Cancer man acting strange , PLEASE HELP!!

Hey everyone. So I met this cancer guy several weeks ago & from the minute I saw him I was attracted to him but never had the courage to talk to him ( im a taurus female by the way with my moon also in taurus and Venus in Pisces) So anyway one day he spoke to me & he seemed very stern & kind of mean but it attracted me a lot for some reason , he just kind of told it like it was which I love , he was so straightforward .. Weeks go by & he finally asked for my number & said he would text me . 10 minutes after having my number he texted me & we talked all day. At first I was skeptical of him because for some reason I felt like there was something very different about him so I didn't come off as too eager when we spoke but I was very kind to him and gave him my undivided attention when he called .. we texted for a few weeks constantly , he always made me laugh & he'd always call at the most random times. He would say things like "you're so beautiful" , "when can we hang out" , "you're gonna be my girlfriend soon" but he would also say things like "you better not fall in love with me" in a joking way. He was also very honest with me about what he wanted , he said he was just looking for a girl who he could hang with while also being intimate without it being a relationship but being that im a taurus, I like to be in meaningful relationships along with sex. I let him know upfront that I didn't just want to have sex but that I wanted to settle down eventually and that I probably wasn't the girl he was looking for but that we could still hang out and be friends also because I was seeing someone (not in a relationship, we had been on a few dates prior to me meeting this cancer, I told him about the other guy as. Well) .. He kept mentioning that he didn't want anyone to know about is because he didn't like people in his business and he asked me not to mention to the guy I was seeing that me & him had been intimate, he was very persistent when telling me this as well but I agreed to it & then out of nowhere he changed up and said that he wanted to be more than just friends and that he wanted a relationship like I did, this baffled me because he just switched up so fast.. . Few days go by and After much peruasion, he got me to hang with him and I went with him to do errands and then we went back to his place to just hang out. Even tho he constantly asked about the guy I was seeing Everything was going great, and after hanging with him for a few hours I started to see

started to see this really soft side of him that made me fall for him even harder. We ended up being intimate that day and I must say it was amazing & he told me how lucky he felt just being around me & how gorgeous I was. He even asked me to be his girlfriend, I told him we should take things a little slower but I'd be happy to accept in the near future. He made me feel things I had never felt before & I crave his prescence when he isnt around me.. After he dropped me off back at my house the next morning but never contacted me after we had sex or anything but I didn't let it bother me. I decided to look him up and find a little more about him, I found out he had been arrested a few times on very minor charges but what shocked me most was that I found out he had a son.. I had asked him if he had kids earlier that day and he said no & that he couldn't have kids so that came as a huge shock & It bothered me a little that he lied about it so I wanted to bring it to his attention without coming off too strong so the next afternoon I saw him in class and he sort acted like I didn't exist and he was also being a bit too friendly with 2 female class mates , I must say it really did hurt my feelings and it started to show on my face. He seemed concerned and asked me several times what was wrong but I assured him it was nothing. After class was over around 2, he told me he had business to take care of but that when he was done, he wanted to see me. I waited all day for him, couldn't get him off my mind and it upset me that he was taking so long so at about 5 I gave him a call just to check on him and he said he was still busy, and kept asking what was wrong and even got a little upset when I said I wanted to wait to tell him in person and he said until I told him he wasn't going to pick me up so when we hung up I texted him and told him the reason why I was upset and I even asked him about his son. I got no reply.. At about 8 that night
I texted him and told him he didn't have to see me and to just hang with me another time since he was so busy. Still no reply. I actually got a little worried so I gave him a call around 9:30 that night and he answered and acted as if him ignoring me all day was normal but I remained calm and he said he would be at my house in 15 minutes. He showed up but I could tell he had been having a rough day so I rubbed his back for him while he was driving, just showed him affection. Once we got to his place he showed me all his stuff he'd

all day his stuff he'd bought earlier that day, we laughed a little and I helped him study for an upcoming exam and we also had sex again but everything felt different .. He even started talking about how he couldn't relate to anyone at our college and he even said he wanted me to now tell the guy I was seeing that we've been seeing eachother, I got so confused. This bothered me a lot, I'm very intuitive so I know when something's not right and the way he was acting towards me was odd. I spent the night and we cuddled all night, he kept me close to him. It's the next day and I haven't seen or heard from him since this morning. I know it's still early to be feeling this way but I'm so lost. I really like him a lot but these mixed signals are driving me crazy. He made me feel so special before and now he doesn't even give me the time of day or even the courtesy to just text back or call back. I know this is really long but I really need help. Any one —

GOOD LUCK! This is all very typical from my experience. He will have secrets that he won't tell you about for AWHILE. Although I think keeping a child a "secret" is a big deal, especially when it wasn't just a lie of omission but an outright lie. I wouldn't get over that easily.

If you do resolve that, just don't expect this to be easy. I know firsthand the strong pull to a Cancer man, but you and you alone will determine how much you are willing to put up with and if the benefits FAR exceed the negatives.

You're right. It's tough but I really care for him & can't get him out of my head. He asked me to see him tonight so I guess we can talk then

There's a fine line between being understanding and accepting of crappy behaviour. If someone likes you, they should act like it. Why choose to make things complicated when you could simplify them, you teach people how to treat you. Be understanding all you like, but if you don't express what you're feeling and what you require and stick to that, then you probably won't get it.

Youre right. I just don't want to come off as being a nag or expecting too much too early but I'm going to start putting my foot down... If he decides he wants to disappear and not speak to me I'll just move on .

It always seems irrational to ask for what you deserve, but it shouldn't. You don't have to nag. Just say it and mean it.

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It always seems irrational to ask for what you deserve, but it shouldn't. You don't have to nag. Just say it and mean it.

You're absolutely right. I was just afraid of scaring him away but I guess Zodiac or not if someone wants you, they'll make an effort.

Jesus christ... that was a novel you wrote. I realize one thing.