Cancer sun Aries moon man

times harsh times sugary, a lot clingy but needs his space too..complicated..help..people with same planet positions are requested to answer..🙂
his chart-
asc not known
Sun and Mercury in Cancer
Moon in Aries
Jupiter and Venus in Gemini
Saturn Uranus Neptune in Saggi
Pluto in Libra

We need more info if we're going to be able to help you.

Can you give us specific examples of his seemingly bi-polar needs space/needs closeness moments? Cancer Sun/Aries Moon sounds like one hell of a bi-polar person without needing the psychological condition. There's nothing that can be done to change that either; if you want to be with him you'll just have to learn to understand his moods and accept his quirks. Nothing wrong with him, it's just how he is.

On another note, we're only assuming you're romantically interested in him, seeing as you didn't say so in your post. Are you?

I'm assuming this is the same guy from this other thread you posted on the Astrology forum?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/astrology/his-behaviour-confuses-me-help-3337807/#3338116

Well by my guess... you say he withdraws at the moments you need him most, which I see is his Cancer coming out. You've known each other for 3 years and (I assume) been just friends the whole time, but that doesn't mean he doesn't want more.

I bet he likes you as more than a friends, and his feelings for you get muddled when you get close, act affectionate, or ask for help because he WANTS to be there for you on a deeper level than his friend status allows. Makes giving you ANY support difficult without overstepping bounds, so he hides in his shell to avoid doing so and then getting slapped with rejection when you push him away. Typical Cancer behavior (I'm Cancer too, so I know).

Plus, his Aries moon and mars probably make him DESPERATELY want to get AGGRESSIVE with you, to drive the relationship to knew depths and truly experience all the love his Cancer heart feels for you... but he can't because you're just friends...

Confusion and uncertainty are the bane of relationships, and Cancers in particular.

hey ZenBear..yeah right this thread is created by me-
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/astrology/his-behaviour-confuses-me-help-3337807/#3338116
thanks for the info and efforts
indeed i am interested in him but as i said he seems confused..i am very much particular about things or i can say least confused maybe because of my Libra sun or Aquarius moon i don't know..things are always pretty much clear in my head..but seeing him unable to make up his mind is kind of what frustrates me after which i become overemotional maybe coz my Cancer Jupiter and maybe that's why i am also a bit clingy and hold on to things even after they are gone..anyway now there's this guy who is special for me but he rarely give me a chance to show that..3 years are enough to open up..help me out to understand this Cancer Sun Aries Moon man what he wants and how could i let him trust me because from what i have studied about Cancerians,they first need to develop trust..

Let him know that you want him as more than a friend, and it should clear the air. If he wants you, he'll make his move once he knows he wont be rejected. If he doesn't, then at least you'll both know and the confusion will end.

He'll trust you once he's sure of his footing and feels comfortable moving the relationship forward. Not completely, mind you, as it takes time for Cancers to completely let down their guard. And once he does, be CAREFUL! Anything you say, any cross word or angry remark, will hurt him profoundly, as he has no other defense than the shell he hides behind.

thanks for the help friend...that shell thing is damn true,now i know why he acts unavailable when i hurt him(i never have intentions but happens 😢 )..although being Aries moon he doesn't cling too long on things..this is indeed positive..i think he cling onto things till the time he wants..i just wanna know how should i act when he acts withdrawn..how long should i keep distance from him because the more i try to talk the more is he unavailable..😢