hi i'm wheelhomies i'm addicted to cancers

and i think i am headed somewhere toward the vague direction of understanding why. i realized last night that the reason i like the cancer guy i'm hanging out with now so much is because he challenges me. he's not the kind of person who just lets me go on living life in my own little leo world of mundane comfort. he makes me question things. and yes, i understand how some people would call that manipulation because he could "confuse" me about what's real and what he wants me to think. i don't care, though, because i like having a new point of view. if it gets to the point where i can't decide my own point of view anymore, well i guess i'll be visiting bollyhips' thread soon 😛.

but it's something i've never encountered before. mentally, he is very sharp. a lot of people don't realize it, but he's always thinking. and it takes me a while, but when i think about it and realize how well-planned almost everything he does is, i am blown away. god, that must be exhausting. i kinda wish i could do it though 😉.

it's true that he's clingy. and he reacts emotionally, which sucks sometimes because i'm not the type to walk on eggshells and he gets pissed at me a lot. it's cool for the time being though, because it's nothing i don't know how to handle.

i can understand where the cancer hatin' on these boards comes from, but it all depends on what you want, really (and i think some of it may be misplaced). with any person you kind of have to accept the good and the bad if you want it to go anywhere. i doubt i'll come out of the relationship completely unscathed, but isn't that the point? otherwise it would be a waste...because i wouldn't learn anything.

Wheelhomies,

I do understand how addictive Cancers are. I have the luck of always being drwan to them and then getting hooked on their elusive qualities. Yes, they are challenging, which I find really attractive. For some odd reason, I find that the easier it is to get a guy, the quicker I lose interest. It can be draining for those who want instant answers and never getting them. I believe that these unique creatures are captivating and unsettling. I am a Libra and I get bored easily with guys that I can have at any time.

yeah, some women like the elusiveness bit of the cancers, but it seems once we give in and go into homebody mode, they get bored. save yourself some time and us some grief. we're really not that elusive in the long run.

"we give in and go into homebody mode, they get bored"

Perhaps thatz why Cancer males want create this elusive personae and prolong the game as far as possible.

And yes..they are mentally sharp and they have an imagination which can be very productive.

"i can understand where the cancer hatin' on these boards comes from, but it all depends on what you want, really (and i think some of it may be misplaced). with any person you kind of have to accept the good and the bad if you want it to go anywhere."

Wheels I think it's good to approach cancer guys with this attitude. I think everyone in general prefer if they don't sense that their partner is treading on eggshells around them. It promotes feeling at ease and comfortable being yourself which is important in a healthy coupling.

"yeah, some women like the elusiveness bit of the cancers, but it seems once we give in and go into homebody mode, they get bored. save yourself some time and us some grief. we're really not that elusive in the long run."

riiiiiiiight. of course your not elusive to yourself.

you're. god i hate it when i do that.

"Wheels I think it's good to approach cancer guys with this attitude. I think everyone in general prefer if they don't sense that their partner is treading on eggshells around them. It promotes feeling at ease and comfortable being yourself which is important in a healthy coupling."

yes, i absolutely agree that that is one of the fundamentals of a healthy coupling. but then there are the dysfunctional ones that somehow make sense..