Dish it but can't take it?

Is there a reason why a cancer man can dish things but won't be able to take it? Sometimes my cancer bf will take forever to respond to a text or call back, (it feels intentional at times) but when I happen to do this, he gets very upset/ hurt! And that was just one example. What gives?

Posted by Arielle83
It's because he's telling you who's boss, and it's not you.

Is that really what it is? What am I supposed to do? He drives me nuts when he does it to me and I've told him that.

Find someone else-- he's the only party who can claim

injury.

No offense to Cancer men but I've seen that side and it's

nasty.

Common Cancer trait, especially the males. I usually tell people you have 3 options when dealing with our more unpleasant moods: you can get mad and lay into us, but that will have a negative affect of either drawing us into our shell or making the claws come out. You can ignore it, which either makes us feel like you don't care about what we say/feel, or it makes us freak out because you're unhappy with us so when the bad mood is over we'll try to make it better. Your final, and in my opinion best option, is to be calm and understanding (I always tell people open and honest communicating is key). This is difficult for most people, considering how childish we are when we're upset or we don't get our way, but it works. It sounds ridiculous, but when a Cancer is acting like a child, you have to be the adult. You (hopefully) wouldn't waste time arguing with a 4-year-old. A pissy Cancer is the same way. If we feel attacked, we usually blow up or shut down. There's just no talking to a hurt or angry Cancer. We're pretty annoying.

Thank you for your advice. Cancers are so hard to understand sometimes.

Cancer men are so annoying. The females are fun, from my experience, but wow, the boys are just big babies. I could never date one, I would probably crush their soul since my tolerance levels for bullshit has lowered significantly after a couple of doozy exes.

There are some days I can be as what is being said dish it out but can't take it, Cancers are no worse than Aries I've seen Aries have temper tantrums if you push them too far they love to dish it out but they don't take it well at all.

When I get moody I like to be left alone, don't bug me.

Meh! We're bosses!

I dated a male cancer and never had that issue. I'm a cancer female and never do that. I have dated a scorpio and he was TERRIBLE at that. After we broke up, and were off again/on again, he would intentionally take forever to respond to my texts. But if I waited even 5 minutes to respond to his, he would freak out. I think it's a control issue, not a cancer issue. In scorpios (I know a lot of them), they are the W O R S T at dishing something out but not being able to take it. Holy. Hell.

Give him a taste of his own medicine. Let him see how it feels.

Could it be that they don't mean it the way you think? I want to know this too.

females pull out the same crap