Cancer help.... im in a little dilema...

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Hi, crabs how are y'all doing this lovely morning? (in my time zone)...

As you all might know by now, the reason I'm always here is because cancer ex-Best friend and I don't talk to each other since out fall out a little bit more than a year ago... last time we saw and talk to each other was probably since May this year... after that she is gone MIA, she recently made a brief appearance, was polite, after a few days I've realized, she was not coming back...

Any how... since then as I've mentioned a couple times, I've been going on with my life, little by little let go of the idea of ever coming back or fixing anything since actions speak louder than words...

Well the reason I'm in a dilemma is because so far I had not planned anything for Halloween, obviously I don't want to stay home and be lame but also until last night none of my friends had a plan for anything... and most of them are not even interested... which kind of suck...

Last night one of my friends that is mutual friend from her and mine, texted me to invite me to a Halloween/faraway party because she is moving to Dubai on Nov 1, and she asked me not to missed...

I don't know what to, because I know cancer BFF will be there, she has been hanging out with this friend recently more than I do, I've kind of backed off from that group to avoid any more drama or gossips.

The thing is.... I sort of want to go just because I have not plans for Halloween and I don't want to stay at home, but at the same time I don't want to feel uncomfortable or make her feel that way either... my own insecurities talking but i feel I would be in her territory... but also at the same time this girl invited me and I'm kind of doing it because she is moving...

I'm also thinking that worst case scenario, I go for a little bit just to say hi... stay for 30 min or an hour and leave... IDK :-/

Any suggestions?? i resort to strangers because i dont know...
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As your fellow pisces I understand we tend to overthink things and future happenings a lot
BUT
A situation gets only as awkward as you treat it.
If you take things casual with her at the party,you'd realize you were simply freaking out for no major reason.
You just need to cleanse your mind from perceiving the situation to be awkward in any likelihood.
Go there,be normal,be the coolest you.
If you keep this no-awkward but only Mr. cool aura around you, don't be too surprised if you find her stopby wanting to talk to you herself.
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Posted by kissmygrits
Posted by maomao
You go there, and enjoy your time.
if you see her there, just say "Hi, nice to see you" and then walk away
Treat her like any other friend, nothing special
Yes. And can you contact the ones you still talk to? Maybe ya'll can go together?
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Yeah, you right, if people invited me is because they want me there, the rest is none of anybody's business...

Ive just text one of the other girls to see she wants to ride together...
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Posted by gia
As your fellow pisces I understand we tend to overthink things and future happenings a lot
BUT
A situation gets only as awkward as you treat it.
If you take things casual with her at the party,you'd realize you were simply freaking out for no major reason.
You just need to cleanse your mind from perceiving the situation to be awkward in any likelihood.
Go there,be normal,be the coolest you.
If you keep this no-awkward but only Mr. cool aura around you, don't be too surprised if you find her stopby wanting to talk to you herself.
Yeah you right, I dont know why i keep hidding as if i commited a crime, is only me no body else gives a rat ass otherwise they wouldnt have invited me... Ill have my normal fun and if we bump into each other ill simply said hi, how you been and make it normal... Thanks chica!
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Posted by Finbuff
The way you feel about, and are obsessed with her, I'd say don't go. You can't get over this woman and seeing her isn't going to make it easier. It's self abuse.
Is true I can't get over a person that I once cared and trusted very much, one that I've shared good and bad sitiations with, im a human no a robot, i cannot simply shut off those feelings... I've backed off and give her, her space... No contact no nothing...

Yeah seeing her it could feel weird... But is about time that i start living my life as normal and that includes the fact we have people that we shared, which still like to hangout with me love me and considered me as well as they do to her...

we will have to coexist in those random occasion we bump into each other by chanse