Don't want to ask, but could use opinions.

Hey guys. I had this Cancer guy tell me back in May that he couldn't talk to me - he was going away for an extended work trip. I mean, wouldn't/couldn't contact me any more because I was still getting out of my old relationship. But then I was on vacation where he was working and he started texting me. Just as though nothing had happened; okay, fine, friend-level is okay because he's really smart and interesting and we have a lot of the same interests. So two months of texting and Snapchats. I asked him if he was comfortable with this and of course that was the last time I talked to him. Then he posted some private jokes of ours to FB (his friends were like, uh, what is this? And he just ignored them.) Then if I would send him a text asking how work was, or how he was, the next thing I knew he'd post a Snapchat story basically showing me what he was doing. But only then; no other times ever.

So... this is kind of exhausting. We're way too old for this. He hasn't had a girlfriend in five years and if this is how he always acts, I can kind of see why. I completely do my own thing and I'm not sitting here waiting for him, but If I don't tell him expressly to leave me alone, it's just open for him to contact me whenever he feels like it. November will be nine months since we started our "kind of" thing. I felt that we had a very strong connection, and so did he. But I think it's played out, clearly.

Posted by GalOnTheCusp
Hey guys. I had this Cancer guy tell me back in May that he couldn't talk to me - he was going away for an extended work trip. I mean, wouldn't/couldn't contact me any more because I was still getting out of my old relationship. But then I was on vacation where he was working and he started texting me. Just as though nothing had happened; okay, fine, friend-level is okay because he's really smart and interesting and we have a lot of the same interests. So two months of texting and Snapchats. I asked him if he was comfortable with this and of course that was the last time I talked to him. Then he posted some private jokes of ours to FB (his friends were like, uh, what is this? And he just ignored them.) Then if I would send him a text asking how work was, or how he was, the next thing I knew he'd post a Snapchat story basically showing me what he was doing. But only then; no other times ever.

So... this is kind of exhausting. We're way too old for this. He hasn't had a girlfriend in five years and if this is how he always acts, I can kind of see why. I completely do my own thing and I'm not sitting here waiting for him, but If I don't tell him expressly to leave me alone, it's just open for him to contact me whenever he feels like it. November will be nine months since we started our "kind of" thing. I felt that we had a very strong connection, and so did he. But I think it's played out, clearly.

I think you should tell him exactly this and block his ass forever. He evidently is very immature and likes to play mind games. He definitely is single for a reason. Why would you want to be with someone like that? Ain't nobody got time for that.

I guess I thought maybe he was afraid I'd reject him, or tell him I was still in my relationship, or whatever... he's SO guarded and insecure.

Oh well. I'm going to see him again through work in February, the exact same weekend this year that this whole thing started.

I had fleeting thoughts that we actually might have been together before then but I'll just have to deal with the awkwardness.

Some of my friends said blocking him is too harsh, but honestly, seeing him on FB and Insta... it's too much. He's so cute that my heart melts when it's a pic of him, and when he posts something out of the blue that I know means he's thinking about me, it just kind of makes me take two steps back in my progress.

First and last Cancer for this girl, that much I know.

@kodak375 I would love your advice here...