Cancer man keeps running

Okay so I met my cancer boyfriend right after my divorce from my ex husband. That relationship was super bad. I had two kids with him out of that marriage. When I met my boyfriend my daughter was only 1 and my son was 3. So he came in the picture when they were super little. He absolutely fell head over hells for me and then my kids as well. You can tell he loves them as his own. He would even claim them as his own to other people.

We've had a pretty freaking awesome relationship. There is definitely a lot of love there. He's my best friend and we've been together over 2 years now.

But now after time things are definitely more complicated. Anytime any conflict comes up he just runs away. A few times he actually broke up with me but came back a few days later. This time it was over something not even a big deal at all. He just refused to talk and got in his car and left. I tried to talk the next day. Apologized, all that. The convo was very reasonable but then he just stopped replying. No resolution.

I just let him be because I figured out that giving him his space is usually what gets him talking again. Well days went by. I figured he would be done being mad by now. I sent him this whole thing trying to level with him and be empathetic to how he was feeling (probably shouldn't have done that yet but oh well) He just replied acting all pissed still. But no break up was ever voiced by him. I just let him be.

Then I see he's flirting on social media. Really harmless stuff but still not cool at all. Then he blocked me. Which is not unusual for him when he's like this. I'm sure it's to get a reaction out of me.

Anyways, he's pretty predictible with this stuff. And he always comes back around. However, how in the world do you end this cycle. I'm so freaking tired of it at this point. I really don't want to give him up because he is super great otherwise and it makes it harder with the kids. But I am getting to a point where this needs to change. Has anyone gotten through to them over this issue?

Im stuck in it too. I think the answer is, you can't end this cycle . It is who he is . You have to find a way to be happy when he gets like that until he comes around. If he loves you, this is part of his personality and he will come around. When he get like this, you remind yourself that it's him , not you . Go to the gym, take a yoga class, focus on your kids and leave him be. In a day or two give him a hug. The cycle could end faster but that means you have to manipulate him a little by making him feel like you're giving in once he calms down. You can also just wait until he goes back to normal.

This behavior will never change. People who does well with cancer are usually people who can tolerate this behavior easily. Think of a kid with an attitude.

I would leave now if you can't deal with something like this for the rest of your life . If you learn to understand how he behave, you simply go into your happy zone and you're not dealing with anything at all.

You also have to consider your kids. I'm not saying never find love but that you want someone that can be great influence around them. Cancer men are grown up, mature and romantically while staying as a kid with attitude who needs attention. You already have 2