Curiosity on cancer man

Hi I'm new here and had quite a bit of history with my cancer man, but now since new year he came back after 2-3month no contact and told me "I guess where together" and that he loves me!! Ok ok he knows I love him and everything is ok, but he goes weird and reserved again!! After a week gets in touch and says he's having issues with the family.. But he understands if I want to end it?? Why does he ask this?? Is he looking for reassurance or an easy way out?? My god these cancer men are hard work.. Also he asked me if I had been slagging him this week we hadn't talked I said no but I wasn't happy.. So again he said well if u want to finish it I understand!! Hmm .. I said no u know I don't but now I'm wondering what to think of him asking me this??

maybe he's the one who wants out but feels bad so is trying to push you to end things. he sounds confused and confusing. i mean, after 2-3 months of no contact and he swings back in your life saying that you 2 are now a couple? he would have been a fading memory by then for me. he would have moved back to square 1 and probably forever "friend zoned".

anyway, his constantly asking you if you want to end things is more or less his way of telling you that HE wants to end things. i hate to generalize but i see this behavior a lot in men. they don't want to hurt their partner so they clam up and go about it indirectly.

as always, the best way to find out is to ask him.

Hey
Cancer guys pull up a lot of your own insecurities from within. Take advice from someone who has got their share of cancer guy experience. Don't ever make a decision based on your own insecurity. You have to be the strong one in the relationship and reassure him. This guy likes you he is just scared. Show him you care with actions and never words. Say I love you and he will run. Be prepared for a long courtship, these guys take a long time to know you are the one. They take one step forward two back. He is testing to see if you are willing to be there for him no matter what. No matter what anyone says this guy likes you. The ball is in your court. And for the record be real light and easy when asking him about the disappearing acts. Confrontation makes them nervous.

Hey
I have a cancer joke. How did the cancer guy respond to his girlfriend when she said the words "I love you"? He said prove it, and with his actions alone all hell broke loose.
When your are being tested just know what it is.

Thank you for your input.. He just confuses me so much!! It's like hot and cold hot and cold.. But least this time round when he goes into his shell he will still send the odd text and not completely ignore me like last time.. That has to be a good sign.. What's the best actions to show I love him, with out words then? Thanx

Hollie
I suspect the reason he says he loves you is due in part to the fact that your actions already speak volumes to him about how you feel.Just be yourself. And find tons of interest and interesting people outside of your relationship so that his shell time won't feel like an eternity

Posted by Hollie20
Thank you for your input.. He just confuses me so much!! It's like hot and cold hot and cold.. But least this time round when he goes into his shell he will still send the odd text and not completely ignore me like last time.. That has to be a good sign.. What's the best actions to show I love him, with out words then? Thanx

Hot and cold you say? Hmmm, that's odd, never would have figured a crab could be so moody, up and down all the time...

As for your second question, home cooked meal, candles, and the fancy dishes. Follow it up with a bubble bath or some massages.

Heh heh...yeah we're quite a handful.