Don't screw with a Cancer man

As some of you probably know the mess I'm in not really a position I want to be in but I can't help it that a Scorpio wants to keep trying to take a shot at my shell she won't go away like she threatens to she keep coming back like she wants a taste of crab meat. It ends up creating a bunch of butter because I seem to tree trunk her emotions. This happens over and over, the problem it is turning her relationship with her BF toxic I'm seeing the effects on her BF. Our last round of this of her trying to get close then scared, creating drama and butter really taking a hit to her BF.

Scorpios are not easy to handle he's not a strong man he's way too easy going, he's a people pleaser he hates conflict he does everything in his power to please her. I look at him and I'm thinking to myself why are you still with her, no I'm not trying to steal her away from him. He's damaging himself mentally and physically it looks like he's been through the wringer way too many times. I've read about guys staying in un-healthy relationships he's one of them. He is a Gemini man, he doesn't stand up to her, I stand up to her its why the butter happens I put my foot down.

She wants something from me that she isn't getting from him I think its the fact I understand her and he doesn't. Her and I had an instant bond when we met as we got to know each other the bond grew stronger then I tried to cut that bond off. I know she is really intense, I really wonder how the Gem guy can handle her.

The Scorp girl isn't my only female friend I have a few female friends and they are all close to me I just seem to attract female friends I have to watch what I say or do. This Scorpio won't leave me alone her emotions get all mixed up she's confused or what ever, she keeps coming back to me no matter how bad things get she's knocking on my shell again trying to get my attention. I've about had enough of it but I can't do anything if I try be mean to her then the whole ball of butter happens over again.

It sucks being a Cancer man at times women cling to you like butter to a blanket, ya we are charming and understanding but we are still men. I haven't figured out a way of getting a Scorpio out of my life without butter and drama happening. Women have to realize you start screwing with a Cancer man we can and will hurt feelings and break hearts sometimes we won't have remorse doing it we will just do it.

can you give examples of your conversations ? what do you guys talk about ? is she complaining about her boyfriend ? do you guys hang out together outside of work ? For how long have you known each each other ?

Cancer men are awesome, they are very kind to women. And as a scorpio woman myself, I feel very safe with my cancer male friends, I have dated cancers in the past too.

There is nothing wrong with having a lot of female friends. But I hope you know the difference between friendship and flirting 🙂

I don't think she's into you romantically. She probably loves to hate you and genuinely loves her bf and treats him way differently than she treats you. I don't think she's chasing you. Maybe at one time she liked you but figured your too unstable for her and stayed with her bf. sometimes powerful sttrooong women don't need someone else who is just as strong and powerful-cuz I'll you'll get is competition. The bf probably appeals to her softer side and brings something out in her that you can't. Plus if you're the type of guy to have mostly female friends then she probably thought you were either gay, insecure and codependent loner, or a insecure and codependent player. So of course she will pick the other guy.

The Scorp girl isn't happy in her relationship its turned toxic, if the relationship wasn't toxic her BF would look the same as he did when I met the man long before she even knew him. This guy was the life of the party he would make us all laugh he was fun to be around. He met her couple years ago I knew her before he did I wasn't in a good space or place she wanted to be in a relationship she was on the rebound. Her BF today isn't healthy if he was truly happy he would be still the same guy I've known for years he looks un-happy. Happy couples look happy I know many happy couples they smile and they both look healthy.

She says I intimidate her she's told me that when she's around me she trembles, she doesn't make any effort to avoid me when we see each other she gets close to me. She always looks me directly in the eyes and smiles she doesn't stop smiling around me most of the time. She is nervous she starts giggling and acting like a shy girl. We have space we see each other she starts acting like we did when we first met. This has happened so many times it is predictable she never stays angry with me.

I have an idea she's insecure or has insecurity issues just like her BF who is very insecure. She sees the girls I attract and she feels she isn't good enough for me. She is a pretty girl I've told her that many times. She's wanted me to say she was prettier than the other girl she seen me talking to.

I've read what happens when two insecure people date it doesn't work, he's been insecure the day I met him, she covers up her insecurity but I know now she is insecure. Her need for control is very strong she is scared of letting go of control. What I know about her previous history I know she is the toxic one she has red flags.

Having toxic people in my life isn't part of my agenda I think she could be an happy person if she was with the right person. Her dating an insecure man isn't a good match, its turned into a codepency relationship. I don't want to be around with the relationship implodes I don't need that in my life.

I have a healthy happy life, when I met her I was miserable like her life wasn't going so well I changed that around I've always been a happy person I got myself into a slump I pulled out of that I feel great again.

It is tough getting a Scorpio out of your life, I seen her a little while ago the same feelings appeared between us like the day we met there is that damn bond that won't go away.

Son of a bitch swimming in butter again she's angry causing tree trunking drama in my life again tree trunking h*ll. I got to get her out of my life.

Stilh - all the above statements seem based on presumption. Only what you think. Instead of assuming check out the facts! Just like most guys you consider yourself as a 'catch' but she may be either pitying you or it could be that she finds a good connection with you. Thats it! Stop reading into this with a microscope!
And i disagree with caster - disappearing is disrespectful! Grow a pair and communicate. It may all be in your head!