Confused by this cancer male! Please help :/

Hi all
I'm literally at a stand still with my cancer partner he is driving me insane!
I'm not 100% sure if he's decided to act all confused about us or he's playing mind games with me. Last week he decides to do his first ever disappearing act in 3 months of us being together then after me asking him on several occasions whats happening he dumps me 😢 I was devastated but after 4 days came round to the idea of us not being together anymore, I missed him like crazy. We were together every other day and constantly texting and calling in between so it kind of hit me hard! Then after 5 days he decided to contact me saying lets remain friends and he wants to see me. I agreed, we sat and spoke and he said he regretted breaking up with me and he's sorry blah blah blah so I agreed to give it another go. Then low and behold after a loving 3-4 days he's acting weird again and ignores me acts all distant- I completely snapped and called him every name under the sun! I was livid that I gave him another chance and it feels like he's f**ked me up again! Oh Jesus any advice would be great I feel like I'm going crazyyyy!
Thank you in advance x

Posted by Confusedsaggigirl
Then low and behold after a loving 3-4 days he's acting weird again and ignores me acts all distant- I completely snapped and called him every name under the sun! I was livid that I gave him another chance and it feels like he's f**ked me up again! Oh Jesus any advice would be great I feel like I'm going crazyyyy!
Thank you in advance x

Sometimes Cancer men are just afraid of losing a good thing. I have done it too, take a couple of steps back when something is going very very well. You don't want to use up all of a good thing or to screw it up, that's the great fear there. He isn't trying to screw you up.

Posted by starlover

I have yet to meet a Cancer man that can fully be present with a woman.

Sad, but in my experience, true

They dont have the courage

😢

I love the way you presented an anecdotal experience, then carefully used "my experience" and closed it with a wild generalization, "they don't have the courage". Good stuff...

Posted by starlover

...so you decide to feck it up rather than commit to it...is that what you are saying? please enlighten me, because i am buggered if i know what you mean. in my world this is being flaky and commitment phobic?

*oh this is too good, lets step away*

Huh?? No, that's not what it means at all. It just means you take a step back, processes your experience, understand the important stuff related to the lady you're with and make sure you give her the best. The intention, I reiterate, is not to screw it up by not reading the situation correctly. It doesn't involve running away...why should taking a step back mean running away??

You're one of 'em goddamn fire signs aren't you?? 😛

Posted by starlover
Thank you, yes it was rather clever wasnt it

🙂

It actually was, if I had to look for an opening then it was definitely quality work 😉.

Posted by starlover
Confused...if i was you girl i would RUN to be honest


😢

You just need some good solid cancer loving...lol.

No wait, you're a scorpy....the warning bells were slow.

Posted by starlover
😄 Scorp ~~ for my sins!!!! Aries rising though...jeeeez!

Nightmare woman

lol

i couldnt go with a Cancer man NOW, after all i have said, i got hit on one last night, funnily enough, but i would have ended up killing him 😄

thanks for explaining the stepping away ~~ hmmmm will process that

Mehh...you can go with a Cancer man anytime and you know it. Scorpy, cancer men own you...it's written all over....😛

There is almost nothing I don't dare to say scorpy...lol 😄

And you should answer such jibes, where is the fun otherwise?! 😛

Dated a cancer man for 2 years, with him doing these things repeatedly. Always backing out, and then coming back, and then backing out again. This time, after 2 years, he seems to have left for good, and I had no idea it was coming. It left me completely devastated, since I put everything into this relationship and thought that if I made him feel secure and cared for, he would see what a great thing we had, but no. Haven't heard from him in three weeks almost, even though we were also best friends, and I was there for him through a lot of tough times. A lot of people seem to have similar experiences with these men, so my advice would be to let it go if you're not crazy involved and look for love elsewhere before you end up like me.

Although I must say, I find cancer women to be in better control of their emotions and impulsive tendencies. My mother is cancer, and so is one of my closest friends, and they're both women who care very, very deeply and protect people they love with all they have. So maybe it's the men.