FWB setup between Cancer and Scorpio

I'm a Scorpio Girl (11/10) who is currently seeing a Cancer Guy (07/06).

We met through Craigslist and to be honest, I was just looking for a FWB setup but I immediately felt the connection from the first time we met and everything just felt different. we listen to the same kinds of music, have the same brand of humor and so on. Everything just felt right about this guy.

Earlier, we had "the talk". He mentioned that he's just here for the companionship and sexual ties, and he is not currently ready for a "normal" relationship just yet. He mentioned how busy his schedule was and how it will be hard to squeeze a girlfriend in between hours but he mentioned that he'll be ready in a couple of years. He also said that if I'm not comfortable pursuing the status quo, or if I feel like I want to be more than FWBs, I should tell him because he would then stop seeing me because he's not the type to lead anyone to false hopes. I told him about feeling the connection between us and he told me that he felt the same way. He then assured me that there's nothing wrong with me. It's just what he wants right now. There's also this premise that we would stop seeing each other if and when we find another person interesting enough for us to pursue a normal relationship with.

I've had a FWB before situation before but didn't gave a rat's ass about him. I guess this is the connection between Scorpios and Cancers.

Question: Should I pursue this guy? Is he being all protective of his feelings like a true cancer or should I move on altogether? Is this a test or something? Looking forward to your insights. Thank you everyone!

Posted by djbuck1
You have your answer in what he is telling you. To his credit, he is being honest. Listen to what he is saying. He wants FWB and that is ALL. Disregard at your peril.

I appreciate your reply. Will consider ending this the soonest. It will be hard on my part but it has to be done.

Question: Should I pursue this guy? Is he being all protective of his feelings like a true cancer or should I move on altogether? Is this a test or something? Looking forward to your insights. Thank you everyone!

Why are you asking such questions scorp, when clearly you are looking down the double barrel into a FWB situation and not a relationship. 'Chemistry' does not equate to feelings or 'love' for that matter, please take a step back and see this objectively. You should not develop any complex emotions in such an agreement, if you do, for your own sake, walk away slowly, know your own capabilities or else you would be willingly slathering shit (for a lack of a better word) all over yourself. Regain your wits, chemistry is part lust, keep that in mind.

Believe the man when he tells you he only wants a FWB, women really need to learn this, men means what they say, do not go changing it around, listen and believe him! Otherwise, you'd be messing around with your own head and heart over nothing, absolutely nothing.

Take Care, heed the cautions signs, if not then the Best of Luck to you...a very bumpy hell hole of a ride awaits

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Question: Should I pursue this guy? Is he being all protective of his feelings like a true cancer or should I move on altogether? Is this a test or something? Looking forward to your insights. Thank you everyone!

Take Care, heed the cautions signs, if not then the Best of Luck to you...a very bumpy hell hole of a ride awaits

I guess I'm just stupid enough to hope that if I stick around longer and try to understand his situation, he'll eventually fall for me too. I know, that's utterly brainless of me. Thank you for your help, TheLadyScorpio!

Posted by 1988scorp

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Question: Should I pursue this guy? Is he being all protective of his feelings like a true cancer or should I move on altogether? Is this a test or something? Looking forward to your insights. Thank you everyone!

Take Care, heed the cautions signs, if not then the Best of Luck to you...a very bumpy hell hole of a ride awaits

I guess I'm just stupid enough to hope that if I stick around longer and try to understand his situation, he'll eventually fall for me too. I know, that's utterly brainless of me. Thank you for your help, TheLadyScorpio!

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Remember you can not change others, you cannot 'make' a man want a relationship, you cannot 'make' a man develop more complex feelings, you cannot 'make' a man see you as a more than FWB. Never think of changing a man, only he can change himself and only if he chooses to. Find your own understanding and never try to comprehend something out of your own boundaries and grasps, you are you and he is he, it is a unnecessary waste of time and energy, be concise in how you use it on more worthwhile causes.

Remember, FWB never consist of feelings, it consist of sex, unattached.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Real talk!

Haha Sir Bling, you always seem to pop around at the most random of times, meerkat much?

Posted by MidniteStar

Posted by 1988scorp

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Question: Should I pursue this guy? Is he being all protective of his feelings like a true cancer or should I move on altogether? Is this a test or something? Looking forward to your insights. Thank you everyone!

Take Care, heed the cautions signs, if not then the Best of Luck to you...a very bumpy hell hole of a ride awaits

I guess I'm just stupid enough to hope that if I stick around longer and try to understand his situation, he'll eventually fall for me too. I know, that's utterly brainless of me. Thank you for your help, TheLadyScorpio!

I did this for 2 years hoping he'd come around and want something more with me. He gave me the excuses too that he was too busy with work right now for a relationship etc. Next thing I know, he completely disappears on me...found this new girl which he's now married to. I felt stupid and worthless....like why wasn't I good enough?

Bottom line is, if they want you badly enough, they will make time for you. Don't pursue this unless a fwb is all you are wanting out of this.

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Aww Midnite, come here (hug)...all the incredibly stupid mistakes we make when we are younger, at least you learned a very valuable lesson, and had your wits about to be able to look back on it objectively enough, that is what experience is for! As for douch-bags, karma will bite them in the arse in the future, meanwhile wish them all the best, after all a well meaning heart is the best one that one could carry 🙂

Never feel stupid nor worthless, I did some very very very idiotic things myself when blinded by 'chemistry' and the likes, but they brought about much needed change in me too, if it were not for those awful men I would not be as wise about my own emotional welfare as I am today, you too. All those things are simply preparing you for the worthwhile man to come into your life, to shape and mold you healthily, so you would be able to handle the right man. The past is needed for us to propel towards a brighter future, for us to shape with wisdom, always!

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...and there comes incandescent, with a bang, Crab- style

Welcome back!

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
...and there comes incandescent, with a bang, Crab- style

Welcome back!

My memory is slipping...have we interacted before on some thread?

Thanks for the welcome 😉

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
...and there comes incandescent, with a bang, Crab- style

Welcome back!

My memory is slipping...have we interacted before on some thread?

Thanks for the welcome 😉

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Ay, your memory isn't slipping, I think the last time when we had interacted was way over a year ago under my former name. But never mind, back then I was more of a lurker on the Cancer board, rather an a poster and besides I have always found your posts interesting, regardless.

Just spreading the love 😉

1988scorp I recommend you friend zone this dude before it starts to feel like the Twilight zone.

Posted by TheLadyScorpio I have always found your posts interesting, regardless.

But naturally 😉

He's being honest with you that he doesn't want a relationship and sun signs isn't gonna change that hon. If you have romantic feelings, and it sounds like you do, run for the hills. This man will just keep you away from finding the love you seek. Sex without love is for the birds. You can do better than that.

yea no dude who ever honestly was attracted to and felt a connection with a girl is to busy for a relationship. If a person sees you as desirable then they will make it happen. I personally dont find overly ambitious people attractive anyway.

Posted by seraph
FWB between Cancer and Scorpio?? Is that even possible?

It's got disaster written all over it.

Sounds about right...disaster that is

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by TheLadyScorpio I have always found your posts interesting, regardless.

But naturally 😉

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There goes a Crab, being all cheeks 😛

Thanks for all the help, everyone!