Cancer man accused me of disappearing....

I thought this was hilarious because they're known to disappear for no apparent reason. Many of you are familiar with my story. My lover/friend lives two hours from me which makes it difficult for us to see each other often. It's sort of a long distance relationship but we're not official. We love each other very much....I was visiting a relative who lives an hour from him in Sept.2011. Messaged him and he came down immediately to see me. There was lots of hugs and kisses. We couldn't keep our hands off one another, but I had snuck away from a party and had to return. He of course wasn't too happy because he'd planned to spend time with me. We departed after a long embrace that I didn't understand. He hugged me for a long time. I walked away wondering if it was a goodbye hug. The next day he messaged me. I was so happy to see he hadn't written me off. He stated that he was so happy to have seen me, that I was so beautiful which is why he stared constantly and that being in my presence made him feel alive. So sweet! Needless to say, we haven't been able to meet up again since. I work for a movie studio and my schedule is crazy hectic. We made plans to see each other two weeks ago which fell through on his end. He's been trying to reschedule but no go. I keep getting messages from him asking "when do I want to see him" and "when can he see me again." This is so intense, that I feel bad when i tell him I can't make it. Fast forward to today. I get a message from him but he's a little agitated. He said "hello are you still alive?" I thought he was joking, so I responded "hi ..... yes, I'm still alive." I asked him how was he doing and he stated he'd feel a lot better if he could be with me (not sure in what context he meant this. LOL) Then he says, "where the hell have you been, why do you continue to disappear on me?" Trust me people, we talk twice a week every week. I call him, he calls me, I have not disappeared. Then he goes on to tell me he desperately needs to see me, he misses me and could I meet him soon. He wanted to drive down 2 hours to see me tonight but I couldn't and I felt so bad telling him i couldn't. I've backed off a lot due to pass disagreements, but now he's acting a little upset with me. I honestly am at a loss here. I've just been taking it easy so I won't scare him off, but it seems that he wants the intensity that we once had, but I'm leery of going there with him....any insight is appreciated...

Hahaha @ paragraph breaks

Two hours is really not that long of a distance....if you really liked him then you could make the time! Me and my cmf live two hours apart and we see each other EVERY weekend and sometimes thru out the week.

I knew someone would call me on my lack of paragraphs. I apologize...ROFL

I agree, texting sucks major lemons....

@lostmymind: I agree with you. My fear is seeing him often and falling head over heals again and him doing his retreating trick like the last time which really hurt me because I didn't understand why. It almost seems as though the table has turned. I've retreated and now he's agitated. I think the best option would be to just talk to him about my fears.

Leo as a fire sign I understand your frustration at the disappearing act. I have had it with my cancer guy as well. At least you guys talk though. Trying to get anything out of my cancer guy is like trying to get blood out of a stone I tell ya!

If I have any advice from all the things I have read about cancer men it's this, Two steps forward and five steps back. They retreat into their shell not because they don't like you, or think about you, or don't love you it's because they feel too much sometimes. The intensity of their feelings is often what scares them and so off they go, back into the shell to figure out what is going on.

Hope everything is smooth sailing for you two. One thing I am learning about cancers is slow and steady wins the race and the prize is an amazingly affectionate, loving guy. And I'll not say no to that!

Best of luck!