Need quick advice about scorpio lady

So I met a girl online a month ago (she's scorpio sun/pisces moon, I'm cancer sun/moon)..she lives an hour away from me..I've gone to visit her 3 or 4 times..aside from that we'd text almost every day or talk on the phone once in a while. We hit it off pretty well, instinctively and intuitively understood eachother. We enjoyed ourselves each time we got together and progressively began getting closely to eachother. We haven't kissed yet but I was intending on making a move the next time I saw her. Problem is..that opportunity never came up. We were supposed to hang out last weekend but she had to bail because of an unexpected visit from family members. Fine. So I text her on Monday or Tuesday around midday, no response. I called her later that night..nothin. I know she has a crappy phone so I let it slide..but I never heard back from her. When she bailed on me she told me we'd meet up the next weekend, which is this weekend that just passed. Didn't hear from her. Now I get a text from her asking me how my day went as if nothing ever happened.

I was honestly disappointed that she cut contact with me for no apparent reason. I know I may move slowly but I think I opened up a lot fairly quickly for this girl. I was disappointed because I liked her, and actually found myself missing her earlier today. I like talking to her and what not. Since she never contacted me I was jus gonna put it behind me and just keep it moving. Now that she's contacted me, my feelings are all over the place. I don't feel like I trust her at this point..or her intentions. She contacts me a week later as if nothing happened and hasn't taken the initiative to call and explain herself or anything.

I know the mature thing to do at this point is respond to her text and ask why I haven't heard from her..but my heart has been disappointed..and once I lose trust, its hard from me to reconsider.

What do you scorpios think of her actions..or how should I approach her at this point?

For me personally...sometimes I get lazy when it comes to texting people. I don't know why but I go through the periods where I read a text or email or whatever...and I just can't be bothered replying. I have my silence time..which is usually when I've been around too many people at once. Depending on how many family members she had over maybe she could have been doing the same thing? Maybe there was a family drama.

The only other reason I do that is when I'm starting to drift away from someone. If I end up texting again like nothing happened then I wouldn't have drifted very far!

If I were you I would maybe ask her how her time that she hadn't spoken to me was....obviously not in those words though. If it was busy or stressful then you instantly have your reason (in my opinion).

I don't know if it's my cancer moon but I would feel exactly the way you do if I was in your situation. It almost sounds like you're blaming yourself because you move slowly...I don't think you should blame yourself.

Even if you did text her to see why you haven't heard from her...it doesn't mean you have to instantly trust her again. It's kind of like a catch 22...if you text her and ask you still might not feel better because you've lost trust in her..and if you don't text back you won't feel better because you won't ever know the reason why she did that. It could be something really innocent.

yeah thanks for that response. so I texted her, she responds saying she was sick throughout the week n then went out of town during the weekend. Fine. Does it make me feel any better? No. Apparently my feelings/ties to her are stronger than hers mine. I think its time for me to back off some..she definitely could have let me know what was goin on.

Posted by exoskeleton
i do this sometimes and it causes problems. when things start getting heavy with someone, when we're talking constantly, i start to feel suffocated. i need to pull back from that person and think things through. i also wanna allow some time for both of us to actually miss eachother. it doesn't change the way i feel about them.

i wouldn't question her intentions just yet. simply ask her what was up and go from there.

I hear this..I do the same pretty often..maybe i jus need some time to get over this.

Posted by ellessque

Posted by exoskeleton
i do this sometimes and it causes problems. when things start getting heavy with someone, when we're talking constantly, i start to feel suffocated. i need to pull back from that person and think things through. i also wanna allow some time for both of us to actually miss eachother. it doesn't change the way i feel about them.

i wouldn't question her intentions just yet. simply ask her what was up and go from there.

I do this too...and usually regret it later.

In fact, I'm kinda doing it right now and he's noticing. *eek*

I don't know what makes us do this. You could be fricken prince charming but at some point we are going to talk ourselves into dropping off the face of the earth for a moment to "regroup". self sabatoge perhaps? I don't know. I wouldn't take it personal if I were you....in fact, you'll come out of it MUCH better if you brush it off like it wasn't a big deal. Then we don't have to talk about it or explain.

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You know what my response to that is? F* that s***. You might be able to pull this easier with an air sign..but not a water sign..especially not a cancer. I told her from the beginning that trust & communication were #1 to me. Apparently she shares the same disappearing trait as you other scorps. Your feelings might not have changed but apparently mine have. I haven't told her how I feel right now but its brimming to the point that I wanna call her out on this because I feel like she did not or does not take me seriously. Whats so bad about having to explain yourselves? what do you guys suggest? I was close to blowing it over n saying f it, im done.

Posted by TypicalScorpio

The only reason I do that is when I'm starting to drift away from someone. If I end up texting again like nothing happened then I wouldn't have drifted very far!

This.

Posted by ellessque

Posted by exoskeleton
i do this sometimes and it causes problems. when things start getting heavy with someone, when we're talking constantly, i start to feel suffocated. i need to pull back from that person and think things through. i also wanna allow some time for both of us to actually miss eachother. it doesn't change the way i feel about them.

i wouldn't question her intentions just yet. simply ask her what was up and go from there.

I do this too...and usually regret it later.

In fact, I'm kinda doing it right now and he's noticing. *eek*

I don't know what makes us do this. You could be fricken prince charming but at some point we are going to talk ourselves into dropping off the face of the earth for a moment to "regroup". self sabatoge perhaps? I don't know. I wouldn't take it personal if I were you....in fact, you'll come out of it MUCH better if you brush it off like it wasn't a big deal. Then we don't have to talk about it or explain.

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This too.

Marcus - I think you're overreacting. You guys aren't serious and at this point only getting to know each other. There's no need for hurt feelings because she didn't respond to you within a certain amount of time. She came back around...and as long as she continues to keep coming around (regardless of any reasonable time lapse), you have nothing to worry about. In situations like this, it's always best to mirror the other person's actions. That way, they know what it feels like and you don't feel like you're overexerting yourself. Some say it's playing games, I call it treating others how they want to be treated.

I'm a Scorpio sun with a Pisces moon and I do that disappearing act quite often, but I will explain myself if I am asked why I did it. I am, however, on the Libra cusp (yeah right) and I am now bored of explaining myself even though I didn't really explain anything muahahahahahahaha!

Posted by ellessque
well, i had an earth sign tell me this about an hour ago and i'm still a melting mess like an ice cream cone in miami in august.

"I see you have some walls up and it's okay. If you would be so gracious enough to peek out from behind them once in awhile and give me a smile, I would be perfectly content."

my advice. think like an earth sign. or crawl in your shell and pout about it. your choice.

damn, i need an earth sign! thats the sweetest thing ive ever heard. but i would still think he was up to something!!!

one thing i noticed with Scorpios. they need time to think. i do 2 at times and i cant have any interference from the person im thinking about.

when my scorp used to go into hiding, i would still text him and even if he didnt respond, I KNOW that he reads every text and he will read it numerous times. how do i know, cause he would bring up what i texted him days, even weeks later. lets me know that he cares what i write him and that hes not ignoring me for the sake of ignoring me.

just dont let a scorpio think too long....Lord only knows whats being conjoured up in that mind!

Posted by ellessque

Posted by DMV
I KNOW that he reads every text and he will read it numerous times.

fact.

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yep