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Confusing: Pisces vs Cancer
I'm not going to war with Water, it's almost as silly as Decan wars (So :p on KP. Again.) Who is more mysterious, hard to read, confusing? That's rather like asking, "Who feels physical pain more acutely?" So. Is MY headache/toothache WORSE than yours? Is my heartbreak/sadness deeper and more painful than yours? Is my happiness and joy greater than what YOU can feel?... it's impossible to measure and boils down to personal perceptions... my pleasures/pain does not negate yours and my personality quirks/flaws do not make YOURS better or worse, and vice versa. If you're also "confusing".. does that mean that I'm not AS "confusing" or what? If I'M "mysterious".. does that mean I'm THE MOST "mysterious" and you are not? Immeasurable.. except by individual perception and belief.
Also... someone with enough Water influences *wouldn't* find Water people as hard to read as others might. Other Waters (and some Earths) have no issue with being able to understand me better than average.. whereas plenty of people throughout my life have found me mysterious, or hard to read, or confusing... because we're just so different from each other and/or didn't have experience or knowledge about understanding the other.
Also... someone with enough Water influences *wouldn't* find Water people as hard to read as others might. Other Waters (and some Earths) have no issue with being able to understand me better than average.. whereas plenty of people throughout my life have found me mysterious, or hard to read, or confusing... because we're just so different from each other and/or didn't have experience or knowledge about understanding the other.
Posted by treefrogger
water signs can't fool each other, but i think it might be because we're seen as weak and easy to read (i.e. whiny, moody, clingy). i just chalk it up to not willing/aware to get to know us better.
it's true.. there's a lot to us than just our handy dandy crabshell.
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the shell is handy indeed! helps weed out the ones that don't want to take the time to find out what lies beneath... MAWHAAAAA!
but really... maybe it's more about Cancers being secretive than mysterious.
Posted by Nefer
I'm not going to war with Water, it's almost as silly as Decan wars (So :p on KP. Again.) Who is more mysterious, hard to read, confusing? That's rather like asking, "Who feels physical pain more acutely?" So. Is MY headache/toothache WORSE than yours? Is my heartbreak/sadness deeper and more painful than yours? Is my happiness and joy greater than what YOU can feel?... it's impossible to measure and boils down to personal perceptions... my pleasures/pain does not negate yours and my personality quirks/flaws do not make YOURS better or worse, and vice versa. If you're also "confusing".. does that mean that I'm not AS "confusing" or what? If I'M "mysterious".. does that mean I'm THE MOST "mysterious" and you are not? Immeasurable.. except by individual perception and belief.
The Pisces know it's just a question to ponder... 😉
The differences are just as intriguing as the similarities to me. I don't want to get into the Pisces head. I find the unpredictability and vagueness stimulating and figuring out HOW or WHY it works that way just isn't a case I want to solve. It's more about waiting to see what will happen next.
When I feel someone beginning to probe... I'll shut it down, distract or deflect them. I become suspicious, Why do you want to know?
I find Pisces to be very forthcoming about their opinions, beliefs or views... it's just that those opinions, beliefs and views may change at any time.
If I have a high pain threshold, and you do not... than you feel more physical pain than I do. Is that also just perception?
So... if you think you are more 'mysterious' than I, will you willingly try to throw out more curve balls in order to prove your point?
Posted by KingPisces
Nefer is just telling you that there's no productivity or efficiency in speculating this theme. After all, by the end of the day we'll walk off and keep our own thoughts.
then why bother investigating anything if you feel there is nothing to gain... except possible insight.
Posted by KingPiscesPosted by shellshockerPosted by KingPisces
Nefer is just telling you that there's no productivity or efficiency in speculating this theme. After all, by the end of the day we'll walk off and keep our own thoughts.
then why bother investigating anything if you feel there is nothing to gain... except possible insight.
Something's bothering you. What's wrong Crabby friend?click to expand
haha! let me write you a list...
but seriously... the specifics are inconsequential Fish Fillet. It's the bigger idea and can be applied to any signs with similar traits i guess. Who has more pride? Capricorn or Leo?
maybe it is just a waste of brain power...
Posted by KingPiscesPosted by shellshockerPosted by KingPiscesPosted by shellshockerPosted by KingPisces
Nefer is just telling you that there's no productivity or efficiency in speculating this theme. After all, by the end of the day we'll walk off and keep our own thoughts.
then why bother investigating anything if you feel there is nothing to gain... except possible insight.
Something's bothering you. What's wrong Crabby friend?
haha! let me write you a list...
but seriously... the specifics are inconsequential Fish Fillet. It's the bigger idea and can be applied to any signs with similar traits i guess. Who has more pride? Capricorn or Leo?
maybe it is just a waste of brain power...
It is because analyzing both of their attitudes is non-productive.click to expand
How very fishy of you. "Why care?", right? I don't really and the moment has passed... NEXT! 🙂
Posted by KingPisces
^And to be a clownfishy just for sake of LOLz...
Leos lean towards vanity (and hence why I kick them in the face and why they're a bunch of homos) and Caps lean towards honor and principle.
So I respect Caps for that even if they're stubborn.
LOL!
I Have always been able to see right through a pisces,. I know exactly what to say to them at just the right moment. They are as obvious about their emotions as a Leo on a stage surrounded by Non-Leo people.
ThirdEye..Scorpios are not mysterious. They are just hiding from something bad they did, or their criminal record which is why they look poker face all the time^^^^^ LOL J/k :-)
I think neither Cancer or Pisces are "mysterious"...
We just feel and express ourselves in a different way..
what makes others think that the Fish is enigmatic maybe is the fact that we are so elusive and hard to find when we swim away, and when we are inside our heads living in our illusions..that is when nobody really knows what we are thinking and wonder .....
Crabs, on the other hand, are hard to get to know because of the famous shell under which they hide...they are secretive and private and that is why others want to pry and think they are intriguing...
Fish are more outward withtheir emotions and I must admit our feelings not always run so deep...we can move on very easily and NEVER cling...we are slippery and swim very fast. We have the habit of making a person feel so good, and then take that all away and the other ends up feeling devastated...we give it all quickly but we can also remove it fast....and the other wonders what happene.. (and what actually happened is that , as we tend to idealize others, when reality hits, we just get sodisappointe we disappear)
Of course Im generalizing here....
Crabs I guess are more permanent and their feelings are deeper, that is why they dont give their hearts away and they are so cautious, I guess it is because they attach hard...
I guess we understand each other pretty well Crabs and Fish...intuition ....perception..it is all there, we know what the other wants and needs.
The fish is more impatient and nosy..wants to pry all the time.....the Crab gets defensive.
The more secretive the Crab becomes, the more impatient the fish gets...
If the Crab doesnt open the Fish could swim to warmer waters...or maybe those who really fall in love will allow time and wait for the Crab to open at their own pace....
As in every sign, there are evolved and un evolved Fish and Crabs...
I know that unevolved fish are so manipulative..we can be enchanting but it could be superficial...we know what others want and we use that a lot...
But mature fish can give a lot, can be true and loyal and can understand and adapt.
We just feel and express ourselves in a different way..
what makes others think that the Fish is enigmatic maybe is the fact that we are so elusive and hard to find when we swim away, and when we are inside our heads living in our illusions..that is when nobody really knows what we are thinking and wonder .....
Crabs, on the other hand, are hard to get to know because of the famous shell under which they hide...they are secretive and private and that is why others want to pry and think they are intriguing...
Fish are more outward withtheir emotions and I must admit our feelings not always run so deep...we can move on very easily and NEVER cling...we are slippery and swim very fast. We have the habit of making a person feel so good, and then take that all away and the other ends up feeling devastated...we give it all quickly but we can also remove it fast....and the other wonders what happene.. (and what actually happened is that , as we tend to idealize others, when reality hits, we just get sodisappointe we disappear)
Of course Im generalizing here....
Crabs I guess are more permanent and their feelings are deeper, that is why they dont give their hearts away and they are so cautious, I guess it is because they attach hard...
I guess we understand each other pretty well Crabs and Fish...intuition ....perception..it is all there, we know what the other wants and needs.
The fish is more impatient and nosy..wants to pry all the time.....the Crab gets defensive.
The more secretive the Crab becomes, the more impatient the fish gets...
If the Crab doesnt open the Fish could swim to warmer waters...or maybe those who really fall in love will allow time and wait for the Crab to open at their own pace....
As in every sign, there are evolved and un evolved Fish and Crabs...
I know that unevolved fish are so manipulative..we can be enchanting but it could be superficial...we know what others want and we use that a lot...
But mature fish can give a lot, can be true and loyal and can understand and adapt.
"Like a Pisces I can make a person feel amazing and that I love them just by looking at them with what my friends and co-workers call "the look" ..lol.. and like a pisces not have any romantic feelings behind it."
Yes! and I'm sure some people had got the wrong impression and you got into trouble! that happened to me in my younger years, now Im not so lovingly anymore.
If you are split, then let me tell you , I'm Pisces sun Pisces rising!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂
Fortunately there is a LOT of air and fire in my chart, more than water, so Im not so emotional...
there is absolutely no EARTH in it..which does makes me so irresponsable financially sometimes,though I seem to be OK..I don't even know how much I earn or spend 😉
Yes! and I'm sure some people had got the wrong impression and you got into trouble! that happened to me in my younger years, now Im not so lovingly anymore.
If you are split, then let me tell you , I'm Pisces sun Pisces rising!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂
Fortunately there is a LOT of air and fire in my chart, more than water, so Im not so emotional...
there is absolutely no EARTH in it..which does makes me so irresponsable financially sometimes,though I seem to be OK..I don't even know how much I earn or spend 😉
Posted by prettymoonlight
See, I don't know how you are but for me? I find it VERY hard to give my heart. I am 38 years old and I have only done it 3 times. I didn't even give it to my ex-husband. Well, I tried, but I find once somebody does something to hurt me-- I emotionally shut down on the.
Now that I am older I want a REAL person with whom I can FINALLY relax with. Somebody I can tell my deepest darkest secrets and not have to worry. Somebody I can can be open with about what I want and not have to worry that I will be judged. Somebody who will understand that I have things about me that are quirky-- like my moody behavior at times, and they don't care. I guess I am looking for somebody who will accept me-- for me.
The problem is that if I get deeply emotionally hurt by a person-- I shut down on them. They can never get back in-- even if I want them to, like my ex-husband. The bigger problem is I cant seem to "emotionally" relax enough around a person to get to that point. I do stupid things to test them. ..lol.. ugh, it's a mess.
Are you like that at all—
YES!!!!! This is so me. I've had my heart broken once... and I'd like to keep it that way. I'm a Pisces rising too and get myself into many uncomfortable situations. Ugh..
From personal experience Pisces tend to be more emotionally deceptive, not many like to show how emotionally manipulative they can get, meanwhile Cancers dont see the need to hide their emotional complexity. There is a more straightforwardness to a Cancer whereas a Pisces is more convoluted. This is not in action at all because I guess we can all say that a Cancer never goes directly for what they want without doing some sidestep maneuvers. But certainly when it comes to relating to someone on a personal level a Cancer is easier to figure out.
my gf is a cancer and she'll never fully open up to me because i do tend to throw certain personal matters back in her face from time 2 time..idk but i do like to hurt her feelings to the core sometimes..
but she's the same way thou, lol..onlything is, she has nothing on me that will hurt me too bad, she tries her best thou lol
we're crazy i know i know
but she's the same way thou, lol..onlything is, she has nothing on me that will hurt me too bad, she tries her best thou lol
we're crazy i know i know
Posted by CancerianGoddess
I Have always been able to see right through a pisces,. I know exactly what to say to them at just the right moment.
That's great!
I can actually say the same thing about many other signs that I know.
It's actually quite easy to sense and perceive non-verbal behavior, and is a lot like detective work.
Posted by prettymoonlightPosted by shellshockerPosted by prettymoonlight
See, I don't know how you are but for me? I find it VERY hard to give my heart. I am 38 years old and I have only done it 3 times. I didn't even give it to my ex-husband. Well, I tried, but I find once somebody does something to hurt me-- I emotionally shut down on the.
Now that I am older I want a REAL person with whom I can FINALLY relax with. Somebody I can tell my deepest darkest secrets and not have to worry. Somebody I can can be open with about what I want and not have to worry that I will be judged. Somebody who will understand that I have things about me that are quirky-- like my moody behavior at times, and they don't care. I guess I am looking for somebody who will accept me-- for me.
The problem is that if I get deeply emotionally hurt by a person-- I shut down on them. They can never get back in-- even if I want them to, like my ex-husband. The bigger problem is I cant seem to "emotionally" relax enough around a person to get to that point. I do stupid things to test them. ..lol.. ugh, it's a mess.
Are you like that at all—
YES!!!!! This is so me. I've had my heart broken once... and I'd like to keep it that way. I'm a Pisces rising too and get myself into many uncomfortable situations. Ugh..click to expand
Yes, I always find myself in a mess. I do try hard to stay under the radar but it does not always work.
As for my heart? This last heart break-- this was the absolute worst.
I don't think I'll be able to open up again and that kinda scares me... and it also makes me sad. I'm sorta dating a nice sagg guy and again-- I did it. I totally backed away cold to see if he'd chase me back. I knew I was doing it too. I didn't return his calls for 2 days and then I told him I had plans this weekend. When he text me yesterday I sent him off a short response saying I'd call him Monday. I know that had to hurt him but I'm starting to feel like I like him.
This scares me as I am worried he's a player.
Monday? who knows if I'll even answer his call. I know what I am doing is f-ed up too. I know it as I am typing it now. I just don't feel ready to let my guard down.
I think I am going to ask Santa for a crystal ball for Christma
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