Cancer Male Antics`

The Cancer male equivalent of Cancer females has some antics which are puzzling. I see this happen over and over with many cancer men, no matter the age.

I was hanging with a Cancer male who I had known for a year or so. We would go for a drink, go hang out, nothing physical. Seemed like he liked me. I definitely liked him. We were both busy with work, home life etc. We started to talk more and more, went out over the summer. Made plans to do something, and then that day he stood me up. No call no text. Banished if that applies here. Then a month later he was in a relationship.

Have I been lead on? I am not sure. But it feels that way. On many levels I feel like I lost a friend, and I can not call and say do you want to go get a drink. He is in a relationship and I do not want to seem like I am trying to take him away from his gf. Which I am not.

The funny thing is that I was not looking for a relationship, and was just merely enjoying his company. No strings attached. I let men make the move. One night I just could not ignore the air between us. He was nervous, I could tell. I was nervous. We could not tie two words together just kept laughing at that for a half an hour. I then thought something was happening in a nice direction. Maybe I am a fool.


I have yet to figure out Cancer male behavior due to these types of actions. What is constant is every Cancer I meet (male) is a cookie cutter in this regard.

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Hmm... he knew you liked him. He probably liked you as a person and decided to spend more time with you to see if things would naturally move in that direction. It seems your feelings intensified, while his did not. He was probably seeing the other girl at the same time, which is perfectly normal since you had a casual, friendly relationship.

When you started having stronger feelings that he could not return, he left.

What would you have him say? This way you get the idea and he can avoid confrontation by telling you the obvious...

Agree w/ Shellshocker. He could feel that your feelings were intensifying more than his & he didnt want to confront you. I think because they are so chilvalrous and polite this probably happens to them often. Seems like it. I'd say it was classic behavior 'cept I think the standing you up w/out explanation was plain rude. He could've at least made up some lame excuse! It seems to me they like to stay on friendly terms so that part seems a little odd unless something said or done made him totally want to GTF. Time will tell if he comes back to resume the friendship. They tend to do that...

Shellshocker ( Love the name!) Yea I figured he was seeing someone at some point which is fine.

I never let my emotions show. No one really can tell my emotions not even cancers. They did not intensify until later that night when I was home. But I started to analyze things and that is what I concluded. But our reactions when we conversed were the same literally he was nervous like when you have feelings for someone, and after him I showed the same actions. Mimicking almost. Hope that makes sense. He seemed to have more feelings that I. He kept pushing to hang out a few times. I did not ask for a relationship nor did I make anything evident at all. And I mean AT ALL. The only way anyone would know is if I told them of my sentiments and they were that he was a fun person to be around and somewhat cute. But no intense emotions.

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What would you have him say? This way you get the idea and he can avoid confrontation by telling you the obvious..."

What would I have him say to what? If it is to the gf thing... Id congratulate him sincerely and say were just friends. Which we were, I hope we are. We were hanging out and I would never dream of saying well I want to date you.




MiaSangria~ That is exactly what bothers me the most. If he agreed to do something have the decency to call and say you can not make it. No reason necessary just a simple ...plans changed I can't make it I'm sorry. It is just good manners.

He was pretty dead on about going to the vicinity and he dropped hints that he would like to go etc etc...
Why make hints if you have someone else? And why invite me to a late evening stroll at that.
Before that though he did inquire about my interests to go for dinner etc. on a few occasions.
Which never happened because he never followed through with his suggestions.
I know that sounds flaky but hes not a flake. This is just some back story.


I mentally realize that we are somewhat different. We are both Cancers, stylistically im NY and he is Alabama but on the inside we had the same humor, ideas, and interests. Maybe he found some girl who is more like him which is a good.

I wish this stopped happening to me with men. But more than anything I wish I could be friends with people no matter if they had a significant other. I do not hit on married or taken men. I am cordial, reserved, and I do not overstep any boundaries. We started as friends, he sort of pushed it to a maybe not friends, and now were ha

hardly friends. and I miss that.

Caesar There would have been no confrontation at all.

haha @ miss Cleo. Watch this 🙂

Posted by caesarkreshen
He's a bitch! Anybody that would stand someone up without telling them is a piece of shit.

Yes it is douchebaggy, no one is saying that but I've done similar. Most people have but I don't think this is really the highlight of the problem with this guy, do you? really...


I tell people I'll call them and don't... I say I will go somewhere then don't... because I don't feel like it at the time. I'm much more considerate in one-on-one situations but even then I don't give any explanation. Fortunately, people I'm close to understand this about me so it's cool. My friends really just allow me to be myself and if something bothers them... they speak up about it, I will apologize and make more of an effort.

Has the OP called him on this action and expressed how she felt about being stood up? Or... is it way more than just that and to narrow it all down to being stood up would be displaying ignorance to the true intent of her frustration.

Hey is just a wsy to show his gf he loves her.
My cancer bby stopped talking to his friends
in a way to show me he loves me and is completly committed.
Idid the same too.
Dont get butthurt im sure when he if he leaves her
He'll talk to u again. 🙂

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by caesarkreshen
He's a bitch! Anybody that would stand someone up without telling them is a piece of shit.

Yes it is douchebaggy, no one is saying that but I've done similar. Most people have but I don't think this is really the highlight of the problem with this guy, do you? really...


I tell people I'll call them and don't... I say I will go somewhere then don't... because I don't feel like it at the time. I'm much more considerate in one-on-one situations but even then I don't give any explanation. Fortunately, people I'm close to understand this about me so it's cool. My friends really just allow me to be myself and if something bothers them... they speak up about it, I will apologize and make more of an effort.

Has the OP called him on this action and expressed how she felt about being stood up? Or... is it way more than just that and to narrow it all down to being stood up would be displaying ignorance to the true intent of her frustration.

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Most people would see being stood up in any situation rude. No explanation needed but a simple cancellation is standard. It's a bit different than calling since there are actual plans made. Im not sure what the bottom line is now. My bottom line is rude behavior. What does OP stand for?

I would really just like to know how a male cancer thinks within relationships and the thought behind his actions. Simply because I encounter many of them. And I am tired of having my emotions hurt. Not that I let them hurt me, it just happens that way.