cancer pouting

im dating my first cancer. what am i suppose to do when he pouts, cause we hurt each other feelings with words, he gets sooo hurt and starts thinking in a destructive manner. Ive already apologized and am doing my best to show him i am his friend and i do love him. am i on the right track? Please I need help ASAP

This is our 3 rd big tiff in 2 years( none serious but almost break up) why cant he say sorry and move on, why built a mountain over an ant? I love him dearly i was hung over and we misunderstood each other badly, now he wants us to split. just like that.

It was only words and hurting him was unintentional he took it the wrong way.

Let me straighten him out. All I read about is Cancer men and there sensitivity and how easily they hurt. WTF?

"it was only words"...my guess is if that's the sentiment that you've conveyed to him in tryinig to work it out you'll get nowhere. There is no such thing as "it was only words" to cancer. Cancer sensitivity is largely due to the fact that we can feel someones underlined sentiment even if its just for a moment and they try to clean it up later. No matter what we say to people there is a bit of feeling in it, and we DO mean it one way or another-----even if it was a harsh comment made in the heat of frustration...more than likely we've thought it 1000 times but would never say it---but you did say it.....and he heard it loudly whatever it is. If you don't want him then let him go....if you do want him the best way to keep him will be to deal with the issue of what you actually said (what was it by the way?). Because right now he is playing that comment over and over in his mind as the way that you feel about him......that is why he is probably impervious to reason right now. As far as he is concerned, you think that he is blah blah blah blah...so why care or try to pursue a relationship with you? That's where his head is right now. However, as long as you try to convince him that "its only words", you won't get anywhere...because they probably weren't...so I'd suggest that you try to discuss with him the exact comment and put it in his proper context.

P.S. If you try to pretend that you didn't really mean what you said it will only make him more closed off to you because he knows that you did mean it or it would not have been said.

Thank you I reinforced over and over again that i loved him and no words were meant in meaness, still not sure exactly what i said im gonna have to think it out see what offended hmm or maybe see if he will tell me.. we were hung over, he stung me good.
He came into bathroom as water was leaving and accuse me of not calling him to come have bath with me, ouch !!! eh!!!! i say it's you that didnt come...
then i noticed his hard on and asked "if his game was that good," he told me he was looking at porn i said nothing but was hurt he rude/mean accuse me of not wanting to take bath with him when it's him that got side tracked
After my primping done i asked is it cool i look at top 50 men for 2007" He snapped, "you said it was ok for me to look at porn, why did i lie, i accept that if we have regular daily sex he can have all porn he wants... same place ive always stood.... except when after his back surgery and he was clear to monkey around, but he denied me and made an ass of himself and his porn. refused me flat ---cut off ...the tolerrance became zero.. we got over it i accept he wants his porn and all i asked is for regular daily sex. And when Im sleeping doesnt count.

i have done everyting i can to show him i love him to death, and my words were in response to his rudeness and i am sorry for being weak, its hard to not let anothers tone of voice get you .. we were hung over and really misunderstood each other. I beleive he has accpeted my apology.

thank you for the perspective opener

Is my thinking mutual its ok for me to look at porn to? ok ? , i promise i wont be rude to him after.... any ideas why he does that?

he wants to split so bad bc hes trying to be manipulative.. no doubt about it. in my less mature days i used to pack all my bags and threaten to leave but never really planned on it. it just got me what i wanted. yes i am a cancer. good luck with this man.. he will always act spoiled and pout. he will whine and never apologize... and most importantly he will be defensive. nothing is ever his fault or so he sais.

Yeah,
I know how you feel me2uforever, I made the same mistake, and said, " I don't care about something", that my Cancer friend kept pushing me to care about. When I told him I had other plans. He has taken this comment to the extreme. But, I am just going to let him go on and catch up with his game. I let go. Only time will heal him anyways, so I would not bother trying to fix, it. You cannot "fix" a relationship. If he wants to leave, let him go on. He will eventually see that he was selfish, and self-centered and he will just have to do without you.