do cancers change?

the cancer man i know has a serial dating pattern, lasts a few months before he finds all the reasons it wont work. i was sort of the first break in that pattern, and while i know he's in love with me, he won't stay.

will this ever change? and as far as bad pasts, or previous hurts, can cancers ever let that go? is there any way to reach out and help if bad pasts is something that plagues a cancer's relationships?

oh lawd.
dont waste your time
those the bad cancers.
and they wont change until like cutegem said he finds a girl he finds perfect in everyway...
which is usually his mom.. 30 yrs prior.
cancers are broken

your favorite movie is anchorman, isnt it grumpy

yeah but, if it's not a mom issue in that sense? he can't stand his mother. or really his family. not a good past like i said. and it was never that he didnt think i was good enough, he's always telling me i'm too good for him, and simply says we won't work. and we tried.

the thing is he was always running away if we ever fought, even about stupid meaningless stuff.

thanks for the input cancersunpiscesmoon... i fully agree with you. and the first time he ever broke up with me i was beyond heartbroken but did not contact him again as i felt it was rude and degrading to myself to try to be with someone who didnt want to be together.

but this is his pattern. he will date me telling me how crazy he is about me and in love, and then do a complete 180 and disappear, only to show back up again saying he made a mistake and can't stop thinking about me and wants to try again. I am pretty fed up, but still completely in love with him. I've asked him even to leave me alone. but still he will text. asking to talk, or meaningless stuff. even if i ignore it.

it seems you may have some insight? i'd appreciate any ideas...

It all depends on his age, maturity and willingness to grow. On some fundamental level I don't believe that we do change. But the way we handle conflict & challenges can definitely change. World view is a lot harder to change.

If he's under 40, you might have a shot at working this out together. If he's over 40 and has never been married and only has "serial dating" experiences then he sounds like a hard core commitment phobe and they are the toughest nuts to crack. You're on the wild ride with them but it always seems to end in tears. If that last sentence describes your rela with him, you need to run for the hills. These kind of men will crush your self-esteem and make you wonder what you did wrong.

Sure we change. Our clothes get stinky too...