Finding your place in life...

I am a 24 year old cancer woman, and I never thought at this age I would be so confused about what it is I really want to do, it's like I feel I cannot seem to find my place in life, with jobs, relationships, and in friends. Have any of you ever had this problem? If so what did you do about it. I'm starting to feel so alone, and usually I have some insight on what it is I want, but it just seems like the things I choose in life, doesn't seem to work or it's just not for me. I feel there are so many things I need to work on when it comes to me, so many thing to learn. I notice lately I tend to stay with people or at places, I know deep down inside I do not belong, and after being in a relationship for almost two years, I finally woke up one day and realized that I did not belong with this guy, and have gone through so much, now knowing that he's not what I want. Unfortunately I think that the relationship has taken such a toll on me, now I just want to start fresh and get over all of the hurt I have experienced within the past year and a half. I just want to be at a place where I am completely comfortable, and can be myself, surround myself around others who are genuine and truly appreciate me for who I am. I hope what I have said here makes sense. Let me know what you guys think, I need as much insight as possible.

pinkkitty, i think what you are experiencing is normal. we all go through times in our life where things don't seem to make sense. but if you look hard enough these are the times in which we grow and learn. as a fellow cancer i know it is hard to break away from comfortable things even though we know they are not good for us. it is times like this that we have to dig deep within ourselves and see what changes we need to make in our lives in order to make it better. i think right now you are trying to push for changes instead of letting them happen naturally. you have made conclusions on what you don't want and what you do want so now you must have faith that good is coming your way soon. also, we attract people and circumstances in our lives as to how we think and feel. sounds like you are lacking a little confidence but it will come back i promise. keep the faith in life and most importantly have faith in yourself...oh and love the name as it makes my cancerian imagination run wild..lol..

Thanks cansir : ). Yea perhaps I may be lacking confidence. After being in a relationship with a person who did not appreciate me, unfortunately it made me question myself so many times, and second guess my feelings. So now I have to regain that strength and confidence again, so I can start living a positive happy life.

pinkkitty, you are a cancer so get out there and show that cancer determination and prove to yourself that you are worth being loved and happiness is coming your way. but just a hint..it starts with you :-)

PK-

Realize you are Ok. It is not always easy and please heed Cancir's words. You will be fine and this is a natural progression of life. Don't hang around with people that suck... We all deserve better, including YOU!!

I've been in similar situations (a long time ago), life gets worse then better. A lot for you women is the decisions you make and who you hang with? Please don't let the world push you around!

Do not spend a bunch of time alone. We Cansers are great people, and sometimes must hang with our good friends. I've seen pure hell, but I'm a coming around? It is my wonderful friends that have made the biggest difference!!

Amazing things will happen with the right attitude!!

David

now THAT is good advice!

Great proverb about the donkey.

As far as finding what you want to do professionally, I thought this was interesting (in a concrete, step by step, self help kind of way):

http://briankim.net/blog/2006/07/how-to-find-what-you-love-to-do/

My own 2 cents is that at your age, everyone is confused. It's easy to look at the rare people who've always known exactly what they wanted and courted it successfully the whole time and forget that most people don't fit that mold. Stressing out or comparing yourself to others does not help. Thinking carefully about what you really want and getting help on how to get it from well-qualified mentors does help. Not comparing yourself to others and doing what you want *for yourself* without worrying about it being good enough for someone else is usually the hard part for people (including myself).

Thats very true.

wow all very good advice. Im 23 and Im in a kind of similar situation. I don't stress it because I'm really learning how to let people go,because a lot of them arent worth holding on to. And I'm learning to be patient and just let the seasons of life come as they may. As long as I keep working toward a goal and avoid the things I do want to get involved in, there will be eventual progress. Sometimes life gets discouraging, but you just have to push through and live to see another day, and while your alive why not enjoy it by always looking for the bright side of every "adventure" life brings your way. Dont call them problems, call them adventures, dont call them set backs, call them challenges, dont call them downs call them dips or shifts. You'll find that enjoying wherever you are in life as you make your way to your special place of fulfillment is all in how you look at it.

avoid the things I dont* want to get involved in.

Wow thanks a lot guys, and I love the donkey in the wall story *proverbs*. As time progress, I start to feel better. I think I get so use to doing things the same way that sometimes change becomes a little more difficult that I thought. And now that I am single, I can definitely work towards my goals and focus mainly on myself, and change myself for the better. I thank all of you who shared you thoughts, it is greatly appreciated.

latinaindia - my scorp best friend [no I'm not schitzo - I have two best friends - one is a cancer and one is a scorp] has been having much the same problem and I read something last night where a scorp said something similar to Christoipher Renstrom and asked his advice and he said that has been happeneing for scoprs because their ruling planet Pluto was in saturn and since pluto rules - among other things - obstacles the first half of this transit [2004-06 was difficult, but the remaining part of the transit [through 2008] would be a rebuilding and rejuvenating period - so good luck !!

Its just about seasons. Read Ecclesiastes or just break out the Beetles or Mr.Seegar. There is a time to build and a time to destroy, a time to gather and a time to give away, a time to have a perfect life and a time to have trials. Just find something positive in every season because each one is meant to be as pleasant as the other.

I just realised what I wrote..... not "in Saturn" although I can't rememebr what it was in now...... but anyway - bottom line is things are supposed to be getting better for you :0)