Caner Men (Woe Is Me)

I am a Pisces woman and I know a great deal about astrology but when it comes to Cancer men (sigh) their so freakin' complex. I am that myself but damn I never thought I'd be involved with someone more complex than me. I'd greatly appreciate all Cancerian feedback and anyone who knows Cancer men really well.

Okay here's my story:

I begin Management Consultant for this extremely talented Jazz/Funk/Hip-Hop group last September. The group was started by fraternal twin brothers (who are Cancers). It was fate how I began working with them. I saw them performing at a week long celebration and was instantly captivated by their talent and presence. After the performance everyone was going up to them and I was the only one who walked away but for some reason I knew that I wanted to and would be involved with them in some kind of way. So I went back to the same spot about a week later and couldn't find it. So I started a new job and begin taking a different route home that I'd never taken before and low and behold I run into them performing outside the subway(this is NY mind you so that?s perfectly normal). I couldn't believe it so I decided that it was appropriate for me to approach them. Anyway to make a long story kind of short..I began managing them. Now from the start I knew that their was a mutual physical attraction between me and the brothers but from the start I made it clear that our relationship would be strictly business and at first it was kind of hard to convince them but they soon became comfortable with it. From the start they had a hard time with communication they would always use avoidance when dealing with everything. Me being a patient Pisces I tried my best to get them to communicate (mainly in business meetings that I would call). It worked @ 85% of the time but it was always that crucial 15% that needed to be addressed but they just wouldn't let me in. I was very affective in alot of their development business wise but at times they would say that I was to assertive/aggressive (but only when necessary most of the time I was laid back and played my position in the background) but anyone who knows about the music industry knows that these are necessary traits. N-E Way our business relationship recently came to an end by....can you believe it avoidance. They avoided telling me that they wanted to manage themselves I basically had to feel it (Pisces intuition) and approach them myself. I was really hurt more so that they didn't have the respect and consideration to tell me what they were feeling. So I decided to go over to their apartment and express how I felt because them being Cancers, I knew that I could make them feel my hurt and it worked for that moment anyway. But this weird situation happened...As I was leaving one of the brothers told me that he would walk me out something that he's never done before so when he offered I felt something (Pisces intuition again) so we walk to the top of the stairs in the apartments corridor and its really dark no lights and as I'm walking I became very emotional and tears began falling ( I never show my emotions like this unless someone has really affected me to the core)so he grabs me and holds me extra close to him and starts caressing me really hard and telling me that everything will be ok he promises. The whole thing weirded me out so bad that I just ran out of his arms and into the night (very dramatic I know) but I get this eerie feeling that he likes me. I tell you one thing what I felt from that one hug I can't even put into words (maybe passion would be appropriate) but I didn't want to stick around to find out what it meant. My Scorpio best friend thinks that he wants to take our relationship to another level and that?s probably one of the reasons why he didn't want to work with me on a business level anymore and to tell you the truth I kind of think so too but I don't think I could be involved with him on a personal level just on the strength of

Business and Love mixed together!!
Dear first of all you must choose because both can't go hand in hand..
and if at all they do Bonus!! hip hip hurray!!
I couldn't get exactly what you intend to do or what your confusion is all about....
i) choosing b/w the two.
ii) getting physical??
iii) making business and love work together
please clarify so that we can give you some better help

Bye

OUR HUGS CAN DO IT FOR YOU,lol. ONCE U GETTA A HUG U CAN"T GO BACK,lol. But advice i this u still can be friends but knowing how cancers move being one, and they sense u like dem they will pursue u and the fact u hugged means u will get flowers and other shiznick. If u are stronger in will and u argue alot den i say forget it.

Deep Water-

Let me clarify. The business relationship between me and the guys is over. I would never mix business with pleasure. There's always been a mutual attraction between me and the brothers I just refused to play on it because we were involved in business together. I feel that one of the brothers likes me a little more than the other and this is the one that gave me the long sensuase hug that I did not intend to happen so when it happened I got all wierded out and ran out of his apartment without as much as a bye. Now this is what I'm having trouble with the brother who gave me the hug, I've had a few intimate dreams about him which totally surprised me because I surppressed any type of attration that I had and then I start having these dreams. Basically I just want advice on whether or not you think he likes me in a romantic way. The guy Cancers that I've been romatically involved with in the past chased me like they were trying to win a race but this one avoids me and doesn't make any effort or attemp to contact me so I don't know. My scorpio best freinds thinks that the reason why they ended our business relationship was because the one brother really likes me and he knows that once the business relationship has ended I be open to a personal relationship with him but I'm skeptical? Woe is me another case of unrequited love ):


Daemon -

Thanks for your feedback. I do agree with your comment in a sense. In business I tend to have a strong will and I did try to put them in their place alot but I knew when to fall back when it was appropriate. I know Cancers hate being told what to do which I know is part of the reason why the business relationship is no longer. I know for a fact if him and I got together romantically it would be passion out of this world but if we got mad at each other it would be really bad. Do you think this scares him away? Me being a Pisces I do know how to play my position though.

Golden lady i won't say scare us, but we will remember and take note. If the arguments get out of hand it will hurt us especially if things get very personal. We might make back up, cause sometimes we believe of giving a person the benefit of the doubt and of course the makeup sex too. But once passion outweighs the arguments then it would be bliss,and most important ....honesty.

Daemon~

I'm glad you brought up the subject of honesty. Alot of the Cancer men that I've known or been involved with haven't been that honest. That is very important to me. I know that Cancers are supposed to be faithful and loyal if you provide them with the adequate amount of attention and affection but what if groupies are involved. The brothers have so many groupies that I don't trust that they could be faithful. Men in general are weak when it comes to the coochie being thrown at you. How strong is a Cancer man when it comes to that once he is commited and in love?

Interesting comment, GoldenLady. I've been really starting to wonder about my Cancer-man. He seems to be withdrawn to the point where I can't trust him. I tell myself he loyal & all that, but I'm getting bad vibes. Things seem really weird with his patterns of making plans, too. I'm usually pretty trusting.

Weirdo or player?

U can say coochie here....SWEEEEEETTTTTTT!!!!Lol.anyways,in terms of having groupies,hmm u right men are weak in terms having alotta women adoring them and giving it up.But does dat say something for some women as well.But dat's a whoooole other topic. However if u two can see each other from time to time,then it can work out. Just be upfront about it, do not drop clues or cues.Confusion would cause some seriousssssss backlash. Just appreciate what he does,let him chase you,and let the magic begin.

sorry, i don't qualify here: no cancer. but it's interesting/inspiring!

groupies NEVER were an issue when in a relationship. even during a long relationship (7 years, still going)!
it's possible for a man not to give in to that, to not even be interested, however kind and friendly he treats his fans/groupies!
if this is your ONLY concern/doubt, give him a chance, i'd say.

Taurusgoddess~

How long have you and your Cancer been together? I do know that Cancer Men tend to withdraw when somethings not going right in their life. Mainly if they need to figure something out, they go into their shell. I read if you give them a little space to deal with whatever is going on they'll come back their cheerful and loving self again. I know how you feel though. I've experienced the withdrawn situation when working with Cancer brothers and it can be one of the most frustrating things. I dont think your man is a player, more a Weirdo. Give him that space but once he's back talk to him and try to get him to tell you whats going on.

Daemon~

You're funny. I totaly agree with you. I really want him to chase me soooooo....I've decided to slowly seduce him. Intellectually and spiritually first then....horizontally (hehe). We already know each other but its mainly on a surface level I'm trying to get deep with this man, I'm talking about Abyss deep. I definately have a plan. And clues, um hum got some of those up my sleeve as well.

Atlantic Myst~

NY'S IN THE HOUSE! Nice to get feedback from a fellow New Yorker. You and I both know how difficult a relationship can be in this city, business or personal. I have some doubts about me and the Cancer but what I feel for him outweighs them so you're right I'm gonna go for it.

Lizard Scorpio ~

I'm not gonna let some mere gruopies get in the way...I don't luv them hoes and could care less about them. When two people love each other it really does conquer all.

In two weeks my master plan to win his heart will be in action. I'll let you guys know all the seductive details.

glad to hear that!

liz