The only other Aries I've ever met in my life is my dad Never thought of it before, but it is kind of weird. I think I've met more Cancers than any other sign.
Posted by AriesIntrovert16
I'm not exactly sure about is to make your friend happy. Everyone is different. Try not to crowd her but pop in every now and then to let her know you're there for her. Sending her an owl was nice. Wish her well and listen to her if she ever decides to open up to you on how she's feeling.

As and Aries myself, I don't like to burden people with how I'm feeling. I leave people in the dark and I like to figure things out on my own. Sounds selfish but I feel it's a lot better than complaining and whining to someone about my life. Especially something that can be fixed.


I like to be left alone but I also need the people I love to reach out from time to time. It's not likely that anyone can fix whatever's wrong or make me happy (I have to do that on my own) but it means the world to me when they show that they care
Send her a message asking if it's okay if you call her and ask when is the best time of day to call.
I'm an Aries who's been with her Cancer man nearly 2 years now. We also met online. But you do need to chill a bit. Some women are a little nervous about giving out their numbers to a stranger. She might be nervous about the whole online dating process in general, especially if she's new at it.

When I did online dating I felt more comfortable asking for the man's number first rather than giving mine. Bear in mind though, I was always a nervous wreck before calling. In general I have a bit of a phone phobia - magnified 100 fold if I have to call a man I'm interested in for the first time (which also meant that my first phone conversations tended to be mostly disastrous). And this anxiety continued even as I became a seasoned online dater. I'm also a bit reserved and closed off when I first meet someone so it takes time to get to know me. Luckily, I met a Cancer who was patient enough to give me a chance. Aries-Cancer can work but don't sabotage it with insecurities and assumptions before the gate is even fully opened. Good luck!
My guy loves to be mothered. He was never properly mothered while growing up so I often wonder if that's the reason he likes (and needs) it now.
My current guy took just over a year to say it.
Posted by ninjafish
Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I think the cancer-pisces dynamic can work if other chart elements support it and the individuals are a tad more aware. Those two were sort of unstable individually as it was, and when combined it was like kaboom.

I don't know about you guys (purr, bommy, any other cancer who wants to chime in), but I NEED an emotional spouse or things will fall apart. I would actually prefer a little more neuroticism to aloofness, as it has the ironic effect of keeping my own neurotic tendencies in check.


I'm the same. I once had a relationship with an aloof Aqua. I much prefer my emotional Crab - even if he does cry more than I do
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We've been together just over one year. (But he has been talking a lot lately about being together forever).

I'm an Aries with lots of water in my sign so I'm sensitive and emotional and can relate to my Cancer who's the same. I am more independent than he is though and less needy than he is. I'm very nurturing and like to take on traditional female tasks such as cooking, cleaning etc. and letting him be the "man" so to speak. Someone mentioned that a Cancer with Gemini in Venus wouldn't prefer a dominant woman. I agree. My Cancer has this placement and definitely prefers to be the more dominant one in the relationship.


Do his natural traits rub you the wrong way at the beginning? How did it work?


His sensitivity initially took me by surprise. I'd never met a man as emotional as him. But I discovered that I like it. His neediness usually makes me feel good - if it's me that he needs But sometimes it's a bit smothering.



Cancer want the object of their affection with complete single mindedness....it's a very private world for two. I have been given to understand that Aries like their lovers to want them in exclusion of anything else. So that sort of makes it a good match...but what's the point at which Cancer's affection gets smothering?

Secondly, Cancer loves to be pampered and receive gratitude for the things that they do for their lovers, Aries forgets everything in 15 mts , how do you balance that?
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It gets smothering when he follows me from room to room :p I think I'm pretty good at pampering and showing gratitude. I don't forget anything But it does sometimes feel that he needs a lot more pampering that I deem "normal", lol.
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Posted by paries
We've been together just over one year. (But he has been talking a lot lately about being together forever).

I'm an Aries with lots of water in my sign so I'm sensitive and emotional and can relate to my Cancer who's the same. I am more independent than he is though and less needy than he is. I'm very nurturing and like to take on traditional female tasks such as cooking, cleaning etc. and letting him be the "man" so to speak. Someone mentioned that a Cancer with Gemini in Venus wouldn't prefer a dominant woman. I agree. My Cancer has this placement and definitely prefers to be the more dominant one in the relationship.


Do his natural traits rub you the wrong way at the beginning? How did it work?
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His sensitivity initially took me by surprise. I'd never met a man as emotional as him. But I discovered that I like it. His neediness usually makes me feel good - if it's me that he needs But sometimes it's a bit smothering.
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I want Aries/Cancer stories!!!!


There's an aries gal over on their board who's been dating one for a while. I forget her username though...

Paries, I think. 5 years.


oh yeah, and he said "I love you" not so long ago, I remember that.
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We've been together just over one year. (But he has been talking a lot lately about being together forever).

I'm an Aries with lots of water in my sign so I'm sensitive and emotional and can relate to my Cancer who's the same. I am more independent than he is though and less needy than he is. I'm very nurturing and like to take on traditional female tasks such as cooking, cleaning etc. and letting him be the "man" so to speak. Someone mentioned that a Cancer with Gemini in Venus wouldn't prefer a dominant woman. I agree. My Cancer has this placement and definitely prefers to be the more dominant one in the relationship.
I have Aries Sun. 33% of my chart is Fire and 25% is Water. I'm very emotional and sensitive. My crab has Cancer Sun. His chart is 58% air and only 17% water. He is also very emotional and sensitive but also very impatient and impulsive. He often acts before he thinks. This is one of our biggest obstacles. We both have Moon in Virgo.

The fact that we're both really emotional and sensitive can be both an obstacle and a strength. An obstacle because we both get our feelings hurt too easily. A strength because we feel genuine empathy when the other is hurt - and remorse if one of us is the cause of the other one's pain - with a strong desire to immediately rectify the situation. We both need a lot of attention but we're quite good and providing that for each other.

Like others mentioned, the negativity and pessimism also create some obstacles. I often tell him that he is tainting my positive aura, lol.

Our strong points include: we're both super affectionate, we're loyal to each other, we communicate well, we support each other, we admire each others' strengths, we show pride in each others' accomplishments, we support each others' dreams, we show each other gratitude.

Posted by DazedScorp
Maybe their controlling nature leads them to the weak, because they can do just that... Control them.


I'm led to the weak out of compassion and empathy. It also makes me feel good to know I can help someone. It has nothing to do with control. If they don't want my help, I leave them alone.
Posted by loner
Do Aries tend to have a lot of compassion towards the weak? Like when people depend on us for strength and assistance.
I just don't seem to have it in me to ignore and reject those who are in need and flee the scene without at least asking them what's wrong
Especially if they don't have anybody else to turn to.

Any other Aries feel the same way? Do you find that your nurturing side comes out in situations like these?....or not really? lol


Yep. Definitely.
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I wonder why I'm not running into guys leno think like you Pothead? And I'm a lot older than you so these are grown ass men I'm talking about. I'm 35 about to turn 36. The men are all between 32-45. And I like your take on it. Maybe they were cookiemonster made, lol. That makes me feel better. I just thought in today's day and age, men were okay with the tables being turned. Or is it that the men have the advantage now days and not even a quality chick has a chance in today's dating world?


Perhaps you are dealing with an older generation not use to it yet?


This could be true. It could be the age range and mentality that comes with that.
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Could be. I'm also of an "older" generation.
I think you need to look after you first.
I once did online dating on-off for several years. Overall I must have initiated contact with about 30 or more men. Like you, every single message was ignored. In real life, any time I approached a man he either blew me off or assumed I must be easy and immediately tried to get me into bed. I'm shy, so my approach was never aggressive. Men might say that have no problem with women initiating interest - but I don't believe it. (I also don't believe it when a man says he has no problem with a woman who is more educated than him or makes more money than he does).
Posted by Crabmoon
Nothing better than hear the words... Good for you we're all happy for you.You deserve it(one year)...Aries uhhh


True. I've kind of "known" for awhile that he loves me. But hearing him actually say it meant so much to me.
You guys are awesome
Posted by OceanDeep
yey!!!! I'm happy for you

You are patient, and tough as nails for sure ...


I wouldn't say "tough as nails". But definitely patient.
After being together for just over a year, my crab recently said "I love you" to me for the first time.