cancers, trust issues

As a cancer man, I find it hard to trust people......am I alone?

Nah.

I am a trusting person unless I feel that I shouldn't. I am learning more and more to use discernment instead of trusting someone just because we get on.

I think I read by some poster on this thread that that trust becomes more of an issue as they become older. I think its natural that one becomes more jaded the more bad experiences they have.

An older friend coming up told me to "use people but don't misuse people." So no trusting is hard. Discernment is the issue at hand.

I see the flaws life so naturally that translates to people. I more or less put people in situations the have shown they can handle. If I know someone smokes more crack than Rob Ford I won't leave a kilo of ready rock under their watch but if I need to find a good pawn shop I'll ask my aforementioned crackhead buddy.

I've found as a I grow older and more stable in being a cancer male my life is about being able to manage personalities.

Its super easy as a Cancer not to trust people based on our core mentality. We usually put the high expectations on people because of what we have done for them in the past,etc. We can be vastly disappointed down the line if we heavily invested in someone and they move on before we are ready or weasel their way out of our lives so they don't have to honor the other side of the coin. Its our fault for setting such high expectations on people but its really because we latch onto people emotionally very easily.

Cancer's,at their core, really are reciprocal creatures. That is the key to gaining our trust longterm IMHO . We like to help our friends in hard times and show loyalty because we ourselves are prone to having times were the world looks absolutely shitty to us were we can't get out of bed and we need that reassurance there are people out there that care about us and can pull us out of the quicksand.

Its isn't always financial for Cancers, going out on a limb for a Cancer and being "genuine" about it weighs in just as heavily.

I base everything regarding how I feel and react to people off of instinct. I'm a pretty good judge of character, and if my gut tells me not to trust someone, I don't- at least until they prove themselves worthy. Honestly, I'm not the most trusting person anyway, so overall I would say that Cancers typically don't have that blind faith in people that other signs tend to display. I'll stay guarded until I know one way or the other if the person is honest, loyal, and trustworthy because I don't wanna end up getting hurt.

Definitely have my share of trust issues. Getting involved with a man is a big deal for me. I can get easily spooked in the beginning. Very hard to let down the guard. It takes time and patience to be with a Cancer but if we click we will reward you with our love and everything we've got.