Do cancerian males use you for sex

I always thought it was all emotional etc when cancerian had sex. But now I wonder about it.

I can't tell if my ex is using me for sex. He says it's hard to be around me and not 'want' me. And then he will bring up some occassion when we did sleep together and remind me how good it was.

But he also calls me lately. And asked how I am, etc.

And on the rare occasions when the sex did happen...He was all cuddly and huggy after.

Am I been used?

^^^ agree

Yes, a Cancer male can use you for sex. They can be quite selfish about it.

They better not!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeahhhhhhh!!! sex wit the ex..... hey its a thing. meh! move on

I think it all depends.

Cancers usually need some type of connection when having sex, even if it's a small shred. And seeing as though you're an ex and he is not vocal about a relationship with you (after he has been through the testing phase and has opened up enough to be open with you) he may be using you for sex. Cancers may go back to their exes so they can be sexually fulfilled, while dating others (and not having sex with them because of a lack of emotional connection/early in the relationship). Cancers can still cuddle and have sex with exes with no real attachment; they do this because it's convenient and comfortable/predictable. And when they have made a connection with the new person, they will cut the ex off until they no longer need that crutch. Sad, but true. How can you tell the difference? The biggest indicator is how they sex you. Do you feel their heart and emotions in it? Are they taking their time with you and wanting to please you or are they wanting you to please them enough to get off? Do they do the things they did when they were obviously in love with you? Is the level of passion the same? Do they have that sparkle in their eye? Does he interact with you often and share his personal life with you? If it sounds like they do make love to you and keep you abreast with all of the details in their life, then they may be wanting more than sex.

Posted by cappygirl11
I always thought it was all emotional etc when cancerian had sex. But now I wonder about it.

I can't tell if my ex is using me for sex. He says it's hard to be around me and not 'want' me. And then he will bring up some occassion when we did sleep together and remind me how good it was.

But he also calls me lately. And asked how I am, etc.

And on the rare occasions when the sex did happen...He was all cuddly and huggy after.

Am I been used?

Close your legs and find out!

Posted by aquavita
I m sitting with my legs tightly crossed Lunar Maiden for the only reason. I may explode otherwise or suckvaccum the surroundings I feel as if I am a victim yes a victim!!! oh what a victim ... need focus now focus focus focus.... gotgta work . hmmmmmmmmm shame on you, Cancerians!

~slowly and cautiously hides coffee pot....~

Lol, you guys are funny. Aquavita, you're not a victim! You knew what you were getting into the moment you looked into that cancers mans huge dowey eyes with the goo goi gaga baby look! LOL. Cancer sex is truly amazing though, everyone should try it at least once. But with a cancer? Sex or companionship? I think they're good for both. Why not?

Ok....yes agreed sex with a cancer is fantastic.
And i consented..hoping he would developed feeling etc but I understood it wasn't necessarily going to lead anywhere.

But he went from ignoring texts to replying to them and trying to make conversation.
From saying never call him and ignoring calls to sometimes calling me and answering my calls.
From telling me nothing to sharing snip bits bout his life.
And well telling me when our song was on the radio....then saying I f...ed up so it can't be out song anymore.


So my question....am I been used and these are not signs of something more?

And yes closing my legs are an option....but cancers aren't the most talkative happy folk when they sulk and they sulk for 2 long....I'm impatient.

So we'll sex seemed to get him to poke his head out from its shell (pardon the pun)

LOL HA!!! Cancers can bond through sex, but that's still not enough information or reason to conclude that he isn't using you for sex. It sounds like he's opening up a bit more, but you may need more time to see where this goes with him. When he calls you, what does he talk to you about? Does he ask about your well being or personal life? Or is it him only telling you about his well being or personal life? Both?

Both actually

My Cancer ex and I text each other from time to time. A few weeks ago he sexted me. Then I texted him and said hello.. it took him 11 days for him to respond. I did not respond.
Other day he texts me we chat about normal stuff.. How are you?, What have you been up to?, Then he says how is your love life?
I responded with No love life, just doing my own thing these days, leading a simple life. Which really is the truth. He said he found that hard to believe.
You ignore me, now you want to know about my love life. We only broke up two months ago when he had to move for his Mother.
I might get whip-lash from his mood swings.