Do Cancers think their a burden to Love ones?

Posted by CLASSifiedPisces


He always say" I was wondering what was up with you, I was gonna get intouch but I hate to bother you knowing your busy with school". BUT I HATE THAT! Sometimes I wish he would go the extra mile to just do that it would mean alot! School is overwhelming at times and I need the support, then the insecure part of me thinks he doesn't care. AM I being self - centered? and DO you guys always feel you're a burden to your love ones?

I would answer yes, in general Cancers don't like to 'bother' people... that whole fear of rejection thing. This can be a problem between Pisces and Cancer because they both like to take care of themselves. Asking for help and support is very hard for me personally. I expect the other person to understand that is what I need and if they don't then I feel like they don't care. Similar, no? 🙂

I don't think you're being self-centered, but one of you will have to be the brave one and let the other know how you feel... sounds like it might have to be you. If he reached out to you last month, chances are he thinks the ball is now in your court and if you wanted to talk to him, YOU would make the effort.

My love interest is a Pisces and it took a while to work this out. I need a lot of alone time, more so than him I've discovered so I have to make the effort to reach out to him more. Funny thing is... he often doesn't reply! It did confuse me at first but it works now because I reach out to let him know I'm thinking about him (he needs the reassurance that I care)... he doesn't reply because he knows I need my own space and when I want to see him, I let him know or just show up.

A month without contact, even for good friends is not a long time for me. I feel whoever needs more space should be the one making contact but don't be afraid to call because I bet he'd be touched and happy to hear from you. Then let him know next time is his turn. 🙂

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Posted by shellshocker
I need a lot of alone time, more so than him I've discovered so I have to make the effort to reach out to him more. Funny thing is... he often doesn't reply! It did confuse me at first but it works now because I reach out to let him know I'm thinking about him (he needs the reassurance that I care)...

Yes I've noticed the Cancers at first can be clingy but then that subsides but for a Pisces it comes in waves and stays throughout the relationship I think...hence the reassurance ....one moment we are fine then the next we have these thoughts and we observe very closely for any change in behaviours of the other person...and if we sense something different the reassurance needs come forth...usually these observations are through intuition...and we just can feel something off but it doesn't need to be anything about us...maybe the other is having a moody day but that intuition still senses that change in the mood and that is completely without being in their presence...my Pisces guy is the same way...he will question if I like him still ...and so forth...

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hmmm... good to know. thanks pp!

^^ Also, have you done a synastry report with your Pisces guy?

The Pisces has Venus conjunct Saturn natally and we have Venus square Saturn in Synastry... That's a tricky aspect, so there is no way he would come out and ask me if I still like him but I often see and sense the doubt.

I've heard, "what if it's too good to be true" tho. I said, "what if it isn't?" haha!... so cancer

Not at all. My parents are so lucky to have had me 🙂

This was my original post:::


I have 3 bestfriends:
2 are cancers
and a sag.

If its one thing my 2 cancers bestfriends have in common. "they dissappear" when things get tough to try to figure things out. I do too . IM a Pisces! Only difference is I let friends and family know unless your the cause of my hurt, then we dont have butter to talk aboutlol. Im gone NO notice! My best friends dissappear and when we talk it feels like they never left, but everytime I ask them where they been they say you've been working so hard amd I didnt want to bother you-__-!

Im a serious ambitious college student. Im a college student trying to graduate a semester early. I work full time , school full time. and an intern .

I have a love interest who is also a close male friend of mine. He reached out to me last month but after I havent heard from him. Every time I get in touch with him. He always say" I was wondering what was up with you, I was gonna get intouch but I hate to bother you knowing your busy with school". BUT I HATE THAT! Sometimes I wish he would go the extra mile to just do that it would mean alot! School is overwhelming at times and I need the support, then the insecure part of me thinks he doesn't care. AM I being self - centered? and DO you guys always feel you're a burden to your love ones?

I can not speak for other cancers. I feel like I am a burden to people in general. I am intense, intimidating, and I over worry. So I stay in my own little shell and do my own little thing. I also think that I am hard to love, so that goes with the difficult section. I know I am a burden and therefor I try not to be one.