Cancer/Pisces frustration

I'm interested in a male Cancer(I'm a Pisces female). We've known each other for years but weren't very close nor did we get together because I had a boyfriend at the time. That boyfriend eventually became an ex due to his constant cheating and lying. Cancer male was very vocal in telling me that he didn't like the way my ex treated me and that I should stay away from him. He was concerned that I was still sleeping with my ex. I told him I was not and he now knows that I was truthful.

I've made the steps to distance myself from my ex and at the very same time, my Cancer male and I have become closer and closer....spending time together daily at home (or talking for hours on the phone when not). He remembers little things that I've told him that I didn't even think mattered to him. We enjoy many of the sames things and have the same values. Cancer male has told me that he never chases after women and I've told him that I do not chase men. We have never been on an official date together, nor have we been intimate or talked directly about being together. There are times when we sit together and I feel such a strong sexual tension that I almost expect the couch to set itself on fire.

He calls me every single day and almost always answers my calls on the first ring. Sometimes he uses bs excuses for why I need to come over and sometimes, he'll just ask me what my plans are but never ask me to do anything, just that he is available IF I should want to come over. Sometimes his tone is soft-spoken, at other times it's as if I'm one of the guys.

Recently, I got a bit drunk and a little frisky (ughh!!) but he didn't take advantage and told me about it the next day. I apologized profusely and he said he didn't take offense at all. He even joked about it a little bit. Ever since then, he has pulled back a little but still calls me every day and makes it known that he is available IF I WANT to hang out, like he always has done.

I don't know what to do. I have developed strong feelings for him that I can barely contain but I'm way too scared to tell him (if he doesn't realize it already). I'm old-fashioned and don't believe in making the first move (never had to). I'm an attractive woman with a lot going on and I almost want to walk away from this and move on to someone who WILL tell me that they want me. Only problem is, I'm falling for the guy. I can't tell if he's into me as a friend or a potential gf and I don't know what to do

This guy obviously likes you and is trying to wait it out to see your reaction. If it were me, i'd have made it clear already but he's obviously more timid. I'm a cancer and I don't believe in being friends with a girl unless I believe it can turn into something serious. To my disbelief I recently got burned by a scorp.. so a pisces sounds like a worthwhile pursuit to me..

Funny, he was badly burnt by a Scorpio too. I myself have had 2 very short-lived relationships with Scorpios.

He doesn't seem to be the timid type but I don't get why he can't even tell me directly that he wants to spend time with me. I would understand this behavior if I had already put out, but we haven't even shared a kiss! I have never spent this much time with a guy in my entire life that I wasn't in a relationship with, in person or on the phone. He is calling me right now as I type this.

Yeah, all signs may point to yes, but when I get up to leave, he'll barely bat an eyelash sometimes...like "ok, see ya. Call me if you want." WTF is that?!

Oh yeah, what reaction is he waiting for? I've come over every day, we've cooked for each other, we call each other daily, I made him a cake and was the only friend to do anything for him or get him any gifts on his b-day and I'm always there when he needs me. What more does this man need from me to know that I like him?

I am not dogging, U can take my advice if U want!

But, Cancer men like 2 test U. Test! Test! Test! and give little or nothing in return until they think it is safe! By that time, U will B uninterested! If he is not doing anything 4 U, simply don't do anything 4 him. Don't get yourself in relationship debt. Where U R giving more than U R recieving. Right now, U R going by the intense connection U feel which is not real! Intense connection with men R NOT REAL! Make him hold off on sex! Until as long as it takes. Once U give yourself 2 him without getting what U want in return, he is gone. Get 2 know him, period. This should B a time where U R just getting 2 know each other with sex out of the picture! Once U realize all the tests U R going 2 have 2 endure, U R going 2 B saying bye, bye, real quick. Don't show 2 much interest. Show some and back off. That is the best advice I can give U with a Cancer man.

Yeah, all signs may point to yes, but when I get up to leave, he'll barely bat an eyelash sometimes...like "ok, see ya. Call me if you want." WTF is that?!

//Probably just trying to act macho and once again testing your reaction.. in a good way of course. Maybe try doing the opposite of what he wants you to do to see how he'll react.//

Oh yeah, what reaction is he waiting for? I've come over every day, we've cooked for each other, we call each other daily, I made him a cake and was the only friend to do anything for him or get him any gifts on his b-day and I'm always there when he needs me. What more does this man need from me to know that I like him?

//Well if you've spent that much time together then it's clear you both like each other. Like you, he may be waiting for you to say something. You could try not saying anything directly and instead getting him to admit he likes you himself..//

Yeah,
But U men brag about them SO much, when it is a natural known fact that SCORPS R VERY REVENGEFUL! It is in their making, their hearts and because it is a natural trait they possess, U men tend 2 go right back 2 it.

In most cases it's true but there are exceptions. As i've said before in another thread, never deal with them via phone or text messaging. Face to face contact only with Scorps.. and look them square in the eyes too.

Oh yeah, what reaction is he waiting for? I've come over every day, we've cooked for each other, we call each other daily, I made him a cake and was the only friend to do anything for him or get him any gifts on his b-day and I'm always there when he needs me. What more does this man need from me to know that I like him?

//Well if you've spent that much time together then it's clear you both like each other. Like you, he may be waiting for you to say something. You could try not saying anything directly and instead getting him to admit he likes you himself..//

Don't sell yourself SHORT! What is his BDAY?

Scorps aren't the only ones who can have vengeful natures..

I'm a believer in the idea of "don't get mad, get even".

I'm a believer in the idea of "don't get mad, get even".

We'll that is probably Y Scorps burn U. Not a good philosphy!

I am holding off on sex. I'm not trying to rush that part at all. We haven't shared ANYTHING besides a slightly timid hug every once in awhile. I'm used to a guy wanting to put his hands all over me before he even says hello and this guy is NOT like that so I REALLY REALLY like that about him. He treats me well and he does do little things for me but I can interpret them as sweet little gestures or just being friendly. I'm just starting to think that I'm just a buddy to him because he hasn't tried anything or even said that he'd like to take our friendship to the next level. You guys tell me how long you can sit and watch a movie at arms length with someone you desire and NOT go completely crazy after awhile because you want to kiss them and can't?

Testing me? Maybe. Every once in a while, he'd tell me that he wanted me to set him up with one of my single friends or over the phone, he'd tell me that some hot girl just walked by him, should he talk to her? It drove me crazy but I wasn't about to show him that it did, so I'd play it off. The last time he did it, I got annoyed and made a snippy comment and he hasn't done it since. Does he actually go out and look for girls on his own? Nope, he is holed up in his house like a hermit crab in a shell and I hang out there with him.

Pisces and Cancer being so "psychically" in tune? Yes about everything else. We can finish each others sentences but regarding his intentions, he is completely closed off.

He has a Virgo moon.

Look you're at the point where you're not just friends but not really a couple. It's a test of wills but somebody still needs to take the initiative.

//Does he actually go out and look for girls on his own? Nope, he is holed up in his house like a hermit crab in a shell and I hang out there with him.//

He has no need to go out looking if he already has what he's looking for. Try sitting close together when watching a movie.. I know I could never sit arms length from a girl I liked during a movie.

LMAO @ these cancers saying they got burned by scorps. Only way u get burned by a scorp is when YOU hurt them. So enough with that, I'm sure u deserved it if in fact u did get burned.

You will never see that side of a scorp until YOU bring it out!

Ha! I wasn't even given a chance..! how else would you call getting lead on and then brushed off and avoided at every opportunity?

Would a scorp tolerate that if someone did it to them? Probably not..

Um SRG,

Ha! I wasn't even given a chance..! how else would you call getting lead on and then brushed off and avoided at every opportunity

If that was the case, that is just not a Scorp trait. Others do it 2. LOL! It is called good game. U know, get U all hot and heavy with mixed signals and then bounce on you as if the female is not interested anymore! Ha, U would do it 2 us..

I'm not sure about all this water sign compatibility stuff. I've dated two Pisces but I couldn't handle being with someone who had the same annoying Piscean traits as I did so I had to end things. It actually taught me to be more aware of those things...over-sensitivity, clinginess and such, so good lesson learned.

Scorpios on the other hand...egads! They're supposed to be the perfect sign for us Pisces? I've dated two Scorpios as well (yes, I know I'm starting to sound like the Noah's Ark of dating!). I have nothing civil to say about either one of them. To this day, I suspect that one of them might have been schizo.

Anyway, my Cancer called me again and wants me to come over tonight "If I want". If I go, I'm sure it'll be more of the same thing...sitting on the couch like two neutered puppies. I was comtemplating telling him that I like him and then boarding the next plane to Japan before he has the chance to shoot me down but I won't. I think he may win this one though. I'm about to give up. I really don't want to though. I think he's worth sticking around for. And I've never been with a Cancer. I'll just have to cool my jets!

the last three females ive been into the last couple of years have been scorps...its just not right...their magnetic abilities kill. haha

I have did the same thing with my Cancer, and I am not a Scorp. LOL! That just makes U want us more, the more U want what U cannot have, the more U desire, the more U desire, the more I drive your arse crazy!

"If I go, I'm sure it'll be more of the same thing..."

lmao...she says "if" i go...who are u kidding, you are going to run over there.

Yeap.
lmao...she says "if" i go...who are u kidding, you are going to run over there.



She sure is, and she is gonna do what she wants anyway, so go 4 what U know. However, 2 me, inviting yourself 2 a man, and being available all the time will eventually B a turnoff!

Anyway, my Cancer called me again and wants me to come over tonight "If I want". If I go, I'm sure it'll be more of the same thing...sitting on the couch like two neutered puppies. I was comtemplating telling him that I like him and then boarding the next plane to Japan before he has the chance to shoot me down but I won't. I think he may win this one though. I'm about to give up. I really don't want to though. I think he's worth sticking around for. And I've never been with a Cancer. I'll just have to cool my jets!

//Cancers always say stuff like this: "If you want" or "If you're OK with it..". I do it all the time. It's just our weird cancerian way of taking your wishes into account. Why are you afraid of telling the guy you have feeling for him?//

"how else would you call getting lead on and then brushed off and avoided at every
opportunity"

SRG, being nice can often be confused with leading someone on. i think that was ur case with your scorp. and don't knock us scorps because in your own head u thought something else was going on.

Krobe, I agree. You shouldn't go tonight Peixe.

"Why are you afraid of telling the guy you have feeling for him?//"

lol SRG....give me a break, u know more than anyone if she dare utter a word about having feelings, she won't hear from him in atleast a month.

lol SRG....give me a break, u know more than anyone if she dare utter a word about having feelings, she won't hear from him in atleast a month.

Yeap, he will freeze up like ice man. So, true. So, just don't tell him, show him, and let him TELL U his feelings first, and then U freeze up on him. U have 2 have game with this complex individual.

//SRG, being nice can often be confused with leading someone on. i think that was ur case with your scorp. and don't knock us scorps because in your own head u thought something else was going on.//

Lady Scorp, look, I haven't seen her in 4 years and SHE invited me to hang out, drink, party with HER.. etc. she made a couple other suggestive comments that made me believe she wasn't just being nice. So after all this somehow fell through, I'm inclined to think she was leading me on.

//lol SRG....give me a break, u know more than anyone if she dare utter a word about having feelings, she won't hear from him in atleast a month.//

All i'm saying is that it's a stalemate and that someone should act already..

Oh, and I do mean freeze up on him like he dropped a bomb on U. LOL!

Lady Scorp, look, I haven't seen her in 4 years and SHE invited me to hang out, drink, party with HER.. etc. she made a couple other suggestive comments that made me believe she wasn't just being nice. So after all this somehow fell through, I'm inclined to think she was leading me on.

This is how women with good men skills operate. It's called the mirror effect. U do me, I do U. Look at us, we reflect one another. U like me, U like me not, but, if I am a mirror reflecting U, how can U resist someone lower than yourself!

"Lady Scorp, look, I haven't seen her in 4 years and SHE invited me to hang out, drink, party with HER.. etc. she made a couple other suggestive comments that made me believe she wasn't just being nice. So after all this somehow fell through, I'm inclined to think she was leading me on."

lmao SRG, if thats the worst thing a Scorpio does to you then consider yourself a lucky man

"All i'm saying is that it's a stalemate and that someone should act already.."

you are right SRG, but it most definitely should NOT be HER if she wants it to go somewhere

"All i'm saying is that it's a stalemate and that someone should act already.."

you are right SRG, but it most definitely should NOT be HER if she wants it to go somewhere...

Yeap, hey SRG! Now, we don't want her assuming and he leads her on, then gets what he wants and he is out somewhere down the line right? The harder it is 2 get, the more he will stay around!

SRG, i told u before, if she does like you and she wasnt just being a big time flirt, then if you don't pay her any mind, it will kill her inside and she won't be able to resist and will come after you. play with her a little, but you both need to know when to stop the cute little games. but i don't know if she really does like you though. its tricky, its been 4 yrs so she may not even be sure herself.

Ignore a SCORP,

NO the HELL way. That will NOT happen. NO, that will not happen. She is 2 determined!

//lmao SRG, if thats the worst thing a Scorpio does to you then consider yourself a lucky man//

I just don't get why there was any need to act deceptive and shady..? If she wanted nothing to do with me she should have said so in the first place.

//you are right SRG, but it most definitely should NOT be HER if she wants it to go somewhere//

We could go on like this forever arguing who goes first.. personally I think it makes no difference at all just as long as 1 person steps it up. Take the initiative and see what happens.. you won't know until you try.

"Ignore a SCORP,

NO the HELL way. That will NOT happen. NO, that will not happen. She is 2 determined!"

very true Krobe, that is exactly why he has to do it if he really wants to know if she's digging him. Scorp woman will ALWAYS go after what she wants!

you won't know until you try.

And then once he gets her, he won't want her anymore. SRG! Please stop! We women R hip 2 this OK!

I think your Scorp likes U, but, she is going 2 test U 2 C if U R really into her, just like U Cancer men test. U should not assume, just ask her how she feels about U?

"We could go on like this forever arguing who goes first.. personally I think it makes no difference at all just as long as 1 person steps it up. Take the initiative and see what happens.. you won't know until you try."

okay SRG, either u are not really a cancer or you don't know about yourself.

I just don't get why there was any need to act deceptive and shady..? If she wanted nothing to do with me she should have said so in the first place.

I do this 2. It is not deceptive or shady, it is called being patient. Not rushing into something just because U make her feel good and not letting her emotions take over.

//SRG, i told u before, if she does like you and she wasnt just being a big time flirt, then if you don't pay her any mind, it will kill her inside and she won't be able to resist and will come after you. play with her a little, but you both need to know when to stop the cute little games. but i don't know if she really does like you though. its tricky, its been 4 yrs so she may not even be sure herself.//

Thats what i'm doing right now. She texted me a few more times but I never answered back. All I can do is wait and see what happens. BTW, i've cooled off a bit and would just like to say that i'm not mad at her and if she does choose to seek me out for real, i'd forget all of this like it never happened.

SRG,

out of curiosity, did she say "oh we should get together and have drinks sometime" or did she say "do u want to have drinks with me on such and such day"

Thats what i'm doing right now. She texted me a few more times but I never answered back. All I can do is wait and see what happens. BTW, i've cooled off a bit and would just like to say that i'm not mad at her and if she does choose to seek me out for real, i'd forget all of this like it never happened.

Oh boy! U should have NEVER let me know that is how U Cancer men think! Oh boy. Yeah, women usually give men time 2 cool off before they attack. But, if she does not come after U, don't B startled, she may just not want U 2 resist, so she will back off until U show more interest. Some women just have control! Don't B upset though. Love takes time and patience. I know my Cancer friend is probably feeling the same exact way, but, he has 2 learn, everything that makes U feel good, is not good 4 U.

SRG, be careful with the no response to the text messages. Remember u two have been out of touch for 4 yrs. Scorpios are determined, but there has to be a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel in order for them to continue.

I told him that I'll consider coming over tonight and he says "Ok, I'll see you later then." lmao... So he and apparently all the rest of you think I was just going to go running over there. Well you were right...almost.

He doesn't come to my house because of my living situation (crazy roommate). I don't even like being here. But that will change soon and he has expressed interest in seeing my new place when I move in. But anyway, that's why I'm always over there instead of him being here.

Why should he say "Come over later if you want." when I didn't ask to see or hang out with him? Taking my wishes into account? I wish to see him, not make him sick of seeing me. If he doesn't want to see me, why not make some excuse for why he won't be there or simply just say "I'll talk to you later." or something like that? On the occasion that he does has things to do, he'll tell me exactly what they are and that he won't be at home. Even when he does, he'll still call me up later and ask me what I'm doing and tell me that he's home now and will be there "IF I WANT" to see him. Why even bother to do that?

I did go as far to tell him that I thought he was really cool and I enjoyed hanging out with him. He had something to do the day that I said that but he did call me once he got home to tell me that I could stop by "If I want". I told him I may or may not because I was tired. He called me an hour later to find out if I was coming.

I'm going to take your advice and NOT tell him how I feel. I was already planning on NOT telling him anyway but at this point, I don't feel like playing games anymore.

Peixe,

r u sleeping with him?

I'm going to take your advice and NOT tell him how I feel. I was already planning on NOT telling him anyway but at this point, I don't feel like playing games anymore.

I really don't think he is playing games again. This is just how Cancer men operate. So, does he live by himself or with his mom or dad or grandpa? LOL! If he does, I would reconsider going over someone else house 2. But, yeah, I would not hide ALL my feelings, I would show him with my actions, because I have found out from my own experience. Cancer men try 2 pry off women with low self esteem! Or they just try the hell out of U. Just give up some space and don't run, just because he wants U 2. Cancer men also know easy prey!

"But anyway, that's why I'm always over there instead of him being here."

how about u two stay away from each others places to begin with and start going out on "dates". there's plenty of things out there to do.

ok i found my answer to the sex. she claims they are not having sex

((raising eyebrow)) u sure about this Peixe?

how about u two stay away from each others places to begin with and start going out on "dates". there's plenty of things out there to do.

Lady Scorp could have said it no better. When U go 2 his house, U R inviting trouble. He knows easy prey. Ask him 2 take U out on a date? Don't ask him nothing, if he is not offering 2 get 2 know U other than his place, do U think he is worthy of your time? Um, I don't know about that. U R inviting trouble 2 a innocent situation, on top of being 2 available as if U have nothing on your mind other than him. He will pick up on this darling.