Cancers and calling

What is it with Cancers?

They ignore calls...don't return calls or answer texts... NO manners! And this is even if they are not in their shells and things are good with you and them.

What is it with Cancers?

They ignore calls...don't return calls or answer texts... NO manners! And this is even if they are not in their shells and things are good with you and them.

hahaha, I do this too -- only when I am going through some sort of life-changing situation. I try to figure things out and so I drop off the face of the earth until I do.

Hmmm, I wonder if my midheaven being in cancer has anything to do with it or may its just my Aqua influence.

However, I wouldn't do disappear out of my parents life or if I were involved with someone, I wouldn't ignore them ... I think this is where the differences come to play.

Uhhh... I hate it! Worst if it's around the full moon!

agreed with unusualcancer.. i would sometimes become "unavailable" because i need time figuring out things or some problem by myself.

"hahaha, I do this too -- only when I am going through some sort of life-changing situation. I try to figure things out and so I drop off the face of the earth until I do."

Cappy, i heard that caps and cancer is dissimilar but similar enough in some ways.. do u think that is true?

Leo Kitten... It is not a "my guy" thing because it is not my guy I am talking about.

"That said, I admit there are times when I am feeling reclusive and prefer to be left alone for a few days...but usually I will respond...eventually."

"... i would sometimes become "unavailable" because i need time figuring out things or some problem by myself."


Ok well I guess that's probably it then. Now that I have thought it through the Cancers I am talking about are going through some stuff. I noticed it this whole weekend... Friday I was to have a meeting with my Cancer boss and he just locked up in his office all day, so we did not meet again. I sent emails and he still hasn't replied. (I don't care cuz it's just my boss, no big deal.) My cousin (Cancer), I have been trying to get her all weekend... she has not answered nor called me back. (She is having relationship problems). One of my bestfriends (male Cancer), I have left messages for him from Friday... it is the end of the day and he still has not returned my calls. Given he also has alot on his plate. (new job, planning wedding ...)

Overload of stress causing one to avoid others... I understand that, but it can get annoying, because, alot of Cancers seem to do this and do not consider the other person's reasoning for the call in the first place. It could be an emergency or something very important.

My cancer calls me, and he always returns my phone calls...even though he claims he doesn't like talking on the phone like that...

by the way we were talking the other day and he said in a relationship he needs all attention on him, lol, and you need to be independent and blah blah whatever...🙂

I notice when I shower him with attention and make the initiative to keep in contact with him he "climbs out of that shell" and he can be real I mean really insecure at times...

oh well...😉

The Cancers I know reply almost immediately...if you know there's truely something going on, then why expect a reply because you want them to?

Not just Cancers - a lot of other signs are bad with responding emails when there's a lot on their plate. Maybe make a phonecall or go see them in person if urgent.

By the way, is this a Taurus thing? My mom and sis are both tauruses and they go on and on and on about how I didn't pick up/reply when they called or messaged...noticed it from my taurus friends too...

Wow..

Complicated you sound EXACTLY like me. I mean...I could've typed everything you wrote in this thread. That is so wierd.

I'm scared now.

Seriously, I think you may be my sister from another mother or something.

Or maybe my parents aren't my parents and our mother is somewhere out there looking for the both of us.

Maybe our parents lied to us and we're both adopted and instead of finding each other in the mall like Tia and Tamera, we've found each other on DXP.

Scary...

Oh and Brandy's song Focus describes my present mood. I should put that shizzle on my voicemail.

"If anybody asks for me tell them I'll be...right back.. in a real short time...it's just that I lost my mind I gotta find it. Soon as I hop on my train of thought I'll get back to you. Pronto... to collect myself... Aint really nothing you can do to help"

But I'm getting ready to change my number anyway so..

yeah GB..what's up with you??

That's a good question moon.

I just used the email addy i use for junk mail to register so never check 🙂

Do you receive alerts?

And although we Taurus get annoyed with you guys sometimes ? we still LOVE CANCERS alot alot alot! 🙂

Taurus are straight up and that's why little things annoy us. Because instead of ignoring someone's call we'll answer and explain that we are having a rough time but we'll get back to you when things are good. But of course Cancers are different and we have to understand that.


"...reason why you can stand us, is because you don't understand us."

This is true. My Cancer guy used to get to me the most when we first started to go out. I had other people around me that were Cancers as well before I met him, but the things they did didn't annoy me as much and I didn't realise that their behaviour was due to their Cancer traits. But I tried very hard to understand my Cancer guy and the sooner I understood him the better I could deal with him. He used to do the whole avoiding thing, but rarely does it anymore, because he knows that when he backs off I'll also back off and give him his space.

Complicated and Moon, I totally understand how you guys feel. That's why you need more Tauruses in your lives. Both my best friend and Cousin Cancers stress a lot that they feel like they are always the one to be there for people but when it is their time no one seems to care. Fortunate for you guys Taurus are loyal, and if you are there for us we will be there for you. I love my best friend so much because he is so caring and loving, and that's why I will go to any extreme for him and he knows this.

I love to be there for someone that is there for me. Cancers by far are the best when it comes to being a good friend to anyone. However, just like Taurus, they have a hard time finding someone that can be the same way.

PS... Complicated I know I told you this in the beginning... but you really remind me of my guy when I first met him. He is no longer like this anymore... you need to find you a nice Taurus guy 😉

Moon... has a Taurus come along and swept you off your feet yet? 🙂

You will soon find that nice Taurus boy 🙂

Disfuctional or not... we Taurus love to deal with you crabs... emotional issues and all. 😉

Though I don't find you to be disfuctional... based on your posts you seem pretty normal for a Crab... no defense other Cancers. You seem like a very warm person.

"So LT what have you been up to? I take it things are smooth sailing for you in the amour dept. Hows the summer—"

Generally things could be better, but who am I to complain, there are people dealing with alot worst out there. As for my Cancer, things are ok. He still has his times but we have grown to learn to communicate. So when he is going through his emotions, I leave him alone and let him get through his issues and when he's ready to come back I'm there for him. This was our biggest problem, I didn't understand why he would withdraw and by me trying to pull him out of his shell it would cause more conflict. Now that I understand, we get through things easier. Understanding, patience and prayer... that's my recipe for a good relationship with my guy. 😉 Oh and the book "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus" LOL

I don't have any plans for summer this year, fortunately I live on an island so the beach is 5 minutes away and the weather is always tropical 🙂 But I wanted to travel somewhere else like Orlando to visit the parks, unfortunately, July-September are the most requested months for leave and staff that take off these times take off a month or more... so it leaves the office short of staff. Therefore, I am left to work. Next year though 🙂 Other than that, I am just here... sitting and hoping that no hurricane will hit us this year.

How are things with you Moon... anything exciting for your summer?

Yes... thats' scary... Florida is being hit by Faye. I have a cousin who is stuck there right now. 😢

Libra's are good people. Sorry to hear about your job situation. You'll be up in no time... you are a Cancer... a true hustler! 😉

I know all about that mommy connection with Cancers... my guy can't live 10 minutes away from his mom. Although he is not too bad with it now... he admitted he was a real mama's boy when he was little... "under her skirt" he called it. LOL

"As far as your cancer im glad to know that things are good and you get him. Good to be a taurus eh?"

LOL... I guess... I love deep... so I really put in a lot of effort with the ones I love and I guess this is what you Cancers want in someone right. Yes it takes time with you Cancers... but time is all I have for the one I love. 🙂

"See I dont really wanna work lol I do but I dont... I need my security, actually its the fear of being dependent upon someone.... honestly wanna work because I want to not because I have to."

My Cancer guy is feeling just like this right now, and it is depressing him 😢 I want to reach out and assist him but he is not allowing me to. Is it pride? I understand the whole independent thing... but when I am down... I will allow someone to help.


"And since you love deep you will get that love reciprocated and just remember with every waking and sleeping moment the love grows and exudes little hearts that bloom into a halo of lovin. Lots and lots of love makes the world spin around giddily."

This is cute thanks!

HI Complicated l did send you a private cheer me up note, but you and Moon_ eyes have got me Laughing, my
head off.!...Ha ha ha .... when we Cancers are MAD! MAD!, God help! folk who cross us, as Complicated said we
will most likely kill them, our inner tempers are scary!.

Don't let those ass holes !..mess our heads,if there is one thing about Cancers !, we know others thoughts before they know what they are trying to do, so it is a blessing , Complicated and moon eyes secretly Laugh at those DICK HEADS..!
the reason they need our help is because were the real deal ....and they want us help then because the penny as dropped that most folk in this world are just selfish, like them selves most likely, yes we can be emotional ROLL A COASTER ..!! but thats just our thoughts and indecision messing with our heart's Kill's me every time , so when we feel this way we go into our shells unselfishly so, we do not affect others, who accuse us of be selfish.then they want us to to crack because there not happy, Complicated you will solve your problem as l will because when we decide something's gotta GO! they never get close again , thats what they fail to REALIZE!.

Stupid l know but l myself did something stupid this year and some Mad Russian Bitch! ,Hi - Jacked my emotion's telling me she loved me and could not live with out me, HELL! l am not even Gay! no offence but only CANCER'S can understand this when someone tell's us over and over they love us 15 phone call's a day every day and endless sms's until three in the morning! , we believe them thats just the way were are, BLACK and White no Grey areas, so when l gave her my heart and friendship and let her stay in my room on Holiday although l knew she was into me and l have a fiance,l don't want cry's of love at my hotel door until l give in after a lot of drunken soul searching! then BANG! You Guessed it we Slept together, Messed up ! totally F**ked up more like , so ashamed and did it many times while there on holiday till l got hold of my senses and told her to stop calling my room, and she should sleep with her so called man , but l realize he is just to cover up her real sexual needs.

Now l got to see the real side , with no regard to my feelings She just cut me off , and said we cannot be friends , will not talk and left me feeling like a used token on her mission to score with the straight female community lm hurting still and confused , although l know its just that l started to fall

Aww Complicated..sorry to hear that... 😢

Moon - i think GB got real messed up things with cancers..

GB - despite your madness to cancers..i think deep down you know you've fallen for us..😉

hey Moon.. im ok..just the intense feeling lately have driven me nuts!
how bout you?

Lol @ cursing on the judges....

oh well it cud be both...but most part is the bad feelings...well when im in that moment.. i'd rather not to speak to anyone or i would tell someone just to let it out but it's gonna take sometime for me to open up...

like your attitude Moon...keep the positive despite being down and all...but it take great effort to be just that...😉

it's ok.. i deal with it.. my planets were like all over the map...so im confusing as hell.. but i tend to learn more on handling myself lately... duh! maturity do play vital part..

oh yeah..we so know we cant be all happy people most of the time.. and i dont think we cud really deal with any of that...that is not normal. oh and about us cancers being personal therapy for everyone and when it is time for us need someone badly.. that is so true and ya know.. you n i could be well deal with ourselves in that mood rather than anyone else..

Lol @ Moon...

well yeah.. i always wonder if i should have been a Psychologist. I think we're the uncertified Psychologist...lol

hahaha...would that gonna happen? NOT! unless we take the course and be well a certified one...then we'll start charging for mostly everything they gonna pour on us.. 😉

haha i'm so bad!

lol....i know that feeling...ella ella eh eh eh eh...
*you cud be under my umbrella* 😉

lol Moon..

and i have been on this pc like hours and i need to get my butt off yet i cant...

lmao!!! i hope not..if my butt fallen asleep...oh yeah that is not only doomed but it's a catastrophe! you better find something to do on MS Moon...i do need to do something like the questionnaire..😉

as soon as i get one..i'll post it on 🙂

GB... Hey twin!

Moon... hey girl!


Complicated... I loved your story about the bull. It reminds me alot of my Crab and I. Even if we have some misunderstandings, he and I have a very very good friendship. I am always there for him, always tolerant of his moods, and I even caused him to calm his typical Cancer traits by just allowing him to be himself. I also give him alot of compliments and stick up for him, whenever he is in doubt or having feelings of being alone, so I always try to be there to cheer him on. Complicated... anytime you have to vent you don't even need to ask... if you have a Taurus friend... automatically they will realise that you are going through stuff and they would want to be there for you. You could never burden us... especially if it is someone you are in a realtionship. I hate to see my guy upset... and I would do anything to make him feel better 🙂 Do you know where your bull is now?

Guys... the world is one messed up place. We all know what is going on and only "us" who suffer from the consequences of the greedness and overpowering traits of an unjust man can really relate. But like said... when "real" people speak up and try to bring these things to light, they kill them to try to blind us again. And then they say that "we" try to use our race as an excuse... that's why I don't watch the news at all. I'd rather watch BET all day. (This is my personal opinion, no insult to anyone specific and I don't want to get into any politics, race or religion arguments with anyone who begs to differ)

awww... so sorry to hear that. He would have been the perfect match for you. Don't get depressed... at least you experienced what love is and how good it feels and can now easliy differentiate between the real thing and the not so real. You will find that again soon and it will be even more powerful 🙂

"BET is evil too. Bob Johnson sold the whole station"

Really! Well I only mostly watch Hell Date... Baldwin Hills and 106 and Park on BET. Otherwise, my TV is always on a good Christian channel that airs TD Jakes and Cleflo Dollar... cuz I NEED JESUS IN MY LIFE!!!! 🙂

I'm into alot of new releases too... so if nothing good is on TV I'll get a DVD.

"The station is owned by the elite white folks now."

I have to laugh at how much you sound like my guy... he would have made a statement like this.

Complicated... I have to ask though... did you ever express to your bull how much he meant to you? How did the way you treated him differ from the way you treated past relationships?

PS... if the connetion was that good... trust me... he still thinks about out you... if he wasn't in his "situation" he would probably have made his way to your house by now....

*connection

* about you (-out)

"They ignore calls...don't return calls or answer texts... NO manners! And this is even if they are not in their shells and things are good with you and them."

I know a lot of cancers like this. They seriously don't think there's anything wrong with it either. I think it's because they're worried you might want something from them, and their method in that respect is to hold off as long as possible getting back to you, if at all, soes that you might have found another option. Wait, does that make sense?

Have you ever not returned one of their calls?!!!
DOUBLE STANDARD!!!

omg Complicated..my and Moon saying abt psychologist was more as a joke..i dont think that's what makes me though..i couldn't even deal with my own problems and stuff that we feel deep...and how am i supposed to give the exact solution to other people...

but you know..i so agree with what you have said.. we have power to change ourselves and believe in God... and oh..i do know when that virgo rising becoming a cookie monster...

"Complicated... anytime you have to vent you don't even need to ask... if you have a Taurus friend... automatically they will realise that you are going through stuff and they would want to be there for you. You could never burden us... especially if it is someone you are in a realtionship."

LT.. that is just so sweet...i know you're telling the truth..i found that in one of my taurus girlfriend. 😉

"Have you ever not returned one of their calls?!!!"

LOL... true! Gotta love um though... my best friend Cancer just got back to me this morning from the time he missed my call on Friday 🙂 It was so good to hear him pleasantly greeting me on the phone that I forgot that I was upset that he didn't call me until now. He is so sweet and he will makeup for the days that he didn't call. 🙂 He'll ask every detail on what happened on those days... what he missed etc..etc... my buddy 🙂 I loves him.

My Cousin returned my call yesterday. She expressed that she desperately needed my advice... so that alone got me dropping everything for her. My boss however is still in his office locked up😢

Lostsoul... for sure 😉

That why Taurus people have alot of acquintances but seldom have many close friends. We hold those that are true and loyal to us very close to our heart. It pains me to see a close friend hurting. I have a soft heart anyway... but with those that are close it is way worst. I will drive for hours, will bend backwards, give the last I have just to be there for a friend or to make them happy.

Right now the closest people to me are:

Cancer guy bestfriend
Cappy girl cousin
Cancer girl cousin
Taurus girl cousin
Cancer boyfriend

They are the people that I make an effort to talk to everyday, the ones that I will spend hours with to just lend a shoulder or an ear. I loves them so much! 🙂

I have a huge circle of friends that I think alot about as well but they have proven to be not so loyal for my likink. Some of them lie, talk behind my back, gossip, compete... all kinda mean things... I prefer to stick with the genuine people above.

My circle consists of:

4 Scorpio Chicks
1 Leo Chick
1 Gemini Chick
1 Vigo Guy
1 Saggi Guy
1 Aqua chick
1 Pisces guy
1 Taurus Guy

There is so much of them...sadly they come with their dramas that I can't deal with on a daily basis. But I am grateful for each of them because they all have their own trait that I like. So I hold them each at arms length. The thing is with a Taurus is that whenever you betray us... it would probably take a while for us to speak to you again if ever, but if we do forgive you we will never forget and you will never get us that close to you again. I think Cancers are alot like that too.

But don't be mistaken... a Taurus can hold a grudge. If I don't like you... I just don't and can never pretend to pretend. To the ones we dislike, they would probably say that we are rude, confrontational, overly outspoken, blunt.... just plain not likable. And like a Cancer I am very good at keeping my silence. I won't speak to someone much less look at them if I don't like them. However, you would have had to have done my something bad. I give everyone a fair chance to prove themselves, but once written off, they'll never be in my good books.

LOL Comlicated... I love them... I watch them all the time... but they ain't getting no money out of me. But they aren't the only ones... alot of people that are in the church jack people up for money. Before you can get a prayer nowadays you have to send all this money. I was watching one where a guy wanted you to send a whole mortgage payment, to recieve blessings. I almost kicked my TV down.

But the message that you recieve from Jakes and Dollar are very powerful, very moving. Trust me... many days I wake up with so many questions about life, how unfair it is, ready to give up and I put on the TV and either one of them are on, and it automatically changes my thinking to look at things in a more spiritual way. There is another lady on there that I like, very powerful woman as well... she went through alot when she was younger so she can relate to hardships.

Whoa LT...that is similar to Cancer traits too.. better stick to the one who knows the true meaning of friendship and i can relate to that of what you say because i will do that to for every person who very close to my heart..🙂

🙂 That's why Cancers and Taurus are the best match

Figured...

I asked because my cancer guy is alot like that. He will say something, then take it away. Like... "I'm sorry, shouldn't have said that." I'd be like "Thanks I am glad that you did." He bought me this awsome watch for a gift... but then said "You can exchange it if you don't like it." I was so shocked I couldn't speak I was smiling ear to ear. I wear that watch everyday. I can see right though him and I know he really cares, but sometimes I wish that he would just let his guard down a little and express his feelings more. He'll tell me things like "I do things for you that I have not done for any other girl." I don't ask about his past so... I don't know exactly how much more he does.

He was drunk one night and I asked him if he loved me... he said "yeah... you're in my f'king head and I can't get you out and I don't want to get too attached to you because I know you're going to hurt me." He would have never been this honest if he was sober, he would have just been silent. Or sometimes he'll say... "I know you've got some other guy that you're gonna leave me for." I am constantly trying to prove my honesty to him.

He's been hurt... hurt really bad. An older leo chick f'cked him up. He told me that she was very controlling, cheated on him, physically fought him, stalked him and hated his mother. That b*tch got what was coming to her now though... the man she has beats the hell out of her (not that it is right) and does everything bad to her that she did to my guy. Karma... it's a biatch. When my guy and I started talking , she still tried to control him... telling him that I was too young for him (6 years younger), he's not gonna get anything in life from me, all kinda sh*t. This time, I have more than her, she still lives with her parents and is almost 40 with 2 kids. But in time... he got wiser... I didn't need to trash her for him figure her out, he did it on his own.

But she spoiled it for any other woman. He is so scarred from her. But I am praying and hoping that he will soon get over that fear of being treated like that again.

I have to laugh when I come on here and hear the tactics that some of these women use to try to control a Cancer man. They don't realise that just because he is with them and is sticking it out for a while, it doesn't mean that he is happy. That was the case with my Cancer, he stayed with her for 6 years. Although he is still friends with her (which I respect) he doesn't forget how she treated him.

"If we would have met at an earlier time...things would have been much different."

Unfortunate, but never give up hope hun, life is very unpredictable and sometimes you would be surprised where you end up. Life has this way of taking us off guard. We go through things in life to make our mind and spirit stronger and more mature. The time may have not been right at first but it doesn't mean that life is preparing you to have that perfect time later on. Having a child for someone else does not gurantee that he and that girl will be together forever. You may be the same one that he comes back to and want to settle down with, of course only if you would accept his outside child. The situation wouldn't be the first nor the last.

Cancers seem to give up really quick and miss out on what is really intended to be theirs 🙂

"He immediatly called me up, and asked me what i wanted.."

Listen girl this doesn't take a second thoguht... my guy is getting fat since I met him. I will call him up every morning and ask him if he wants breakfast... he will call me at anytime and ask for food. I will drop everything to get him what he wants no matter how far or how much it is putting me out of my way.

I know women who would look at this an be like "oh you doing too much, you the woman the man's suppose to be doing this... blah blah blah" I don't care, I love my man... what ever is needed will be done.

The way I look at it...I will be irreplacable... just like you... he will never forget me... God forbid we break up.

I like Joyce better than Paula too, but some of Paula's messages can be OK depending on what she touches on.

Complicated I really glad that I have spoken to you... you have helped me to confirm all the things that I thought in my head about my guy. 🙂

"Cancers seem to give up really quick and miss out on what is really intended to be theirs"

Uh uh...that scares me the most! but i used to not giving up so damn easy in my lie before..i wonder where did the old me gone??

oh not lie....*life*

Oh LT..we do love to eat..pampered us..we'll pampered you back 😉

lol what an interesting board.

Cancers suck at returning calls and are better with texts and email, but I dont hold it against them. And I think the infuriated response to it is a Taurus thing cuz it really used to BURN my cookies yanno.

Im really feeling the comment that it seems like Cancers give up too easily and miss out on what was intended for them.

Lost... I guess it's with all the past things that happen in your life. Probably putting in so much into one person and then realising that you wasted valuable time that you can never get back.

My Cancer best friend described his feelings to me one day, he said "I am like a piece of wood... you can chop a little piece here, cut a little piece there, those pieces will never grow back. With each piece that is taken out... what's let is all that can be offered... when there is no more to cut, there is not more to give." I thought this was a great explanation of Cancers.

You build up a wall, with every bad experience that wall gets higher and higher and harder to break down. You will test people to prove themselves before you give in, and your tolerance becomes non existant to those that you encounter. All just to protect yourself. Some people cannot see past your hard shells, only the good ones will undertand the hard work it takes to get into that shell to enjoy the good stuff. So therefore the ones that are not worthy, don't get a chance to stick around too long. 🙂 Patience and understanding is a virtue and not many people have it.

Am I right?

wooooooow

Man if you are right its no wonder this guy is making me jump through so many rings for such an extended period of time. And yes Im generally impatient but for some reason he makes me want to stick around for that lovely softy inside the shell