need to cheer my cancer girl up

kind of pointless coming here for that although i dont know how to
im being sensitive and giving hope
but the phase she is going through is really tough
and i know it is WAY tough and might get more
she is giving up already and i cant see her down like that
PS- im a sagi and its work related which keeps her way busy and stuff

Aww Sags are the best. I recommend making her laugh whenever you can. 🙂

Dont talk. Just listen and hold her. Maybe take her for a walk. Sweet loving does it

yea i would love to listen or talk or go for walk whatever,
but just so busy and its taking lot from her
she is giving up and doesnt think talking is a solution here

ps- she means a lot to me and i cant keep my head out of it (aint able to focus)
and when i overthink i mess up
so yea.. help 😛

wait a sec, so youre the problem?

how long have you been with her?

Posted by notafollower
wait a sec, so youre the problem?

lmao what?
how the hell im the problem?
we dont work together if you think thats what i meant
anyways lol its been over a year

Posted by MagicPowas
When cancer women get to the point of no talking you know it's bad. But you'll be surprised what art therapy can do for these little buggers. If she doesn't want to talk that means she's going inward and is fed up with the outward. Learn to follow her flow, go inward with her (she'll love you for it)......

thats a problem then, well ivent been able to find that (another) inward way.. although its the words that goes through her
now finding and saying the right words, when the person doesnt feel like talking and prefers silence?
get me?

lmao. chill, dont get so deffensive, what i meant its that youre causing the problem innit?
If the problem is there cause you dont have time for her... eehhh complicated situation here. We get tired, cause were the typical dont tell me you love me show me. And if we dont have you close to hold us when were feeling like shit or look us deep in the eyes without saying a word to let us know that youre there for us... bad thing. If you want to be w her youre gonna have to try and make time for her or shell just move on. And when a cancer truly moves on, theres no turning back. I guess thats cause were constantly excusing people when we think theyre worth it , but once we give up on focusing on the postive, usually all the bad slaps us and its like, tf did i see in this person type of thing

Posted by notafollower
lmao. chill, dont get so deffensive, what i meant its that youre causing the problem innit?
If the problem is there cause you dont have time for her... eehhh complicated situation here. We get tired, cause were the typical dont tell me you love me show me. And if we dont have you close to hold us when were feeling like shit or look us deep in the eyes without saying a word to let us know that youre there for us... bad thing. If you want to be w her youre gonna have to try and make time for her or shell just move on. And when a cancer truly moves on, theres no turning back. I guess thats cause were constantly excusing people when we think theyre worth it , but once we give up on focusing on the postive, usually all the bad slaps us and its like, tf did i see in this person type of thing

uhhh well i guess i typed it wrong up there i dont know?
but i meant SHE IS BUSY
not me.. im patiently waiting for her
waiting and waiting
and idek why im, maybe i do
she doesnt have time
the moment she gets free, shes drained out and falls asleep

Well excuse me. I understood wrong. ok complete diff situation then.All i can say is that youre gonna have to be VERY patient, dont bug her and stuff & the outcome will be more than worth it. The relationship will come out stronger cause shell feel youre there for her when shes down ( which is a major pilar for us to build a long lasting relationship) and not only that but shell stay loyal. (that dosent mean well let you take us for granted). lol but yeah after the storm will come the rainbow and its going to be one hell of a rainbow thatll make you fall even harder for her. guaranteed. Just stay patient till the end of it all

Posted by MagicPowas
Oh! I see. She's not that damn busy. This is when you have to knock her upside her head and be a little forceful to get passed that brick wall. Contact her and tell her you're stopping by to show her something real quick and don't take no for an answer. Don't ask, tell. When you go, bring food. And ice cream.

i read what you said before and what you did now
no wonder why you kept that as your name lol
pretty convincing tactic
guess i might just pull that one soon enough this week

Posted by notafollower
Well excuse me. I understood wrong. ok complete diff situation then.All i can say is that youre gonna have to be VERY patient, dont bug her and stuff & the outcome will be more than worth it..... Just stay patient till the end of it all

excused lol anyways, im trying that.. alot trust me
just sometimes feels like even being so close we are too distant when im patient, such is our communication
and thats when my head gets the best of me
(typical sag) getting jealous, making up randomest stuff in the head, doubting it will work like this n all
i just miss her and thing is i dont wanna see her down thats it

ummmm. not really. Me as a cancer girl id hate that. Esp if i dont live w you , cause i like to look my best for my partner, and him just pulling over without even telling me while im under stress (situation in which i just like to be left alone w my thoughts and everything else irritates me) would kinda piss me off. and itll end up setting your mood off aswell. cause it wont be the expected reaction

Posted by notafollower
ummmm. not really. Me as a cancer girl id hate that. Esp if i dont live w you , cause i like to look my best for my partner, and him just pulling over without even telling me while im under stress (situation in which i just like to be left alone w my thoughts and everything else irritates me) would kinda piss me off. and itll end up setting your mood off aswell. cause it wont be the expected reaction

talking about the advice up there from magic^^

so... if im to take some action on this
by all of your great helpful answers
i can then...
tell her hours or a day before that its a done deal and im coming
then just go with ice cream lol and sit there, hold her and just listen even when she doesnt feel much like talking..

hmm might work? what you guys think?

yeah. let her know before, and idk take her out for a walk somewhere quiet to a park or the beach maybe and let her sit on your lap or hold her from behind in a way that she feels you but dosent have to respond to body language or anything and she can just look at the sky maybe and feel the air and simply say "this had been a difficult situation for the both of us and thats why im here, to let you know that that i have your back through it" . shell appreciate it immensely.

Sometimes I don't want to talk to anyone. I just need to recharge. People are energy sucking psychos. Let the girl recharge.