Do cancer women like a lot of attention?

Hey guys, I got a question for all cancer girls. How much attention do you like/need? I'm dating a cancer girl now and would like some ideas on the issue. I'm a taurus so I can exert an overwhelming amount of compliments, remarks and consideration but is there a limit that I should not cross?

I personally like to be treated like a princess.

I love attention-positive attention, of course : ). Sincere compliments from someone I like-definitely makes me all warm and fuzzy!!!

I am talking to a Taurus guy right now. I love his affectionate nature.

I need my space at times and that doesn't mean that there is something wrong. I just like to have time to myself. I love to nurture and do for those that I love/like a lot. I like to know that my efforts were appreciated.

I will back away if I feel you are taking me for granted, so like firecracker said make sure you are sincere in your gestures and approach. She will pick up on it right away if you aren't.

Cancer women get very excited and girly when they receive attention/affect from those they love/adore. I find they lack self-control and get carried away in excitement that it clouds their judgement.

They are also very clingy and want to be with that person they cling to 24/7.

So yes, they want LOTS of attention. I dont think they love themselves very much so they look for love/attention outside of themselves.

If only they could learn to love themselves, they will realise self love comes from within, rather than looking for extrenal sources.

"They are also very clingy and want to be with that person they cling to 24/7."

For me personally, that statement is not true. I can be moody at times, and during those times I want to be by myself.

I do like to spend time with the one I love or am attracted to and I also want their attention in ways that let me know they are thinking of me or missing me. Not so much as I need to be in their presence attached to their hip at all times.

I like attention in the forms of phone calls, text messages, visits, gifts, etc. Just so that I know I am being though of.

Emotional clinginess with Cancerians is a way of them getting attention/affection from people.

The Cancerians in my life need this emotional security at all times.

I hadn't spoken to my Cancer friend in about 4 days. To me that was not long. But on the 3rd day - he text me asking me how I was and that he hasnt forgotten me.

and on the 4th day when I finally saw him - he said it was great to have me back. Now one would think we hadn't seen eachother in years.

Cancerians hate to be forgotten about so regular contact is essential to maintain a loving relathionship with them, whether you're lovers, friends..etc.

---------> "Cancerians hate to be forgotten about so regular contact is essential to maintain a loving relathionship with them, whether you're lovers, friends..etc."

how ironic when they are known for pulling their distancing act on a whim.

"how ironic when they are known for pulling their distancing act on a whim."

I have done this before to someone that I was in love with and dated for 5 years. Just told him I was done and stopped contact altogether for six straight months, cold turkey.

I think that contradicts the so called "clingy" theory for me. Everyone is different, it depends on the person.

''how ironic when they are known for pulling their distancing act on a whim.''

You have to think beyond ... Think... WHY do they do this?

This is a way of them to TEST how much you want them. think of them etc. They havent made up their mind whether or not they trust you.

Or if they pull away after they have trusted you - you may have done something to upset them or they may have personal problems, ie financial.


But they do like to keep regular contact with LOVED ones. People they Trust and feel secure with 100% .

Maybe its because Im a Scorpio that I understand them so well...

They need and crave emotional security so by keeping contact and giving them attention - they get what they need to be happy.

Thank you very much ladies. I do have to admit that this need for attention which cancer possesses is what makes her so enticing to me. Seeing her happy makes me happy. Mood swings are not bad at all. Once you get used to them it feels like an ocean hitting against the rocks, sometimes its stormy and sometimes placid, and yet when you stand atop of them it is quite indifferent what state the water is in. I wouldn't agree with self confidence problem or rather lack of it. It is exhibited in a milder version than comparing to a taurus, for example, but its definitely there. In general, I would like to note, as my personal opinion, that it is hard to find a sign more suited for emotional and personal relationship.

Good luck budrdm!

Scorpion Sting, thanks for your insight; it is obvious you do understand them well.

I understand the testing and the reasons behind it. My problem is knowing the difference; is he testing or is he just not interested? We are not in an established relationship and have known each other since late December '07. Contact in January was intense via chat, camming, phone and texts as he was working out of town. Since February he has been back in town and we have seen each other about 6 times; equal initiation. This last month, I am the only one initiating. Sometimes I call when he is busy and he says he will call back, but doesn't. I had just left it alone and not said anything until last week. I told him despite how much I like him and feel a real connection with him, I will not tolerate the disrespect and I have not heard from him since. He is so loving and sweet when we are together. But when he does this it makes me feel like I am deluding myself and staying around for a man who wants nothing to do with me.

What about the concept of actions speaking louder than words?

Actions do speak louder than words.

Is there anyone else in the picture? Cancer men are loyal so if he has another 'love' - he will be loyal to that person. He could even have another love interest?

They are also afraid of rejection because they are very sensitive people and will rarely ever (or never) make the first move. He has moved back to think about/digest what you have said to him.

You can only judge on his next step...

NB: THey hardly ever make decisions on the spot. They have to THINK through things and make the best decisions. Affairs of the heart is serious.

As far as I know he doesn't have another love interest. He told me that I am the only one he is 'messing with like this'. His last relationship was nearly 2 years ago and it met a devastating end for him; she was cheating on him and he found in in february that the affair had been going on MUCH longer than he was lead to believe. So, there could be trust issues.

He told me last month that he wants me but is afraid I will reject him. So, I told him he has no worries there and I gave him the proverbial green light. However, this seemed to make little difference in his behaviour. One would think that that would be enough to set his mind at ease...especially since I walk my talk and continued to keep in touch with him.

I am a leo with a cancer rising....this relationship has been such a challenge. I like him very much but my stubborn streak just won't let me let it go completely. Time will tell ultimately.......

Dubrdm: why did you ask this if you've been with a Cancer chix for like 3 years now?? shouldnt you know about our quirks? I dont know why people keep saying we're moody. Emotional maybe and the moods play off of that. Like some folks can shirk off a comment or slight easier than others...I get really moody once a month, when I am really stressed, my finances are crap or my love life sucks...or I'm bored and I cant go out.
Those are pretty much what sets off a neg. mood. Take me out to a decent dinner, stay at home with me, be around but dont bug me...that will get me out of a funk, usually.

Your question pretty much answered itself: every cancer is different. Horoscope is not a set of rules, but more like guidelines. I know my girl inside and out however, I wanted to get an array of opinions from other people on the matter.