love, you are wrong.

And, when did i say i wouldn't help her with the wedding? I have already offered to help her move house...

There should be an age limit here.

my old boss was a cancer with a taurus son - the son drove him NUTS and he would be screaming at him ALL the time... but it's just because taurus is extremely independent and grow up faster than most kids.

All he can do is let his son make his mistakes and come to him when he needs help....that's how I deal with my little sister, she's living with me now and I don't tell her what to do I just let her make her own decisions and help her out when she screws up. We're a stubborn bunch and the harder you try to tell us what's best for us the more we'll rebel.

my boss had the same situation...cheating ex who was always in his face and starting fights, using the kids as leverage...

it IS hard to blame the parent you're wioth - I had that sort of thing going on all the time when I was a kid because my mom was still in jersey and my dad was in cali so my sister and I would fly back and forth..... they made it hard on ME because who ever was in front of me at the moment would say something like "wouldn't you rather stay with me?" and since it was my parents what could I say? It was easier for my older sister, she just didn't give a damn about anyone but herself. It was a lot harder for me though.

most likely.... especially being a teenager he's a precarious situation where one or both parent could tell him to get the hell out of the house and then what will he do?

I HATED living with my mother but I never fought with her because I had no sense of security. I rememebr her telling me one time about an article she read that said teenagers fight with their parents because they feel secure and know that no matter what they do their parents will still love them.... I never fought with my mom because I never felt that security - my mother hated me and I knew it.

So if anything the fact that he fights with dad and sides with mom only shows he feels secure with dad nad not with mom.

good for him; that's the best thing he can do right now.