Good reads/hobbies for this person?

Can anyone please suggest a good book for a young Cancer woman, 18 yrs old maybe. She is pregnant after only having sex maybe once with her friend turned boyfriend who is 21. He is raised by an unstable mother and so shows little respect for her and her mother. She wanted an abortion but did not know she was pregnant until very late, and her mother will not allow it. Her mother says she would rather raise the child herself than see her go to a stranger, so I hope she's not one to take it out on her daughter afterwards.

I feel very personally torn by this as I was once that young, well younger, and pregnant from my first love and from very little experience or information. Scared, but knowing 100% I did not want to bring a baby into the world under such poor circumstances, and that I was not ready.

I actually shared part of my story with her and her mom, they are my neighbors upstairs. But when it came to tell them how I didn't tell my mother and got the court to agree that I was old enough to have the abortion without telling her.... I lied. I told them I lost the baby and left it at that. Even though they aren't pro life or anything, I didn't want to put any ideas in her head that might cause them conflict in the future. I know now that it is arrogant to assume I know what will happen if I say something, but I was so afraid to cause more emotional pain than already there. I still don't know how to deal with it actually, but I feel very sympathetic to both parties, in particular the daughter. I would have been miserable too if I was forced to bear a child when I knew I wasn't ready. Only real difference is she is healthy and could give a healthy baby to another family. I can't even begin to explain my train of thought when it comes to probability but I run numbers in my head a lot...

ANYWAY what would be a good gift for the daughter, and for her Scorpio mother? I would love to find a book or something that can bring them both some comfort, and hopefully closer together.

Posted by MissKrabs

well since she is def gonna have a baby i would try to be positive about the whole thing, i mean you to be positive. it's not the end of the world and everything could be fine at the end. know several cases of young pregnancies that turned out to be just fine, but with the support of a parent which she has. right now they are still in shock, but it will pass.

if you are thinking about books about raising kids, most of them are bs. or you are thinking about something else?

Of course I am being supportive of their decisions. Her mother and I have both pointed out the very good aspects of her life, especially in relation to my own story which is very different. And that's one thing we both stressed to her is how lucky she is to have such a good support system. I congratulated her when she found out it was a girl, but she only said she heard girls are harder. I feel for her but I want to try to cheer her up!! This is what's happening, and it's not all bad and it's certainly not forever type of thing.



Just looking for general suggestions on good reads that can help her along emotionally or spiritually, something she can hold on to. Maybe I'm not explaining myself correctly... Her mother seems to steamroll her emotions a bit, so suggestions for opening both of their perspectives would be optimal.

Posted by 7s

So she can't have the abortion for medical reasons or because of her mom?

I'm not sure which came 1st, the chicken or the egg lol. But really, her mother says she won't allow it, and I guess the doctor said she is too far along by the time she went to the doctor? It's confusing but we know for sure baby girl is coming, grandma wants to keep her, mom doesn't (yet). We keep hoping she will grow a bond, but she's fighting it... or at least her stress is. She's already worried about post partum bc she doesn't want to have a baby right now.

Posted by 7s

Posted by AbbyNormal

Posted by 7s

So she can't have the abortion for medical reasons or because of her mom?

I'm not sure which came 1st, the chicken or the egg lol. But really, her mother says she won't allow it, and I guess the doctor said she is too far along by the time she went to the doctor? It's confusing but we know for sure baby girl is coming, grandma wants to keep her, mom doesn't (yet). We keep hoping she will grow a bond, but she's fighting it... or at least her stress is. She's already worried about post partum bc she doesn't want to have a baby right now.

if she wants an abortion and can get one, she should.

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That ship has sailed or I am inclined to think the same. Now it's about what's best for her, and her baby whether she is with her or not. I just want to try to bring as much positivity to it now. There's no going back, but there's everything in front of her and I hope she sees that her life isn't over.

Posted by Marai

Swimming may help and is good for the baby.

Maybe the movie Juno, could be helpful for all of them to change perspective?

How far along is she?

I'm not sure but I think 6 months? That's a good suggestion thank you!!