Fickle Cancers? (not meaning to be rude...)

I've had persononal relationships with four Cancer guys (I'm a Capricorn female btw) and with each one they tend to leave but then later come back.
One guy I've known all of my life because we grew up together. We had a strong connection going and liked each other a lot but then one day he stopped talking to me then the next thing I knew- he got married. Fast forward to present and he's getting a divorce from his wife and has made it strongly known that he's always had feelings for me and wants us to be together. Although I really care for him, I can't do that until he officially divorces his wife.
Another Cancer guy and I had a texting relationship and he made it known how interested he was in me but then just disappeared. A few months later back to talking again in which he apologized to me for disappearing on me and said he really liked me but then a few weeks later, disappeared again.
These are just two of the examples but I just don't understand this pattern... It really comes off as fickle and indecisive. People say that cancers will always let you know if they like you but with my experience they seem to say one thing and mean another. I really like cancers though but I'm just wanting some understanding about why they seem to be this way wth me. Maybe it's something I'm doing idk..

Btw I didn't mean to create two posts-I'm typing on my iPad and it's been giving me issues.

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Yeah a Cancer would say that. I'm like that too though which is why I usually let them back in. I have Moon in Cancer so maybe that's why. I just don't want to get to that point of not wanting to get close to one now because I'm afraid they might just disappear on me again. We usually have such strong connections which is awesome but scary now cuz I don't want to get hurt.

Hmm... To me they seem to be more closed off so I always feel the need to be extra gentle with them. But yeah, best to move on except the long-term cancer guy is getting hurt by me not reciprocating his feelings... So that's basically why I'm iffy about letting him in now. I guess if it's meant to be it will be and if not then it won't. 🙂

Posted by Finbuff
Capricorn and Cancer not the best match for the long term. But short term there's a strong physical and personality attraction. I've been with one a long time. Cap's just not challenging and dynamic enough for cancer but it doesn't become evident until you are together, as in living together for awhile. Cap's very disorganized whereas Cancer always has things together at home and in personal life. I could go on.

What do you mean by not challenging enough?

I could see myself having this issue, but how do one become challenging lol?

Maybe we are just better off as friends that way neither of us color each other with expectations and can appreciate our depth of connection without any pressure.

both of your friends prolly had gem venus....

i have to admit i do the disappearing act, but i rarely come back. so prolly they were just a tease. gem venus men have a high probability of doing that.