Cancer/caner friendship broken ?

There was a girl I became bestfriends with over my senior year in highschool. We were best friends for about 2 years, then it ended really badly because she thought I changed into this person who only cared about herself, and I also had another really good friend she didn't like which caused a lot of drama. So we pretty much ended things on bad terms. And to be honest I really miss her, and this all of it was such a stupid reason to fall out over when I tried to be the best friend I could be to her. We don't speak at all, its been about 3 months since we spoke and it just really hurts and upsets me. Im kinda thinking that maybe I should send her a message on fb and explain how I feel, but yet I don't even know what I would say :/ shes the type of person who will NEVER be the one to step up and say sorry first and I think there was a lot of harsh judgments on both parts and I don't want to send the message, look a fool and she not responds or just laughs at it. Cause I take her friendship seriously n she WAS my bestfriend. At this point I don't know what to do, if I should just let go and face the fact that we might not never be friends again and or move on. There was just so many harsh things said between us when we last talked, I dont even know how to fix it. She just means alot to me and I don't want to care if she doesn't.

It sounds like she initiated the friendship ending, so based on my past experience with these types of situations I would probably just let it be. If she felt strongly enough about it to end the friendship so drastically, then really no matter what you do or say it won't change her opinion on anything.

I had a similar situation about 4 years ago but it was between myself and a Capricorn friend. We had harsh words and ended the friendship for a variety of reasons. For some stupid reason I re-initiated the friendship, nothing had changed except we just tried to cover up the dirty past and move on. It didn't work, resentments were still there and about a year ago I called it quits for good. You never forget the nasty things your friends say about you, and no matter what they say now you are always going to know what they REALLY think. It really puts a rift in things.

Sometimes personalities just don't mesh, and there's nothing wrong with that. You grow up and you move on. I wish I had learned that a long time ago else I wouldn't have had to go through that difficult situation twice.

That's my advice, hope it helps!

Yeah I know, I just guess I have a hard time letting go of people. It just hurts because a person who she hated who really fucked her in the past she is now friends with again. It really uspets because I don't think I did anything soo wrong for us not to be talking. Even though she might take it as a joke or not care if I send her a message or anything I guess I feel like I want that closure. The way I feel friends should stick through eachothers ups and downs, even if in her mind I did change in a negative way, bestfriends are there to keep us grounded. I guess I feel like its so stupid for us to have ended things this way but at the same time I think it's such a stupid reason why we are not talking, but yet she became friends again with someone who treated her like crap for the longest time when I never did any of the sort to her. She was kinda of jealous type I would think, it was like she always wanted me to herself, and if I went off did my own thing she would be like "just go do you" like i didnt understand it, but was she was good friend at the same time. Idk

I totally understand. Just think of it this way, any negative relationship experience you have is toxic in your life. I know you want to be loyal to your friends, which is admirable, but things just change. Very few people in life are still friends with their friends from high school and there are a lot of good reasons for that lol. We change as people all the time, that's just inevitable.

I know how much it must bother you, leaving my previous best friend relationship still bothers me sometimes too, but all in all I know that my life is better without that negative influence. Time definitely makes it easier. The older and more mature you get, the better and more mature friends you will find and then you won't even miss that relationship that was once so important to ya. If she is willing to end your friendship over something so minimal, then it's not a true friendship to begin with.