Doe scorpio male truly not care I ended things?

I'm a Cancer woman.

I had been seeing a Scorpio man for about 4 months and the connection was great. I felt so comfortable around him and when we're together (or even in a group) he'd always stare and be affectionate. He told his friends several times (and twice to me) that he may end up dating me. However, he still said he wanted things to remain casual. I agreed to this because I felt that he just needed time/space even though I already told him how I felt about him (not a pleasant conversation).

I liked him enough to be patient and when I made this decision it was under the impression that I was the only girl because he did a good job of making me feel that way (even met his mom several times, which he admitted he doesn't do with just any girl. However, I now realize each time was after an argument so my Scorpio friend said he may not have had genuine intentions introducing me but instead was trying to manipulate me into feeling "special")

Fast forward, I recently found out he was sleeping with another girl so I ended things but did not use that as the reason. Instead, I told him that I couldn't keep things casual or I would get hurt. His response "okay I understand". That's it. Did he care about me at all or was he playing me the whole time? I'd be very surprised if he shares a similar connection with this other girl, but he seemed to so easily be willing to drop me.

I heard scorpios like to hide their feelings but I was hoping he'd realize he didn't want to lose me and dump the other girl. Does he need time to realize that or does he already think I'm old news?

I know Scorpios also like attention. I always made him feel special and cared for. He frequently commented on how happy it made him that I took such good care of him. Do scorpios just take advantage of Cancer's nurturing nature or did he truly value that in our relationship?

I should also add that he recently thought I was seeing someone else (because he saw me out w a male friend) and would joke around about it - I always thought he used the playfulness to mask his true emotions. I told him I wan't seeing someone else, but the jokes about "other guys" persisted. Was he just projecting since he was seeing other girls? Perhaps felt guilty about it? Or did he care when he thought there may be someone else in my life?

I really want this Scorpio male, but I need to know if it's worth giving space and trying to start things up again. If he will even want to, or if he played

I'm confused. If you were seeing him, weren't you dating him? Or were you just friends who flirted and you were waiting for it to get to the next level?

He sounds like an ass who even admittedly used you to make nice with his mother. Ew and ew.

frabel17,

If he is sleeping another woman I don't suggest you to chase after him - He is a Scorpio. Scorpio male don't like to be chase.
You did the right thing to put an end of whatever you both had. A Scorpio man in love will not betray your trust.
You will be fine soon. Be strong.

If you want him back regardless of what he did.. Ignore him a lot and works for your own progress. Be sexy. Enjoy with friends.
Don't send him any msg. Manage your finances . Scorpio attracted to a Strong woman. Strength and power.

Your ego is bruised.
You dropped him, he didn't come running for you.

Remember he is screwing another girl.
The likelihood of him chasing you is close to nil; unless she dumps him too.
You were strong enough to end it, be strong enough to keep walking.

He said he wanted casual, you gave him casual. Own it. Your decision.
No one can force you to enter into an FWB. You chose it.
The other girl is irrelevant because you never formed an agreement to be exclusive.
He was never your boyfriend. You were in a FWB.

You are an adult, I hope. Just how old are you two?
Say what you mean and mean what you say.

The moment he told you he wanted casual; if it wasn't what you wanted you should have bailed and or started dating other guys while sexing it with him too and all the while finding the guy who will give you the commitment you want.
Until you and a guy agree to be exclusively committed; you are free to see other people.

He's not the bad guy, just doing what guys do.
Screwing multiple women when given the opportunity.

You are free of him now with no fight nor mind games.
Next time a guy tells you his terms be honest with yourself and him about what you want.
That's the only way you will get what you want. If he can't meet your terms, cancel him.

This is what I like about my dealings with Scorpio males.
Thus far they are usually gentlemen and when we part ways there is no attempt from them to hurt me, seek revenge nor tell me he wishes my house burns down with me and my cat in it. Yet.

But I digress.

Posted by GalOnTheCusp
I'm confused. If you were seeing him, weren't you dating him? Or were you just friends who flirted and you were waiting for it to get to the next level?

He sounds like an ass who even admittedly used you to make nice with his mother. Ew and ew.

We were "dating" in the sense that we saw each other often, met each other's friends/family, and supported each other. But we weren't exclusive.

Posted by BlackMamba
You're an idiot. What's worse is that you're trying to reason why he's just not that into you. Wtf.

He joked about other guys cause he wasn't into you. Scorpio men aren't Virgos OK. They can be manipulative but they're not indecisive. They know what they want. They also don't joke about other men if they're into you. There better not be another man is their motto.

I have to agree with this. Me and my guy have been together for four months and while his dedication has been "questionable", the more I've commented on it and made it clear that I'm willing to walk away, the tighter he's held on. When he makes reference to another man, his response is a knee jerking, "he better not be..." blah blah blah....whatever, whatever, whatever. He never makes jokes in reference to me being with another man in a light manner. Once while I was with an Uber driver who started asking very invasive questions...our call was disconnected. I texted him with "Uber driver seems like a creeper, please call me back ASAP". He called immediately and exploded into "that mutherfucker better not even THINK about it. Where are you?" The Uber driver heard him through the handset and shut up. He'd started making comments about how good I look and smell, but it wasn't in a normal way. I've had male Uber drivers comment on how good I smell before...but it was lighthearted. This guy sounded...weird.

Oops...so sorry. I do NOT agree with the "you're an idiot" part of that comment. Please excuse that over sight. I woke up not too long ago and am still working my way out of the bed. Body pains...it takes me a good hour to get things moving at a tolerable pain level. You're not an idiot.

Posted by frabel7131

Posted by GalOnTheCusp
I'm confused. If you were seeing him, weren't you dating him? Or were you just friends who flirted and you were waiting for it to get to the next level?

He sounds like an ass who even admittedly used you to make nice with his mother. Ew and ew.

We were "dating" in the sense that we saw each other often, met each other's friends/family, and supported each other. But we weren't exclusive.

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I wouldn't take it that far in a casual situation. Not ever. I'm also VERY supportive, but it has to be exclusive. Casual guys, get casual interactions from me. Period. No support and mingling with the family. Oh hell no. Casuals don't even get to meet my friends. What if they hit off with a particular friend? Then I might be forced to see him from time to time. I barely give guys I'm casual with my time. Hell no....too much invested in something undefined. That's like putting your money in a bank with no name on it and location unknown.

Question: Where do you bank?
Answer: Uhhhhh, it doesn't have a name.
Question: Well where is your money going?
Answer: I don't really know.

Smh

I should clarify the "joking" about other guys. I may have given the impression that he was light with it, but he wasn't. He did it quite often recently (like the past couple of weeks only and especially when I got too busy to respond to texts/calls right away) but his tone of voice was NOT light. It sounded more like he wanted to hide his true jealous because we're "casual" so he had no grounds to be jealous. Does that make sense?

It also seemed more like he was trying to gauge my reaction to his comments about guys. Double standard I'm realizing now

I guess for me I took it as a means of interrogation/validation without being aggressive considering the "casual" aspect. So I interpret that as jealousy.

I've fallen victim to getting validation that way in the past because it's allowed me to keep my guard up - I care, but act like I don't.

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Posted by frabel7131
I should clarify the "joking" about other guys. I may have given the impression that he was light with it, but he wasn't. He did it quite often recently (like the past couple of weeks only and especially when I got too busy to respond to texts/calls right away) but his tone of voice was NOT light. It sounded more like he wanted to hide his true jealous because we're "casual" so he had no grounds to be jealous. Does that make sense?

It also seemed more like he was trying to gauge my reaction to his comments about guys. Double standard I'm realizing now

I think he was just in tone with what you wanted to hear, never saying anything out loud and clear, and just letting you assume, what would fitt you.

Let this be a lesson for you, and next time you see a guy, and he starts to make comments about other guys, you ask him directly: are we seing other people?!
Men are not women, and many of them know just what to say and how to act, to have ten girls on their dick. It´s so easy, because we have a tendency to think, that they are somehow scared and hide their true feelings. That´s rarely the case though. As a woman in this modern day and age, you just have to be more upfront.

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I agree 100%