Cancer Man Suddenly Disappears

first time to post but I have been reading the forrum for a long time. Here is my predicament.

I am a scorpio and we have been very close friends with this cancer. now for 6months we have been dating, we havent seen each other though since he migrated to canada and i live here in US. but he had planned this week to come here in my place to pay me a visit finally. now 3days ago he hasnt called or texted or go online from facebook to skype.

first 2days makes me thought that anything can happen. I called his cell and its on voicemail since 3days ago.

just want a few comments on cancer men here. coz i dont really want to waste my time. i just dont have that stamina anymore

he must be busy....relax!!! its all part of the plan! :p

Posted by maggie14344
first time to post but I have been reading the forrum for a long time. Here is my predicament.

I am a scorpio and we have been very close friends with this cancer. now for 6months we have been dating, we havent seen each other though since he migrated to canada and i live here in US. but he had planned this week to come here in my place to pay me a visit finally. now 3days ago he hasnt called or texted or go online from facebook to skype.

first 2days makes me thought that anything can happen. I called his cell and its on voicemail since 3days ago.

just want a few comments on cancer men here. coz i dont really want to waste my time. i just dont have that stamina anymore

He is in his Cancer shell chilling, dont bother him and he will come out happy to see you

Posted by krebbsmann
he must be busy....relax!!! its all part of the plan! :p

wow I was definitely thinking I was shouting at a wall...


What plan—

Posted by HighTide

Posted by maggie14344
first time to post but I have been reading the forrum for a long time. Here is my predicament.

I am a scorpio and we have been very close friends with this cancer. now for 6months we have been dating, we havent seen each other though since he migrated to canada and i live here in US. but he had planned this week to come here in my place to pay me a visit finally. now 3days ago he hasnt called or texted or go online from facebook to skype.

first 2days makes me thought that anything can happen. I called his cell and its on voicemail since 3days ago.

just want a few comments on cancer men here. coz i dont really want to waste my time. i just dont have that stamina anymore

He is in his Cancer shell chilling, dont bother him and he will come out happy to see you

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OH God! High Tide, i am so happy that I didnt left him a message hahahaha... but yeah since your here why does he go something like that— you cancer guys go into like that— its just so frustrating. spread some light here

Oh my god can it be because weve been having conversation about how its so hard LDR is— ever since we have that conversation I notice that he is so gloomy all of a sudden and then he goes so distant (the so creepy one word reply to the conversation. I have to change a topic something fun memories weve had to bring him back to present and make responses that is not just one word conversation...

you think this may be part of that shell thingy— oh i hate this shell thingy...its giving me migraines

Since you are a Scorpio, you must certainly relate to retreating, M.I.A, and simply down time to relish time to replenish the inner self. When we Stingers are in such a 'mood', we truly appreciate others when they allows us to relax in our own space, so we could restore our own life blood supply only to return into the world, to give ourselves to those who matter with all that we have got. Take this concept and apply it in a somewhat similar way with your Mr.Crab, be understanding. If you need your time, so would he, it may not be the best of ways to disappear off entirely without a trace but once he decides to poke his head out of his shell again, after he has but finished with his time, then communicate this, but do not go on the whole Scorpion "sarcastic" route, simply be as you were, kind, gentle and accepting (not a door mat, but I should hope you know what I mean).

This is something in which I had previously written-

Classic Crab

= Instinctively putting others before you, it is that 'mothering' idea, you see someone hurt/bothered etc. and the reaction which you have is to help, to reach out, to nurture so to speak. Well, that is one spectrum of it, on the other end is being completely selfish but then again Crabs need to be selfish, in a way, because if they do not have their space or mood swing time to themselves, they can not possible recharge themselves, if they can not recharge themselves then in turn they cannot to return back into the world, fully, to those whom they love and care about.

Therefore to an extent, their selfishness is in the long run, beneficial to those whom they love, people will just have to accept, understanding and compromise themselves, their ways with you all. Because at the end of the day, every one has a choice, allow the person to have what they need so they can return to you whole, or to constantly have a person around who is always incomplete.

Posted by maggie14344
but he had planned this week to come here in my place to pay me a visit finally. now 3days ago he hasnt called or texted or go online from facebook to skype.

first 2days makes me thought that anything can happen. I called his cell and its on voicemail since 3days ago.

just want a few comments on cancer men here. coz i dont really want to waste my time. i just dont have that stamina anymore

So he's supposed to come and see you this week, but all a sudden just disappears? Turns his phone off and doesn't respond to skype/fb? No explanation? Sorry but that's freaking RUDE!!

@FieryBullette

yeah didnt even remembered to tell me if he went on a fishing trip or camping... oh well

@THeLadyScorpio

thanks..i've always have that idea of space...one point though is that he didnt tell me and worst is i was expecting him to be here...with all the planning and everything ... i had to technically make a leave in the office for the whole week since he is coming ... oh well, guess ill just go on a vacation myself too

Posted by maggie14344
@FieryBullette

yeah didnt even remembered to tell me if he went on a fishing trip or camping... oh well

@THeLadyScorpio

thanks..i've always have that idea of space...one point though is that he didnt tell me and worst is i was expecting him to be here...with all the planning and everything ... i had to technically make a leave in the office for the whole week since he is coming ... oh well, guess ill just go on a vacation myself too

Go by the three strike policy and give him the benefit of the doubt until then (communicate anything that is disagreeable with him sanely when he does returns), once he has proven himself unworthy/failure/guilty otherwise, then as other Crab ladies have mentioned on here. Drop him.

When someone is not available when you want him to be, you should dump his ass.

Posted by mr.crabby
When someone is not available when you want him to be, you should dump his ass.

you're kidding right?

doesn't it really depend why someone wants you and how often they want you to be available?

your moods are all over the place. 1 day you're like, "Leave the crab alone, he'll come when he's ready muther fucker!"

the next you're all like, "If he's not available on your terms, dump him?" lol

awwww, I get it. Mr. Crabby... do you want a Scorpio? 😉

hahaha, by the mood and the way crabs are replying in my post seems you guys are in for an emo weeks.

I've been assessing your responses and matching his responses, calls and conversations the past weeks and yes it seems there is a EMO in the air.

@Mr. Crabby, don't worry I may banging my head in analyzing what's up with my crab. I am stressing my patience, still thinking that it can work though. After all this is this his first blow. I can't know what's what if is still on a cave right. Dumping is no problem with me when I know its not just worth it anymore.

@TheLadyScorpio

yeah, my thoughts too benefit of the doubt and 3 strikes policy ... so far its strike one, i am giving him the 2weeks term. After that is no longer stretching, I aint no hurry to go fishing either.


@shellshocker

you think Mr. Crabby wants a scorpio— thats just hilarious! LOL

Posted by shellshocker
awwww, I get it. Mr. Crabby... do you want a Scorpio? 😉

Not at the moment.

Hi guys...updating this thread. My cancer is back...and you guys are right, he acted like he did'nt disappear or something. had to sit him down and seriously talk to him though about it, but not rude angry way, for some reason i was very calm and straight to the point about it.

but now that its going back to normal again, i feel i don't trust him again. trust is a big factor for me in a relationship and it was a very big deal for me especially if you made plans and Ive made such an effort to make room. I don't know it seems break up is in the horizon for this cancer-scorpio relationship.

If you made such comments about ldr then hes probably gloomy and suspicious...thinking you must be dating someone in us.

In the small hours of the morning
A sigh in my window
Wait by Silence...each moment pierce through like a knife
How do I reach you when you make me an outsider
Tell me How do I breach this gap
And do I reach you when you make me invisible...
How do I tell you its alright from the other side...


my god cancer man... disappearance act is just blowing up my mind.