Cancer guy and scorpio girl

I've known of this cancer guy for years but we never really talked. I would catch him staring intensely into my eyes all the time at these community functions, so i knew that he was potentially interested. As a scorpio i'd sometimes stare back but he'd always win. A few weeks ago I decided to message him and strike up a conversation to break the ice and see if we would get along. We clicked as soon we started talking and we decided to meet up at a bar that friday night, needless to say we hit it off. He's a very genuine and affectionate guy, that is very open about his feelings, which is somewhat out of character for a cancer. On our second date he bought me a blue rose because that is the colour of my eyes (a really sweet gesture). As a scorpio, I told him right off the bat that I wanted to take things slow because I've never been in a relationship. We have been talking constantly for 3 weeks and commitment is not an issue for either of us but I was some what taken off guard when he asked me to be his girlfriend in such a short time because i thought cancers took things slow. I know he feels strongly for me but what would make a cancer rush into a relationship?

It can be heaven.

If one of you doesn't submit to the fact that the other one runs the relationship, get ready for World War 3.

What would make him rush?

He likes you. He sees a future with you and it's overwhelming his inner feelings. Don't lie...you feel the same.

3 weeks doesn't strike me as moving quickly. When I like someone it's a simple fact and I don't feel the need to draw out the process of courtship. If you like him, stop thinking and just go for it!

yes zosopage17 I see your point, and the fact that it looks promising and its my first relationship ever (didnt event have one in high school, now im in university) its a total shock.

dont get me wrong, i've had quite a lot of guys after me but after being single for 19 years of my life its different.

and over whelming feelings is an understatement ahaha

also, is it a "normal" thing for a cancer to be very excited at the beginning of a relationship?

Posted by croscorpio11
also, is it a "normal" thing for a cancer to be very excited at the beginning of a relationship?

this is so cute 🙂 and the answer is, yes!!!

so overall do scorpios and cancers last long together?
and what are some typical "bumps on the road" that these 2 zodiac signs usually encounter together?

Yea....he really likes you.....I think the fact that you've never been
In a relationship attracts him more to you.....took me a while to get in a real relationship
And females like you were hard to find.....Congrats he'll take care of you

Yea....he really likes you.....I think the fact that you've never been
In a relationship attracts him more to you.....took me a while to get in a real relationship
And females like you were hard to find.....Congrats he'll take care of you

Posted by LeoVirgoGirl
I know this is a cancer topic but if a scorpio start discussing number of children on the second week is it .BS or he is interested?

If cancer is trying to get you knocked up without any definition of relationship is it fear of losing you or they just to afraid to get abandoned and trying to leash you?

While his Sun Sign may give you some insight, this is really an individual issue. We can't really help you here, sorry. :/

Oh my gosh no, he doesn't want to knock me up yet. He's a traditional guy that wants to do things the right way.
Like he already wants to introduce me to his parents and mine don't even know we are actually dating, they just think we are seeing each other (they are very protective of me)
I feel like the luckiest girl right now
and i should clarify my question, in general does the romance go as quick as it came or does it stay for a while?
i undertand every situation is different but i was just curious in general

Like I said in my previous post:

Scorpio wants to dominate, cancer will be dominated. It's a harmonious matchup - the problem arises when it's a cancer male scorp female - the male has trouble being THAT dominated by his partner, so basically - unless the male submits to the fact that he's the subservient half of the relationship, it won't work.

Scorpios are intense - and I'd even say that Cancer is the ONLY sign in the Zodiac that can handle their intimidation, intensity, posessiveness and jealousy.

Being said, we're the sign that' sdeserving of their passion, immense love, fierce loyalty and unbelievable sex drive.

This relationshp takes WORK - but the attachment is and always will be there.

Negative side of cancer: If they feel betrayed or unloved, they will withdraw - possibly become resentful and lash, and possibly "with-hold" their love. It's a case of "fuck me and I will BUTT fuck you."

Scorpio: Needs to feel like the partner is a match for EVERYTHING they need. Believe me - if the Scorp isn' getting what he/she needs, they WILL go get it. Period. Scorpio works like that. This doesn't mean they aren't loyal, and aren't loving - they are arguably the most loyal and loving.

There will be secrets in this relationship. There will be deceit in this relationship. The upside is that these two signs both seek emotional security to the point that they will likely find a way to be honest with eachother, as long as they are ABSOLUTELY SURE that their feelings will be protected.

Like I just said - it takes work, but this is a marriage relationship. Scorpio and Cancer make wonderful parents together, both have the same general outlook on life and value emotional security above everything else. Good luck. I'm jealous.

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I too am a female scorpio in a relationship with a male cancer. And we both came from past relationships that were horrible for us both. We get along great because we've known each other for over ten years. We've been in a relationship for two yrs already. And I must say it wasn't peaches & cream all the time. Our biggest task has been recognizing our true feelings for one another and making a decision to handle each other with care. We truly love each other. The toughest part of our relationship was getting use to one another need for space. Which we just seem to know when to back off. Overall we are doing great. I think by us knowing each other for years really helped. We grew up together so we know a lot about each others past. We kind of vibe together....follow each others lead. We are so much alike its scary sometimes, we have just about everything in common. And we are so mushy together and we both love it. I wouldn't trade him for nothing else in the world. Did you have your charts done for compatibility . I've posted me and my cancer on the moon sign forum. But our charts are in sync all around. Im Nov 7th scorpio and he is July 6th cancer. I think our charts are posted in one of my threads. I truly wish you and your cancer the very best. I promise that you will never be bored lol. Everything about him is awesome!!! Plus we are older, I am turning fourty five come November. And he just turned fifty one. We are both very evolved lol.


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I wonder about the different/similar dynamics of the Can male/Scor fem vs Can fem/Scor male relationships?
Don't seem like we have many of these couples on here to give experiences.

I just wanted to thank everyone for their wonderful advice and insight, they really have helped me better understand my cancer guy and now I know what signs to look for and what situations to try to avoid.
Considering this is my first relationship and Im almost 19, im still very cautious and we've been together for a month and a half.
He tells me that as soon as we started talking that he just knew that we would have something great between us but Im still unsure because this is all new to me.
He cares about me deeply and goes out of his way just to see me because we live 30 mins away from each other and i dont have a car when Im away at school
And we are both very mushy, especially when it comes to pet names for each other.
But soon after we started talking and realizing we had a lot in common we decided that we are both willing to put in the effort to make it work, I'm pretty sure he meant it because, not to toot my own horn but within the community of young people we hang around with, I am quite the catch considering I have a clean reputation compared to most girls.
This past weekend, him and I went to one of our cultural community dances and one of his friends commented that he could see the connection between us two when I was dancing with my cancer guy.
The only thing I'm worried about is that this "newness" to the relationship will wear off eventually and the attachment, attraction and spark will be gone.
What is your opinion?

Google search "Cancer Scorpio Compatibility" and you'll see that just about everyone agrees this to be the best combination in the zodiac.

I won't say that this guy will be the love of your life and you will get married/have a life together forever. This is your first relationship and it is a very rare circumstance that one's first will be one's only, but it is possible and your chances, astrologically speaking, are high!

Do a bit of research to prepare yourself for some of the possible speed bumps, but otherwise enjoy the ride! 🙂

my first ever boyfriend was a cancerian. i lost my virginity to him. he was about 6 years older and i was 16 when i met him. it would've been great had i been a bit more mature and maybe it was the age difference too but he wanted different things from a relationship and i didn't really know WHAT i wanted. i ended up hurting him badly cos of it but he had a violent temper which was another reason it didn't work.

i'm now seeing another cancerian....ions after the first, lol. we're a similar age and singing from the same song sheet on the relationship front. at first he kinda irritated me cos he was so obviously keen on me but now, i'm beginning to think he's kinda great actually. now i've grown up a bit, this time round may be more successful!!

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
i'm beginning to think he's kinda great actually. now i've grown up a bit, this time round may be more successful!!

holy optimism batman!!! 😄

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
my first ever boyfriend was a cancerian. i lost my virginity to him. he was about 6 years older and i was 16 when i met him. it would've been great had i been a bit more mature and maybe it was the age difference too but he wanted different things from a relationship and i didn't really know WHAT i wanted. i ended up hurting him badly cos of it but he had a violent temper which was another reason it didn't work.

i'm now seeing another cancerian....ions after the first, lol. we're a similar age and singing from the same song sheet on the relationship front. at first he kinda irritated me cos he was so obviously keen on me but now, i'm beginning to think he's kinda great actually. now i've grown up a bit, this time round may be more successful!!

Totally called this.

well....you crab have these amazing eyes. girls too. you just wanna jump into their velvety smoothness *sign*

wow....i appear to have it bad!!

and i also appear to have banana fingers!!

i totally get what u mean by amazing eyes, they absolutely make me melt
and very cuddly as well :p

I know cancers are very family oriented but the other day he mentioned having kids together... we are only 19, i think he's getting ahead of himself just a bit, we haven't even been together for a full month lol
Dont be jumping to conclusions now, we both agreed that we will be waiting a long while before any of that happens

my cancerian brother met his current wife when they were both 19. he always knew she was the one right from the outset. they're still ridiculously loved up after 11 years of marriage. his wife's a libran.

It's true.