cancer man STALKING & cant let go!! HELP :(

yikes! not all cancers are like that even if they do cling to the past.

my 1st bf was a cancer and he was almost that nuts. when i broke it off he showed up at my door at 3 am a few nights later, shit faced drunk, and told me he was driving around hoping he'd kill himself. he got over it but for years he'd try to keep in contact.

i'm close to another cancer who is also in his 30's and he's very emotionally stable. he wouldn't dream of pulling that shit. he'd probably just cut me off for a while.

regardless of sign, do what u gotta do to protect urself! next time u get a weirdo on ur tail, um, keep him off of it :p no contact!

lol, I must admit I found this pretty funny. I think most of us keep that intensity to ourselves so that it doesn't show as psychotic behavior like this.

You probably don't deserve this, but what made you think it was a good idea to have sex with someone that takes things so seriously and then to flip him off? If I ever have sex again, it won't be with just anyone that I wouldn't care about. I'm not saying I would act this bad, but I'd think you're one sleazy worthless bitch, you know what I mean?

I'd get over it quicker, that's for sure.

ninja:
yah not all cancers are like that i'm sure. haha. i guess all i could do is to not respond.
but my pics are on his page, n i really wanna get rid of that

crabby :
it is hilarious, yet creepy..
bitch comment, yes i was just using him.. blame on my mars in scorpio placement.
but i did not lead him on.. i clearly let him know what i was/wasnt lookin for in the beginning.

i had a stalker of sorts who was a cancer. i never slept with him. he never knew where i lived. he didn't know my last name and couldn't spell my first name correctly. i never gave him my email address or added him on any social networking sites. all he knew of me was my phone number, where i worked, and a couple places i went to occasionally because i'd brought him with me.

i had gone out with him in the 'get to know each other' sort of way. he pushed way too fast and was just downright demanding. i'm a libra. we like to make people happy, but we absolutely hate it when people just expect something of us. when i told him to slow down, he'd agree, then next thing i knew he was texting me about how bad he wanted to do things to me sexually...and when i wouldn't reply, he would accuse me of doing things with other people (it wasn't his business, but i wasn't), being a lesbian, being a whore, etc.

for a while, i tried to reason with him. i'm a big believer that the best way to deal with crazy people is to treat them like they're sane. they usually start acting sane, at least within that context. didn't work with him. eventually, i finally called the police for advice on what i could do. when i told him that i had spoken to the police and would file a report if he ever contacted me again, he finally took me seriously.

of course, several months after that, he called asking me to help his friend get a job at some place we'd gone once, where i had absolutely no actual connections. it was just a place i liked hanging out. i told him that, and told him that we weren't friends and that he had no right asking me for favors. i knew he'd only contacted me with that trying to get me to be friendly with him. does not work with me.

i got a new number a month ago, so i know i won't be hearing from him again on that. but i feel pretty sure he wouldn't contact my old number either at this point.

you might want to try actually talking to the police about him. technically, there isn't much they can do. but he might take you more seriously if he knows you've actually done something.

oh, and the one i dealt with definitely put everything back onto me. i was being mean. i was trying to hurt him. i was trying to make him mad. it was always me being the bad guy, never him. i would tell him that if i was a bitch, he shouldn't want me, and he'd act like some martyr who wanted to forgive me. AND IT DOESN'T WORK THAT WAY!!!! ugh. so frustrating.

Just learn to choose a bit more wisely instead of playing the field just for having admirers. I know women tend to do that, but it's hard to sympathize afterward.

Again, these stories are pretty funny, even though this clearly doesn't do good for the crabby population. Like we need this on top of all the other stuff.

i'm sorry, mr. crabby. if it makes u feel better the one that got weird on me was technically a cancer-gem cusper. he had a gem moon. the sane one is a double cancer and i love him dearly!

Posted by ninjamu
i'm sorry, mr. crabby. if it makes u feel better the one that got weird on me was technically a cancer-gem cusper. he had a gem moon. the sane one is a double cancer and i love him dearly!

Oh, it's fine, I'm a big intense weirdo too, just not as much as the uber-creep. Double-crabby too.

that's pretty creepy. I'd change my number and call the police if that happened to me! Or have my brother break his knees, whatever...

Posted by mr.crabby
Just learn to choose a bit more wisely instead of playing the field just for having admirers. I know women tend to do that, but it's hard to sympathize afterward.

Again, these stories are pretty funny, even though this clearly doesn't do good for the crabby population. Like we need this on top of all the other stuff.

that may be the case with the OP, but in my case, but i've never been one to date around for the sake of having admirers. i only need one real relationship. i met a guy who seemed really sweet, so i decided i'd get to know him better and maybe date him if we clicked that way. he didn't actually want to date me. he just wanted sex and a "relationship" that would basically consist of me being available for him to have sex with whenever he wanted and not much more. he started getting really pushy trying to get it too. and he just wouldn't take no for an answer, no matter how many times i said it. he was very tall and large and strong. and if he'd known where i live, i have zero doubt that he would've showed up, broken in, and raped me. the whole time believing that no means yes, because he clearly thought that. he was actually surprised when i told him i'd spoken with the police.

he'd totally been coddled by his mom. he was used to getting whatever he wanted. though, in hindsight, i'm sure he bossed his mom around more than she coddled him. but whatever. should've been a red flag.

I'd hate being a woman, seriously.

Must be hard to tell a poor pathetic guy from a total dangerous whackjob.

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