cancer girl ignoring

One of my worst nightmares when it comes to intimacy. First and foremost you have to acknowledge that you are responsible for your actions and her reaction. What you did was very hurtful, insensitive, and disrespectful. Not only do you betray her trust and strip her of her dignity you top if off by asserting your "dominance" over her. To wonder if a sex tape will pop up in the future is a nightmare for most women. No one wants to feel that fearful, vulnerable and insecure.

Your Cancer lady is hurt and angry with you; and showing it through silence and pretending she doesn't know you. Rightfully so. She is trying to put herself back in the drivers seat and feel in control again. Shutting you out, hurting you back will help her regain that feeling of control. Your job now is to humble yourself, admit your mistake and ask for her forgiveness. I agree with WC, send her the recording for her to destroy. NO COPIES!

In the future if you want to make jokes tell the one about the Rabbi and the Bishop who walked into a bar. Your homework for today will be to go find a good article on Cancer women. Focus on the part where it states Cancer women are the most sensitive of all signs when it comes to sexual relations.

Consider yourself lucky to have found a gentle Crab. I would be eating your balls for breakfast!

Guys you need to read it again. She was quite normal after i told her i recorded a video but left after i made those comments. I admit my mistake and want to apologize but how to get her back? She doesnt even attend my call and reacted angrily in public saying who the fuck are you and why are you stalking me? Cant risk that again in public.

Sweetie, you are crazy. im no Cancer but I would have thrown the tape and recorder out the window. Regardless of her initial reaction, recording someone and refusing to let them know beforehand is WRONG! There's no way around it. After your little "joke" it probably all sunk in what you did. You need to write this off as a loss. U screwed up here bigtime.

Okay, I'm crying foul.

Here's my .2 cents.

First, if you have been in a relationship with someone for three years, and decide to videotape your sex life. Two things are only possible, let alone plausible.

1) you shouldve already known what her feelings are on that type of thing, i.e. videotaping you having sex. So she either would A) agree or be open to it per a discussion, that generally most people in that long term of a relationship have already i) talked about it, or ii) have a good feel to their partners perception. And now B) she is totally against or frowns upon the idea.

2) you wouldnt felt the need to hide it from her. And you would get and understand that what you did by A) secretly taping her, and B ) threatening to www it, which in this day and age is NOTHING to joke about. Yet, now you are 'perplexed' and 'confused' and growing 'impatient' because this woman you have had a wonderful, loving relationship with for three years (your words, not hers) has thrown you out to the trash like you threw her trust in YOU to the trash by your immature, stupid and INSECURE actions and very dumb and poor choice of idle threats.

So what does this mean to you?

A) She is not a pushover. Newsflash. I know, hard to believe right?! The fact that she isnt so readily forgiving your jack ass move
B) You are very insecure. Otherwise, you wouldnt have hid the fact you wanted to tape you two, let alone joke about it.
C) Your relationship is doubtedly as good as you want to believe it is, or are telling us, and are puffing it up to look so great that now 'you have become the victim' because 'she refuses to talk to you over a teeny weeny little joke'.
D) This probably isnt the first time you have done something stupid, manipulative, coniving and deceiptful.
E) You broke her trust, and understandably.

What can you do? Absolutely nothing at this point. Leave her alone. And more than likely you are leaving dumb messages via text, vm, or emails trying to convince her why she is wrong, and you are right. If you are true to your apology, she will eventually accept it, or continue to dismiss it AND you from her life. Live and learn. And grow up. Hope she rakes you and your heart through the mud and coals. Jerk.