Confused about my scorpio man?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by cestlavie24 on Monday, October 3, 2011 and has 14 replies.

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@cestlavie24
14 Years

I'm a cancer woman and I've been dating this Scorpio guy for three weeks or so now and all of a sudden he stopped contacting me. We always have fun whenever we're together and everything was going well. We were supposed to hang out on Friday night, but his manager called and told him he had to work Saturday and Sunday morning. OK, that's fine, I could understand. We skyped that night since I wanted to see him and he told me that he might not have to work on Saturday, so he'd text me Saturday morning to let me know.

Saturday rolls around, he texted me in the morning saying that he didn't have to work. Now, I've been emotionally closed off during this whole period we've been dating, simply because I don't want to come off as clingy/needy and I wanted to be a "challenge". However, I didn't want to hold myself back anymore, and tried showing interest in him. I told him that we should hang out, and since he had some errands to run, he said we could hang out after. I said, "Okay boo. Yes please " Hours passed, I canceled my plans with my friends and waited all day for him. I decided to call him to see when he'd finish up his stuff, but he didn't pick up his phone. I sent him a picture message after since I was excited about my new haircolor and thought he would dig it.. and to get him excited to see me. A few hours later, he texted me saying "Sorry, I can't come over today, I'm kinda going through a lot right now. Sorry." and I responded with, "That's fine. Hope everything is okay. I'm here if you need someone to talk to." and he said "Ok I appreciate it." I didn't want to poke and prod and ask him what was going on.

He didn't text me goodnight like he usually does, and he didn't say hi to me or texted me all day today. At first I was upset because he canceled on me and I rearranged me life/made myself available onto agreed upon event. But now I'm just worried that he's uninterested in me. Was I being clingy? Should I give him space or call him tonight asking what's up? I'm racking my brains out just thinking about it!

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Posted by cestlavie24
I'm a cancer woman and I've been dating this Scorpio guy for three weeks or so now and all of a sudden he stopped contacting me. We always have fun whenever we're together and everything was going well. We were supposed to hang out on Friday night, but his manager called and told him he had to work Saturday and Sunday morning. OK, that's fine, I could understand. We skyped that night since I wanted to see him and he told me that he might not have to work on Saturday, so he'd text me Saturday morning to let me know.

Saturday rolls around, he texted me in the morning saying that he didn't have to work. Now, I've been emotionally closed off during this whole period we've been dating, simply because I don't want to come off as clingy/needy and I wanted to be a "challenge". However, I didn't want to hold myself back anymore, and tried showing interest in him. I told him that we should hang out, and since he had some errands to run, he said we could hang out after. I said, "Okay boo. Yes please " Hours passed, I canceled my plans with my friends and waited all day for him. I decided to call him to see when he'd finish up his stuff, but he didn't pick up his phone. I sent him a picture message after since I was excited about my new haircolor and thought he would dig it.. and to get him excited to see me. A few hours later, he texted me saying "Sorry, I can't come over today, I'm kinda going through a lot right now. Sorry." and I responded with, "That's fine. Hope everything is okay. I'm here if you need someone to talk to." and he said "Ok I appreciate it." I didn't want to poke and prod and ask him what was going on.

He didn't text me goodnight like he usually does, and he didn't say hi to me or texted me all day today. At first I was upset because he canceled on me and I rearranged me life/made myself available onto agreed upon event. But now I'm just worried that he's uninterested in me. Was I being clingy? Should I give him space or call him tonight asking what's up? I'm racking my brains out just thinking about it!

I think you may have already fallen for this guy to some elevated degree.
I think the way to play it out is slow.... don't take what he says too personally.
I am not huge fan of being a Scorpio, myself... actually never gave astrology much thought until recently, but.... it is what it is..... To draw an analogy, I kinda think I am li

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16 YearsSagittarius

In my experience (my last ex was a Scorp) they have moments where things in their lives get "heavy" and they need to escape every one and every thing. Call it a "retreat to recharge". Mine did that frequently when drama came about in his life and unfortunately most of that so called "drama" was self induced. I wouldn't take the fact he's ignoring you to heart...he will be back, mark my words.
Just tread lightly my dear...my experience with the dramatic Scorp was not a good one. He was an emotional blood sucker, always playing the victim and damn near sucked me dry.

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@cestlavie24
14 Years

Hi guys! Thank you for your comments. You guys can obviously tell that I am smitten by this guy. He didn't want me to talk to other guys so I've directed my attention towards him.. which can be a bad or a good thing I guess. lol

I really do hope it has nothing to do with me and that he just needs time to recharge. I know sometimes I need my alone time too. I gave him a call last night to leave a voicemail, basically telling him that I hope he's okay and that I hope to hear from him soon and left it at that. Hopefully he will talk to me soon.. by then I hope I know what I want too. I am stuck between being mad (not wanting to take him back if he does decide to talk to me again) and wanting to start where we left off.

I'm feeling hurt right now from all of this since everything was so great, he was the one pursuing me and then BAM. He disappears.

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@sagittariuschick
14 Years

One thing I've learned being with my scorpio for 5 years now (though we are getting divorced, different story.) is that you can't take these moods too seriously. Of course don't ever let them know you think this way. Give them the space they need, DON'T take it personal. If they like you which he obviously does he'll come back. Now if it becomes a problem there's a different answer for that.

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@cestlavie24
14 Years

I've never blown him off.. lol. He's canceled on me twice, I always follow through with the plans. I make time for him and feel like I'm waiting for him. And I think I may have misworded what I meant to say. I'm not playing hard-to-get.. I am just being cautious. I know what I want, and I want him. It's only when he acts cold and detached is when return it. I even told him so. I've stopped talking to guys just to focus on him. He was the one who told me he was scared of commitment, and then told me he wanted to take things slow.. and then told me he wanted to date me. So he didn't really know what he wanted, I think I've shown him that I want him in subtle ways. So I think both of us are just being cautious right now. I don't like how you're making assumptions that I'm playing games with him, since you don't know ALL of the situation. When I really like someone, I like them. I show it through my actions. I've cooked for him, made plans, text him goodmorning/goodnight, etc.. I'm a really affectionate and caring person, but I don't want to just give that away. I want to make sure he likes it, otherwise I'm just going to feel hurt.

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@cestlavie24
14 Years

He texted me the other day to tell me that he was sorry for being MIA lately, it's because he's under a lot of stress.. So I believe that. I was freaking out because I thought when I opened up and became a little more affectionate, I scared him away.

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@cestlavie24
14 Years

I guess I'm also trying to act tough.. but inside I'm really mushy and gushy and just want to surrender myself to him. lol

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14 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by SagGal70
In my experience (my last ex was a Scorp) they have moments where things in their lives get "heavy" and they need to escape every one and every thing. Call it a "retreat to recharge". Mine did that frequently when drama came about in his life and unfortunately most of that so called "drama" was self induced. I wouldn't take the fact he's ignoring you to heart...he will be back, mark my words.
Just tread lightly my dear...my experience with the dramatic Scorp was not a good one. He was an emotional blood sucker, always playing the victim and damn near sucked me dry.

Are you talking about Mr. Soapstone?

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@BabyXdollXcapricorn
14 Years

The one thing about Scorp men is they require patience. If he's going through a lot of drama, it's best to be patient and let him sort it out on his own.