cancer on my last nerve...

Last time I talked to my cancer I gave him attitude(it really wasn't that bad)

I just told him "whatever" about the situation we were talking about...

now he's acting like a little bitch, hiding in that shell again...

Anyway, I notice that whenever this happens, I'm the one who always has to call him first and talk it over...........well not this time...

I'm done babying him......patience is something I'm still need help with, but whatever...

I need a man to be a man, not a little baby, shit I'm not a mother yet....







that is all...

LMAO that was too funny.... I'm having the same problem... effin water signs. =p

Um, if you leave him alone and not call him and keep all your energy to yourself, then he will come back around. You really don't need to have attitude with anyone. You want to be an open invitation to him without putting him in defensive mode. Share your feelings from deep within your heart. He withdraws from you because you two are not connected emotionally.

What were u giving him attitude about? Stop worrying about what he's doing and focus on yourself. cancer men doesn't want a lady u to be his mother, he wants a "woman". Stand on ur own and he we crawl right back 2 u. Seems to me that u have to much time on ur hands😢

Seems to me that u have to much time on ur hands....

I agree and I am not trying to put you down but why even initiate contact with ANY man who isn't constantly or consistently calling you? I don't know if maybe you want more from him than he is willing to give but yes, most men want a lady. When you have an attitude and act hard all any man will do is look at you as a sex and passion queen. Why would he call you just to talk or see how you are doing!

You are falling right into his trap and now that he feels he has conquered you, you probably are no longer someone who he sees himself settling down or being in a serious relationship with. Men only conquer women who don't hold their wits about themselves and once he has conquered you, he doesn't really want to have anything else to do with you. That is the reason why you have to call him.

"You want to be an open invitation to him without putting him in defensive mode. Share your feelings from deep within your heart."

I definitely agree with this. I'm a Sag talking to a Cancer and I have known him for 3 years and I'm still trying to figure him out...lol. But recently he was out of contact for a couple of weeks and that's unusual. Most times he doesn't let a week go by without some sort of contact whether by phone, email or text message. I sent him a brief email asking how come he was so distant...no response. I let a couple weeks go by and then sent another email, cause i knew he wasn't going to answer the phone, letting him know that i was feeling shut out and poof...instant response. I knew something was wrong and something was wrong and it had nothing to do with me. He shared his feelings with me and I with him and then we moved on from there. I didn't give him any grief about not contacting me because I already knew that something was wrong. My main goal was to allow him space to open up to me and he did. This is the "dance" that occurs and when he gets back on track we will get back to our regulary scheduled program.

What I am finding is that if i remain calm and just share my feelings with him...he will do it right back. I don't throw anything back up in his face. We just have an open communication where we just listen to each other and share our true feelings without worrying about being judged. My Cancer Moon helps me out a great deal with him and I do admit I get frustrated sometimes but then I calm down and realize i'm frustrating my ownself...lol.

My advice...be his friend first and foremost. He's getting a glimpse into how you communicate with him right now. It's a matter of adjustment. If you are willing to make some adjustments in how you communicate with him and relate to him then he will notice it a come around more often. I openly told my Cancer that I wanted us to be able to talk to each other about anything and feel safe telling each other our true feelings without fear. Think about what you want from him and put yourself in his shoes. If you were a Cancer (knowing everything you know about them) how would you approach a possible relationship? What signs/patterns would you be looking for in that person to determine if this is someone you would want to give your heart to?

The "whatever" you said to him made him feel like you didn't care about what he said to you. Now he's in his shell.

I know how frustrating Cancer men can be, trust me.
Gemini and CAncer is a rough pairing. They are soooo sensitive and that seems to annoy you Gems.

Why bother?

Every Cancer I know treats their lady/main man like shit once they get you. It's almost as if after all the conniving and deceiving (never knew a Cancer who told the whole truth), once they get you, they're bored with you. And heaven help you if they don't "need" you anymore! You are out the door. Most Cancers I know are also utter snobs -- the whole money/status/how you appear in society is incredibly important. And even if they don't have a rag to wipe their ass on, you sure as shit better be somebody. And they'll still treat you like shit even if you're paying their bills!

I agree CANCERB - I don't know any Cancers (male/female) that are this way. They're just the opposite. Sure, they LOOK GOOD and HAVE A NICE SWAG; but they don't have to work hard at doing either. Money/Status is not important to them; every now and then this may matter...But this has never been their main focus.

Word! I never heard this b4, my cancer is nothing like this. Status?? I never heard that one. we don't about status we don't give 2 d**** about status. We rather be alone anyway. lmao.

"Seems to me that u have to much time on ur hands"

Honey, I work mon-fri and sometimes saturdays, 49 hours a week, to be honest I don't have enough time on my hands.

and besides I don't even call him like that, maybe once a week if that, so what do you mean?

yeah?

well since this post he finally made an attempt to contact me, and even stopped by to see me, so whatever...

I just realized that when it comes to this cancer man, I have to deal with him very loosely, even though he was the one who came to me talking that relationship crap...

so my new motto for cancer men is: give them your ass to kiss, and they'll come crawling back...and I mean that in the nicest way possible, so don't go taking my head off 🙂

"give them your ass to kiss, and they'll come crawling back...and I mean that in the nicest way possible"

- LMFAO!

Sadly eagle is partially correct. Some of us, myself included are "snobs". I always attributed it to my capricorn moon tho.

I don't want a man that everybody knows unless his reputation is IMPECCABLE. I refuse to be the laughing stock...parading around town with some con artist...or manwhore or broke individual with zero prospects.

Da hell? manjust like me was supposed to be man hore.... What a sick cruel joke dxp!

Da hell? manjust like me was supposed to be man hore.... What a sick cruel joke dxp!

Taurus , are pretty much the same ,and worst once its over with Taurus u don't get another chance . aleast cancer's do feel your pain when they push you to far.