Cancer men assholes?

Okay, in the astrology form I explained this much better

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/astrology/are-all-sparkle-motion-cancer-men-undateable-5229111/

But now I need to talk to cancers. Being a pisces, I know all about dark sides and emotions and having two halfs to myself, but I want to see why he's doing this to me. He literally is taking advantage of my kindness and every time I step up and say it to him he gets mad, and we fight and it turns into me saying I'm done and im not going to talk to him anymore, and last time this happened I meant it so much that it got nasty, I cussed him out and blamed it all on him and tried to make him feel as shitty as I did, and I accomplished it maybe a bit too much. But I can't keep going in these careless emotional circles with him, it's making me feel like I'm being held down and I love him so much, and I'm willing to fight for it, and if I just stop it'll be months of wasted time. But I just want to know why he's doing it. Men and women cancers, got an idea?

mean what you say ,say what you mean.

Posted by Zatte
How is he taking advantage of your kindness?

Every god damn day, I get off my ass and put everything down to make sure he's okay, I talk to him about his problems and I try to help him and make him feel better. It's a daily thing. I do it all the time. And I want to make him feel better, I don't need much in return. But to sit there after I put so much fucking effort into him, he not only completely ignores me when I feel like shit because he said something that hurt me, or he gives me short little responses when he doesn't "feel like talking" well I don't feel like talk most of the time because I'm not a big "extrovert". And I still do it. And when I try to even bring up how I feel about him disregarding my feelings he gets mad. I'm just sick of it. Why be kind to someone who's an asshole to me.

Posted by Twodrinkminimum
When you say you're done in a fight you're basically validating his worries that you'll leave when times are hard and you can't handle his mood swings.

I can't handle his mood swings. They're way too often. I can't handle it at the moment at least. And every day I think to myself "what am I doing, why don't I just go and find someone else" but I cant. I love him, and he needs me. The last time when I was pretty much going to block him and stop talking to him he went crazy to the point where he became suicidal so I couldn't just go. I wish I did but he always makes me feel bad and convinces me to stay and I feel trapped. I don't mind feeling trapped if it's a good relationship, but it's not. It's good for him and I pick up all the slack and I'm sick of it.

Posted by Twodrinkminimum
It's not your job to save him. If he's threatening suicide, that's not a healthy relationship. You're doing him a disservice by allowing and enabling that type of treatment. Trust me, I went through the same thing. You can't carry someone through life.

If you already know what you're dealing with then deal with it. It's not going to get better.

If you can't or don't want to deal with it...move on.

Wow. I don't think I could have had a more mind clearing and wise answer than that. Thank you. Not I have to think about how worth it he is to me, and his part it's not looking to well. I'll talk to him about it and tell him if he keeps treating me like I don't matter I'm going to walk away.

He seems like a very immature and selfish man. Him threatening suicide if you leave is extremely emotionally manipulative. It's not your job to keep him happy, or to babysit his emotions. A relationship is a about partnership, and he should be bolstering you, as much as you bolster him. If he can't be bothered to be there with encouragement, sympathy, empathy, caring, but is willing to take it from you, then he's just an energy vampire.

Will it hurt to leave him? Yes! You're so addicted to this idea of a fantasy relationship with him, but it's not matching your ideal. Stop looking at it with rose colored glasses, and step back, and be a little objective about it. If this was your sister in your spot, what would you tell her to do? Would you want her to stay with him?

Do expect that he'll try to rein you in, will beg, plead, threaten, whatever, if you leave. You have to decide what you want, and what you're not willing to put up with.

I'll add this: threatening suicide if you leave is a form or emotional ABUSE. I'm willing to bet you haven't thought of his behavior as abusive, but it is. I know, I left a marriage that was exactly that.

Posted by MoonArtist
I'll add this: threatening suicide if you leave is a form or emotional ABUSE. I'm willing to bet you haven't thought of his behavior as abusive, but it is. I know, I left a marriage that was exactly that.

Wow, I'm sorry 😢 that must have been tough, and you're right, I'm stuck in an imaginary world with him in it as perfect and I need to step out of it immediately

Posted by Finbuff
I had one of by biggest love affairs with a Pisces woman as a cancer me. She was older. Over time it became clear she was way too unchallenging, sappy and too easy for me. I just fell out of love over time. It sounds to me like this Cancer just isn't very into you. I'd take the hint and run. Simple. Don't kiss his azz, he don't deserve it.

But that's the thing. He is, I'm the one getting sick of his shit. I love him don't get me wrong but I know that any day I could find someone else easily, whereas he can't. I was the first girl in his life, we're both young btw, I'm almost sixteen, and he's 17. But besides that, I'm the first girl to come across him because he's too shy and insecure to get one -_- I'm just sick of it. I really am.

16 years old! Hun, you are way too young to get saddled long term with this kind of mess. He'd definitely not mature.

Thank you guys :3