Driving me CRAZY!!

Hey!
Ok, so here's my story....VERY brief summary!

I had been with my Cancer man for 7.5 years. He's from another country, after we had been together for 2.5 years, I met his mom, after 5 yrs, he took me home with him & I met his father & the rest of his family. His mom was actually planning our wedding. And then....it ended. He used a bs excuse, but I think it was because his mom was pressuring him to marry me. So, we've never really been...out of contact. We have dinner sometimes recently, he's been a little more flirty. We were both at a function for a mutual friend. I was sitting at a table, obviously i wanted x to sit with me, but I knew he'd sit with "the crew" (his boys) BUT he came in, sat down right next to me & stayed there the entire time. He got up to talk to a few people, but for the most part he stayed beside me. We talked the whole time, afterwards, my best friend told me a few people had asked her if we were back together. After the function, the flirting increased, we were texting each other or emailing almost everyday, it was nice. And then, I messed up. LOL Well, I attempted a nice gesture, I went to his house, unannounced, with food, cheesecake & his fave beer. He was pissed. Mostly because I had just shown up. But the reason he was pissed was because he likes to be in power, likes to have the upper hand, & by showing up like that, I threw him off & he didn't know how to react.
We've been apart for almost 4 years, but it seems like he is showing interest again. I'm wondering if he's getting closer to wanting to settle down & maybe wants to do that with me. BUT I'm not sure.
What do ya'll think? Also, I haven't heard from him since this episode which was....almost 2 wks ago. He's in the middle of a disappearing act. Usually, when he decides to speak to me again, he'll text or email me something very insignificant, but by him doing that, he knows, that I know, we're cool. LOL

I think you turned him off with the popping up. I would advide against that. Give him time to see you differently. Do not act desperate to contact him and fix things. Lay low. And trust me, if he likes you, he will for sure contact you. My 2 cents

thanks! Ya, my problem is, I'm ridiculously impatient! LOL I agree it pissed him off & now he needs time....I'm just SO afraid he won't come back you know. I mean...I was supposed to marry this man, it wasn't just some...casual thing. Now, I feel like I'm about to lose him forever...

Thanks for the advice though!

I'm curious... are you a Virgo?

Libra ; )

Hmm, Libra and Cancer will be difficult.